The Worth Of A Woman

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  1. “It is also an important achievement that the Buddha grants to women the right to the monastic life and founds an Order of nuns. He reaches this resolution only after long opposition and only at the intercession of his favourite disciple, Ananda. The prerogatives of monks in relation to nuns are fully upheld. According to a rule ascribed to the Buddha, a nun, even if she has been ordained for a hundred years, must salute every monk in the most reverential manner, even if he has only just joined the Order, must remain standing in his presence, raise folded hands and show him due honour.

    To his question why in public life women are not given the same rights as men, Ananda receives from the Master the reply: ” women, Ananda are hot-tempered; women, Ananda, are jealous; women, Ananda, are envious; women, Ananda, are stupid”.

    Another of the Buddha’s sayings is : ” crying is the power of the child; anger is the power of women”, ”
    (‘ Indian thought and its development ‘ by Albert Schweitzer, the Beacon Press, Boston. 1936. Chapter on ‘ the Buddha and His Teachings. Pages 94-95)

    How have these thoughts affected us here in Sri Lanka?

    Dr. Rajasingham Narendran

    Dr.Rajasingham Narendran - March 8, 2013
    1:50 am
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  2. I am not looking at equality, I am merely looking at fairness. So let us define what is fair.

    It is NOT fair that women’s representation in the SL parliament is so low. SO let us take steps to have more women. Let us try to target at least 50 in the next parliament. Not mandating, just put competent women of honor and respectability on the ticket. Not film or TV stars please.

    Similarly instead of having 75% women in the Agricultural faculty at University, reserve it ONLY for people with a clear sense of direction who wish to pursue agriculture as a vocation! male and female. Isnt that fair.

    So let fairness be the determinant. The majority going to law school and medical school accountancy and engineering faculties are all women. Let us then expect them to stay in employment till retirement and rise to the top, instead of 30% dropping off to raise a family and then give up on their career path in the interests of their family.

    Surely the man can make the supreme sacrifice at home!

    It is just something to ponder on so we don’t create mandatory equality, just be more fair, and permit the sexes to pursue their own interests for the good of the nation.

    As for violence against women, just enforce existing laws to the fullest. It will create examples of women beaters, and this will gradually stop. Enforce tightly and DO NOT let offenders off lightly, until their heads have been changed otherwise release them and they will repeat.

    Patta Pal - March 8, 2013
    12:41 pm
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  3. Dr. Ruwantissa Abeyratne: Very interesting heading: “Worth of a Woman” followed by a dictum “None of us equal until all of us equal”.

    So why have a “International Day of Women”? Doesn’t that instantly put the human beings into two camps viz. man and woman? There will necessarily be a day declared “International Day of Men”. Why this division? It is nothing but the way a “cetain class” of human beings perceive and act in all spheres of our day to day activities.

    So I agree with your dictum with a small amendment: “None of us equal until, all of us perceive and act as equal”. Then in my opinion, there will never arise a situation to assess the “Worth of a Woman” and differentiate by gender.

    douglas - March 9, 2013
    7:53 pm
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  4. An enlightened and compassionate article by a most erudite and globally respected Sri Lankan!

    Patta Pal, re your comments – while you convey some progressive thought it is interesting to note the attribution of duality to the concepts of ‘fairness’ and ‘equality’ when you say “so we dont create mandatory equality… just be more fair….” – while they are not the same in meaning, could they be regarded mutually exclusive? I’m not so sure – regardless of context, but particularly so in this context.
    Further, in relation to your comments re women beaters/violence against women, there is ample evidence to suggest that no amount of ‘punishment’ or enforcement of laws change behaviour, be they individual or societal, but only education and progressive invetstment into social change (such as women in leadership roles as referred to by Dr Abeyratne) can effectively change attitudes (ie: challenging of social normes and mores that lead to attitude change may lead to behaviour change!)

    In response to Douglas: you question why advocate for division between men and women, and international women’s day as possibly being divisive and creating the “two camps” mentality – well, this is simialr to questions asked by ‘majority’ or dominant groups of certain countries/societies as to why the ‘special treatment’ for minority or traditionally oppressed or disenfranchised groups (for example, the Australian Aboriginal populations). This type of questioning simply serves to ignore and dismiss the oppression and injustices suffered by such groups (including women) and perhaps perpetuate such attitdues but in different guises. Perhaps you might wish to think of International womens day as somewhat of a ‘claim to independence day’ – not quite an independence day for women. and no, dont think men will ever have the need nor the right for an ‘international men’s day’!

    The feminists still seem to have a long and hard battle ahead!!

    Shanker - March 10, 2013
    1:22 am
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  5. Most of the women I know are working mothers. They are highly accountable and would carry a task through with great commitment. They multi task with children, families and jobs. They settle money to the last cent. They work so hard. Hardl anyone I have worked with has gotton a position or a promotion or entered a profession because of their fahter or husband. Hardly. Most of them are docotrs, lawyers, teachers, accountants or in the private secotr. So they have gotton there throguh academic merit and performance. I mean, they TRY every single day. Even the non working ones are so committed to their children and their families.The women I have met in rural Sri Lanka cannot be praised enough for taking a daily beating from their drunk husbands, yet working in the feilds, the chenas and educating their children No. none of the women in parliament represent anyone of these women. It’s shameful how most have gone in there.Think about each and every one of them. How they have gone there and what they have done afterwards. What difference is there between them- whether they are an actress or a doctro? They are all in one gang singing praises to MR /strengthening his hands/singing songs/ building self image.There is no difference between the ones in govt or opposition.Which part of their shameful existance can be generalized to the real women of Sri Lanka? Real women can’t afford expensive Sri Lankan politics.They cannot afford the mud slinging/ the sexualizing / the character assassination that comes with it. Personally I prefer the one or two acceptable sri lankan male politicinas to the so called female representation.

    Shan - March 11, 2013
    7:12 pm
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  6. My due respects to women.I cannot fathom as to how much Women in America,Europe and some other Scandinavian and Canada etc, are edept to lead their Countries and hold responsible jobs which would in Political. defense and other fields which will shape the destiny of their citizens.
    But, for us asians like,Lankans, Indians, Pakistanis, Philipinoes etc, the period we were led by our Women who headed our nations, is nothing to be proud of.
    Scope for a women is limited in all fields.Her judgement under pressure is questionable and at times chaotic.Most of them are best as Wives,mothers and home makers.The adventurest one always fall by the wayside.

    mohamed fazly ilyas - March 18, 2013
    6:54 pm
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