18 December, 2017

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Some Notes On Gender Segregation Seating

By Imtiyaz Razak – 

Dr.Imtiyaz Razak

Dr.Imtiyaz Razak

As a human being first, and Muslim second, I strictly oppose the segregation of any kind: class, gender, sex, ethnicity, and you name it.  I have been following the recent developments related to segregation of lectures along gender line in the UK.  Accounts suggest that British Universities allow segregation “if the segregation represented the “genuinely held religious beliefs” of the hosts, separate seating could be upheld.”

Whether the decision the university took with regard to segregation is correct, I truly do not know. But I would like to share my experiences in seeing female students class seating both in China and the US, the two big countries where secularism rocks the society, and some notes on women agency and developments.

The classes that I have taught both in China and the US are mostly filled with non-Muslim students and some classes, female students dominate class population.  I found that female students both in male students dominated and female students dominated class rooms, mainly non-Muslim women many times choose not to sit next to male students. They would either prefer to sit behind the row where male-students sit or keep significant distance from male students.   Of course, there are no requests either from schools or from me as far as class seating are concerned. But I often find female students tend to sit separately from male students.

The training course at Leicester University (left), featuring guest speaker Saleem Chagtai (right), was held by the same Islamic society which put up a sign separating women and men at a public lecture / Photo Daily Mail UK

The training course at Leicester University (left), featuring guest speaker Saleem Chagtai (right), was held by the same Islamic society which put up a sign separating women and men at a public lecture / Photo Daily Mail UK

I sometimes wonder as to why they do not sit next to male students because in both countries Muslims are not majority and secularists’ thoughts dominate state and its institutions as well as other institutions such as colleges. In other words, it seems like students practice voluntary segregation and they seem to be happy about their choice. I didn’t forces my students against their choice and will not do it. I remember when I was teaching at Nanjing University, one female student responded to me when I asked her “are you a Muslim because you do not sit next to male” Her response, I still remember, “ I don’t like to sit next to boys because I am not comfortable with sitting next to boys.” This young girl was from Nanjing and educated in mix-gender school from kindergarten till the university. According to her, she always chooses not to sit next boys. I also experienced similar tendency in high schools I taught in Nanjing.  Female students tend to like separate seating in the same classroom.

The point is that women autonomy or agency is not all about going against one’s wish and rights.  If a woman has right to sit next to man by her own choice, the same woman has the right to seek separate seating as long as there is no force is being applied either directly or otherwise on her.  If autonomy would empower woman for self-determination, such autonomy should allow women to seek all forms of voluntary choices as long as choices do not go against the goals of journey. In other words, if a woman goes to college to pursue education, she should be allowed to either sit separately or sit with male. The question should be focused on her education:  is she pursuing her education.

Studies suggest that Muslims are falling behind education. The World Bank report on education reform in North Africa and the Middle East concluded “the quality of education in the Arab world is falling behind other regions and needs urgent reform if it is to tackle unemployment. The report said unemployment in the Arab world averaged 14%, which is higher than other areas in the world, except Sub-Saharan Africa, with the Palestinian territories coming highest with nearly 26%.” Another study carried out in January by the Tunis-based Arab League Educational Cultural and Scientific Organization found that 30% of the approximately 300 million people in the Arab World were illiterate.

With respect to women education, they account for more than 50% of the Muslim population but their education has not been a priority.  The main reason why a large chunk of Muslim women are not literate is lack of schools and colleges in the areas where there is a higher concentration of the Muslim population. Girls are enrolled in nearby schools and are not sent far off to study due to safety reasons.

Lack of proper public transport only works against any girl child’s desire to study. Also, my communications Muslim parents in Sri Lanka suggest some fears related to mix seating. These fears may sound silly and unwarranted, but different society has their own different priority and those need to be respected.

For any women, for that matter Muslim women, the major target should be winning education to seek upward social mobility. Education often leads to seek better social sources and upward mobility. Therefore, social forces need to create equal and better conditions for women to compete education. Studies repeatedly suggest that non-existence of healthy and strong Middle class among Muslims across the boarders. This is clearly dangerous, because the middle class is key to greater social and political reforms. Education is one key passage to embrace upward economic mobility. Hence, societies should encourage Muslim women to pursue education rather than directly or indirectly encouraging measures that would progressively weaken Muslim women desire to pursue education.

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    will you like your sisters and your mothers become prostitutes in the name of Education. Islam not only prohibit Zina but also close the ways that that take people towards prostitutions. You need to learn Islam from Basics and your parent fail to give you good Islamic knowledge that sounds in your writing. So what if Muslims are lacking in education/ What is definition of Education? Is it to earn Hell fire in the name of Education? Even if they are illiterate it does not matter situation may change in some times but if you loose your faith and you will be loser in this life and the next? This life is going to end one day but your eternal life is the real life and you do not plan your life only for this life but a true Muslim eyes on his next life even at the expense of this life. Mate you have read Islam from ABC to Speak for Islam and for Muslims. Not every one carries Muslim name is qualified to speak to Islam and Muslims

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      loving, Please tell us, how, women that sit next to men in buses, trains or public places become prostitutes? These thinking flows to you Muhammadans from Islamic teaching of women are less intelligent and they are for you to posses and they are worth half that of men and etc.

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        That’s how I have teach My Islamic followers. Every women who talk with a man other than his family members are prostitutes. And it also applicable to woman without hikijabs they are prostitutes too. I had a incarnation as a student and I studied with Muslim many said the same. All white women are prostitutes as they said “Suddiyo okkoma badu”. Some of the teachers who were friendly with students are also labeled with same as they said “ekita amma”. All women who wear short skirts are also prostitutes as they said “araki hena baduwak kotatamayi adinne”. Those devoted Muslims are not uneducated some of them even have MSc degrees.

        Lol alllahaahha hu….wa……k bar mmmm allllahh huwak barrrrrr

        But rarely visible a Muslim an author like this.

        Considering facts which I have mentioned about Hikijabs should be banned.

        By the way I know some Muslim girls who don’t wear hikijabs and they wear tight denims. They are so sexy from behind. But it’s not visible flesh rippling as she walk like she is in abaya.

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        Woman, two children found hanging
        December 15, 2013, 9:55 pm
        “A 29-year-old woman and her two children, aged nine (female) and seven (male), were found hanging in her residence at Kapugama in Gandara.
        The three were found hanging by the woman’s mother when she returned home after work.
        Investigations had revealed that the deceased woman’s husband had left her in June and was living with another woman.
        Police said they had not ruled out foul play.”
        We are in 10th of Sucide all over the world…the collapse of family system…the number one during 2006 in suicide….So do we need a culture like in China / USA as Mr. Imtiyas wish….alreadyu detriorating family system of our nation expect constructoive thoughts from educated…not like this wastes……

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          Imtiaz, an immuted TEEZ of a weird cosmopolitan.

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      peace loving, why are clan so much worried about female morality only? how about your brother and father ending up as pimps?.

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      To some extent segregation is acceptable. Why is that many of you here are new to them ? Dont we have separate schools for boys and girls?

      Did not we all have separate school buses in SL now ?

      Right these days, mexico govt has been introducing special bus service for females. This is to reduce abuses against women there. THe project they report have been very successful.

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        This is very right regardless of the religion:

        “As a human being first, and Muslim second”

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    The above article, written by an educated Muslim writer should open the eyes of the Muslims but I am well aware how difficult it is to get their eyes opened as they are stuck with a religious glue .According to the above article 30% of the Arab World are illiterate.It is due to this illiteracy that Muslims kill Muslims,expatriate housekeepers are abused,and their own women are suppressed.
    Millions of Dr. Imtiyaz Razaks are needed to show the light to Muslims.
    Thank you Dr. Razak
    Write more and more and open the eyes of your fellow Muslims

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      Dear all..
      His statistics are just utter lies…. dont relay on these statistics,
      If you have any of your friedns in middle-east ask them the role of ladies in middle east society as goverment employee,manager, mother, sister, employee…etc
      How much do they educated and how much do they promoting the education..
      The same in Sri Lankan as well…. this gentle man may left the SL during Portugese ages…wrting on his own wisdom…each and every society has its own cuiltural backgrounds wich has to be protected by its own people…if we follow the culture of USA / China as he claims…who will care of our own culture…
      If expetriates are abused ….95% of UAE population are Expetriates, 98% of Qatar Population are expetriates…when we compare the abuse its negligible…even our PRADESHIYA SABA president RAPE a Tourist in Hambanthota..is it a sign that all Sri Lankans are rapist and killers…..NO…so let me more educated abt the world…

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      Punchi, 30% of the Muslims may be illiterate according to your statistics but they are 100% literate when it comes to NOT WORSHIPPING STONES AND TREES.

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        Goraka!
        What’s wrong in worshiping tress and stones which are part of the environment? Can people survive without them? It is much better and sensible to worship our environment rather than to a god nobody has ever seen

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          Pray to the toilet bowl, which shares a very essential time in a man’s life.

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        STONES AND TREES eh?? Not as silly as worshipping santa claus or god.

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          Thou art surely is the ignoramus Leela.

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      Punchi, 30% of the Muslims may be illiterate according to your statistics but they are 100% literate when it comes to worshipping.

      They DON’T WORSHIP IMAGES MADE OUT OF STONES. THEY DON’T WORSHIP HUMANS. THEY DON’T WORSHIP HUMANS BELIEVED TO BE BEGOTTEN SON OF GOD. THEY DON’T BOW DOWN TO IMAGES MADE OUT OF THEIR OWN HANDS.

      That makes a Muslim 100% literate.

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        Non Muslims worship their parents and adults to express respect and gratitude.
        It is sad to learn Muslims don’t respect their adults and parents.

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      You are spot on.
      Even if the statistics given are not exact – I agree with you the fact that many totally islamic countries have no high literacy rates. This I know from my moroccan friends directly. Many of their female relatives cant read and right. So are the levels in Pakistan, Afghanistan. Only few countries like Malaysia, Indonesia, those rates seem to be comparable to their male literacy rates.
      The problem among them is no secret – many like Dr Razaks have no recognition among them. It is not the religion, but their versions of islam that have been practised in those countries, make it worse for female folks.
      I have closely dealt with IRANIANS. Many Iranian females living in Europe behave as birds freed from their cages. They enjoy the freedom in Europe very much. As one of the commentators made it clear on this or other threads, muslim should finally be aware that more restrictions to human life can only bring much more problems. It is common to us all human beings that we all want to enjoy some degree of freedom.

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    No matter a woman is Muslim or not, a decent woman does not feel comfortable sitting next to non related man. This is what we see according to your own article. This is common sense too. So why do you have to ask someone if she is Muslim because she prefers segregated seating ? And who the hell are you to tell these women that you are strictly against segretaged seating ?

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      Yako,

      I agree with you. I don’t know why Sri Lankan’s tend to live in denial. Or are they so obtuse that they don’t notice social trends? One noticeable trend is that Sri Lankan women don’t like to mix with their male couterparts!

      This particularly true in the private sector where I work. My regular interactions with both sexes at different functions; at seminars and training programs, office parties etc.,leads me to believe that they like to keep to themselves.Sometimes even gentle cajoling doesn’t work!

      I have always found this intriguing, and have not understood why they the ladies prefer to interact with their own kind. The reasons I have found out have nothing to do with religion. Here are a few among them . First they are comfortable being among themselves. Second they feel men tend to flirt instead of being friendly and its a put-off. Further, they don’t want to be part of the grapevine and be the subject of common office gossip. Finally their husbands and boy friends frown when they are too friendly with the opposite sex.

      In India, there are special laws to prevent eve teasing, buses exclusively for women. Girls only schools are common. So what’s the big fuss.

      The fuss happens because there are idiots like Imtiaz Razzak who think the easiest route to fame is by ridiculing the Muslim way of life, forgetting many social traditions that are gender based and not unique to Muslims.

      And of course the pseudo intellectuals on CT have a field day thanks to this idiot who calls himself an academic happily dishingout data without without proper referencing! Naturally, Muslims don’t need enemies when we have insecure idiots like Imtiaz who think pandering to west is the best way to hide their insecurity.

      My appeal to Imtiaz is that while he is welcome to write as he pleases, can he at least broaden his scope when he writes and be a little more inclusive, instead of confining his remarks to disparaging Muslims?

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    Women should have their own buses with female drivers and conductors.

    Sharia Lanka is moving in the right direction.

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      Yeah that true. And those drivers and conductors should be Muslims too. And Muslim men should have designated buses because they can’t control when a non Muslim women is inside the bus. They think they are prostitutes because they don’t wear hikijabs.

      Also several butt like devices should be mounted inside Muslim men only buses to push then with their C**k. Also devices to stop groping.

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    BTW please spare a thought for millions of Muslim prostitutes in Afghanistan, Iraq, Palestine, Yemen, Syria, Libya, Chechnya, etc.

    They were driven into it by war.

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    Maodaya. that is why we see a lot of turmoil in family life in all part of world and you want to destroy your family life as in the western world and you mix your own sisters with men and others as you like. it is your choice dear modayas.

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      Muslim males are very boisterous about morals while they engage in sex with a number of wives as it is sanctioned by their religion. Yet their women can have only one husband.What a hypocrisy!
      In Sri Lanka a lot of Muslim youths have sex with non Muslims when they cannot find one from among the Muslims
      They are scared that their women folk would follow their husbands. Hence they restrict the freedom of their women.
      The more you restrict the freedom of somebody the more he or she wants to taste the freedom.
      I hear even in Saudi Arabia some Muslim women have sex secretly with Muslims and Non Muslims.
      Women become sex workers not because of freedom but because of economic factors.
      So dear Muslim friends! Don’t preach morals to others.

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        Punchi

        You can externalize your problems as much as you like and blame Muslims as you please. But the fact that there is an alarming rise in women and children being abused should worry you more than worrying about Muslim men being boisterous.

        I hope you will agree that we need to teach morality to our citizens instead of generalizing and blaming one set of citizens for all the ills in this country

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        Punichio;
        You may be right. From what I have heard and seen from the Muslims folks I met in Europe ALONG the years; from Morocco, Saudi and other countries they the men and women always pretended them to be all sober but later we found them having used beer bottles keeping them in some areas of the dormitories. Some of them were that fanatic to attack non-Buddhists openly, even if we just learnt to ignore them. Further to this, these were the facts I got to see from Malaysian TV yesterday, that they report to have more teen pregnancies today than in decades ago. Even if those teeny girls are fully rejected by own parents, but there seem to have other bodies to help them out before them get married later. Those children born to them are given for adaptation, as the very same video made it clear.
        As you say, it is the nature of human beings that they would try to live up their life by any means even if religious or other barriers are there. Also agree with the fact – little freedom they enjoy, the worst will be the outcome. This you will learn from English teeny girls, that are reported to have made records to be champions ending up becoming teeny mothers. It is all because of the conservative behaviors of English households. In France and Germany they dont have the same problem to that level.

        I have the feeling many among them have all kind fears being caught by their family and friends – meaning.. they are learnt to deceive themselves.. I really dont know why.. if you are adherent to a religion, it is your freedom to do so.. so ARE we some buddhists from the beginning on.

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      Bukhari 72:715 writes: A woman came to Muhammad and begged her to stop her husband from beating her. Her skin was bruised so badly that she it is described as being “greener” than the green veil she was wearing. Muhammad did not admonish her husband, but instead ordered her to return to him and submit to his sexual desires. Is that’s Muhammmadan’s family life?

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    Mr I has been LTTE agent in USA. He has written a lots in support of LTTE claims and now he writes about Muslims without any knowledge about Islam.What a distortion is this? Let him write politics of Muslims in SL not about religions.

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    Ask the question, Why is in USA (where the author is residing)nearly 50% of the children born are to single-parent mothers (out of wedlock and most of the time fathers not known)? Why is that restroom segregated for male and female, even in a civilized country like US?

    With the information I have given you, go back and read the article for a fresh persepective.

    I work with inner-city kids in US and I have witnessed severe social issues among kind as young as 8 years.

    I get the feeling, Dr. Razak is intentionally provoking the muslims.

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    Ask the question, Why is in USA (where the author is residing)nearly 50% of the children born are to single-parent mothers (out of wedlock and most of the time fathers not known)? Why is that restroom segregated for male and female, even in a civilized country like US?

    With the information I have given you, go back and read the article for a fresh persepective.

    I work with inner-city kids in US and I have witnessed severe social issues among kids as young as 8 years.

    I get the feeling, Dr. Razak is intentionally provoking the muslims.

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      What are those social issues? are their like child marriages ?. Asslamic countries have no child abuses since 8 year old girl is a bride and All child abuse cases of own father are suppressed by mother through blood money.

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        No, incest and neglect, donkey.

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          Incest in Asslamic countries are hidden by blood money. Also prostitution is also in those countries too. For example Dubai, Russian and Chinese women for prostitution and Cops turn blind eyes.

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            Prostitution, incest, adultery, gays, beastility, are ALL forbidden in Islam. So, if you MEET a Muslim who are involved in these sort of behaviours, WARN THEM!

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              What is not being held strict in islamic world ?

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              but they do. Islam and Sharia isn’t capable enough to stop them. I m so sorry. Those are good parts of the Islam but some Muslims don’t even practice them.

              And gay should be allowed since it’s natural.

              Islam permit prostitution through right hand posses that is prostitution for the life.

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          How do you know there is no incest in Muslim families? Nobody advertise incest.

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    Thanks Razak. You have given an opportunity for non-muslims to insults Islam.

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      He is good human. People like them protect Islam through peace. Need more Muslims for the world like him.

      Thanks Razak for considering you as a Human first rather Muslim.

      Islam or any other religion if it has practices not suitable for society should be immediately stopped.

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      Goraka!
      We are not insulting Islam. We are only criticizing Muslim males who suppress their womenfolk.

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    The views of Dr. IR represents the views of majority Muslims. Many Muslims get annoyed only whenever somebody talks against Islam and behave like true believers. But, at other times, they just behave like non-Muslims or even worst than non-Muslims. I have seen many thousands of Muslims but have never seen a true believer in Allah and the Final Day. Because, if a man including me really believes that there is Allah and a Final Day, he will never do anything other than praying Allah to protect him from Hell Fire. If the Prophet had feared Allah 100%, he wouldn’t have been marrying number of women after the death of his first wife, Kadhijah. In my view the Prophet was more afraid to Kadhijah than Allah given that there were widows, slaves and other tribal women even before the death of Kadhijah. I know many Muslims will not like or tolerate my views and will abuse me here, but my advise to them is that better they pray rather than wasting time here.

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      And what are you doing here Mr. Ahamed?

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    dear Ahmed. yo can not a true muslim . you wrongly understand islam. go and lssrn it again

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    This mr IR is an agent for LTTE and see his writing about Tamil issues and he is worried about Tamils more than Muslims and he hails from a Tamil family and no real Muslims write like this

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    No Muslim brother answered my question.Muslim men can marry at least four wives.Yet Muslim women do not enjoy that right.They can sleep with only one man. Isn’t this hypocrisy?If a woman sleeps with a man other than her husband she is a prostitute according to our Muslim friends.If a Muslim man sleeps with four women he is not doing anything immoral according to Islam. Isn’t this sheer hypocrisy?Isn’t this an injustice to Muslim women?
    Can Muslim men preach morals to others while sleeping with four women?
    Muslim men must thank Allah for permitting them to marry four women.
    Muslim women should rebel against Allah for not permitting them to sleep at least with two men.

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      Punchi

      Punchi You can externalize your problems as much as you like and blame Muslims as you please. But the fact that there is an alarming rise in women and children being abused should worry you more than worrying about Muslim men being boisterous. I hope you will agree that we need to teach morality to our citizens instead of generalizing and blaming one set of citizens for all the ills in this country

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      Punchisingho, How many women can a man marry at the same time? How many men can a woman marry at the same time? How many gays can a gay man marry at the same time and how many lesbians can one lesbian marry at the same time?

      Before blaming Islam, Punchi, you should have provided a solution?

      Islam say men can marry upto four (not minimum 4), but if you cannot afford or cannot be fair, marry only one. Majority of the muslims marry ONLY one. Marrying more than one is an exception.

      Marrying is responsibility, sex is just a part of it. There are many men who are married to one, but have secret relationships. Those lovers outside the marriage has NO legal rights and they are left high and dry when love fizzles. If they can marry more than one, the law would have protected them.

      Regarding a woman marrying many men at the same time, please direct that question at your own mother, first. I hope she will be thrilled.

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        Dont get all these that serious, Gorako. Why not to concentrate only about the substance of the article ?

        Besides, you cant go against to the nature of HOMO SAPIENS. Many among the buddhists, they make public statements that Buddist are the most tolerant ones. But why then you are compelled to see all violent attacked being practised by BBS in the country today ?

        These are social stigma valid only to lanken society. Many believe that a muslim man enjoy getting married to several women.
        They also believe the black people in general are cannibalistic…. (my grand father was also in that opinion).

        I have not met any single lanken muslim who has married 4 times in his life. They could be few – but that means not every muslim man enjoy with many women.
        Today, there are lots of buddhists that hold separate married lives.
        These are common to lanken culture today. Not secret, last week, we got to read that POOR SALAKA Kumara or some one had to see HULA is enjoying with his Kumara^s wife. All these are being done as if the country has no RULE OF LAW.

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          Punchieka, I am responding to Punchisigho.

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    Dear modaya: it simple and if woman sleeps with more than one men they would be problem to claim fatherhood of that child four could claim fatherhood or all could blame others to avoid responsibility of expense : for you that does not matter because your religions dose not have such laws to regulate human life rather you bow down to stone and trees

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    Dear Punchisingho
    I hope here the answer for your doubts—— its pure misunderstanding and misinterpreted propaganda about islam…
    First
    Islam is the only one religion in the world it clearly says marry only one, there is no any other religion in the world says marry one instead all keep silent…
    Rights and Limits
    First of all, it is important for us to keep in mind that Islam came to establish two very important fundamentals for human beings:
    Rights and Limits.
    Everyone and everything has certain rights given to it by the Creator and Sustainer of the universe (Allah). At the same time, each creation has its own limitations established by Allah.
    First Right – Allah has the right to be worshipped without making partners from what He has created. Direct worship to Him, alone.
    Second Right – Prophet’s right to be followed according to his teaching and commandments.
    Third Right – Parents rights to be honored and cared for, with special emphasis on the mother first.
    Fourth Right – Wives and Husbands have rights on each other.
    Conditions 1,400 Years Ago
    Now let us do some basic research here. We begin by looking into the condition of the women in various societies at the time 1,400 years ago when Allah revealed the Quran to Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.
    Pagan Arabs – Burying Girls Alive
    During that time the pagan Arab men used to bury their newborn daughters alive in the sand, out of shame for having something so low and disgusting like a girl instead of a son. Women were treated horribly and with utter disgust.
    Men could marry as many as they liked and very often they owned women like cattle or sheep. There were no laws to protect the women and they had no rights at all.
    Christians – Arguing If Women Had Souls
    Christians at that time were holding council meetings to determine whether or not a woman even had a soul. The church blamed “Eve” the mother of all humans after Adam (peace and blessings be upon him) for the “original sin” and damned her and her seed for what she had done.
    Priests – Best Men – Forbidden Marriage – To Any Women
    Priests, bishops, cardinals and even the Pope are the very best of the Catholic men within the church. Yet the church still forbids their clergymen the chance for marriage and families. This unnatural situation has caused very serious ramifications throughout the society around the world.
    Nuns – Best Women – No Marriage – No Children
    Nuns are the very best of the Catholic women. They cover themselves in proper attire much the same way as the Muslim women. Yet, they are never allowed to marry or have children throughout their lives. This unnatural condition has caused untold number of disgraceful and disgusting practices within the very church itself.
    If Only Bad People Have Children – What About Tomorrow?
    We must ask the question, “If the very best of the men and the very best of the women are not allowed to marry or have children – does this mean only the worst of the people are the ones allowed to reproduce and populate the world?” – And where will that leave us tomorrow?
    Jews – Blame Women and Curse Women
    The Jews blamed women for the “original sin” and as such they were treated with disgust. A woman’s monthly cycle was considered by the Old Testament of the Bible to be a “curse from God” for her inequities. Her child bearing pains were also a ‘punishment from God’ for her bringing man down from heaven.
    Islam – No Blame On Women For Evil
    Islam does not blame Eve for Adam’s sin. Each of them accepted their own mistake and repented to Allah, and asked Allah to forgive them and Allah did forgive them.
    Now before going any further, please read Surah An-Nisa’ (chapter 4 in the Quran) – all the way through, in order to better understand what is actually being said about women, men and marriage.
    Read Quran
    Now let us think about the verses. Do you believe that Allah Knows what He created and He has revealed the perfect ‘Deen’? Do you know the condition of the people at the time the order came to restrict the number of wives? (Restricted to be only four)
    “Now read the verse about having more than one wife, very carefully.” [Noble Quran 4:3]
    What does it say? And what do you understand from it?
    “Now read the ayah (verse) that forbids men to marry women who are already married.” [Noble Quran 4:24]
    Now read from An-Nisa’ (Chapter 4) about the role of men and women. [4:34]
    Man Supports And Protects Women
    Do you understand that one must take on the role of supporter, protector, provider, custodian and servant to the family (man’s role)?
    Woman Gives Birth – Raises Children
    One must take on the role of carrying the child and delivering it and then feeding it and raising it to become a true servant of Allah (woman’s role).
    Not Equal – But Treated Fairly In Justice
    Men and women are not the same nor are they “equal” as some folks would have us believe. Whatever is on one side of an ‘equals’ sign must be exactly the same as what is on the other side without any difference in value, only in the way that it is expressed. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?
    Equal In Faith And Actions
    They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.
    Children’s Rights Protected
    Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family. How could the court know who to give the wealth of a man, if he was one of several husbands to a woman? How would a child know who his father was? No society ever supported the concept of a woman being married to two or more men at the same time.
    Women’s Right – Best Treatment
    Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Yet, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.
    Limit – Number in Marriage
    When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.
    Limit – Equal Maintenance and Treatment
    Second, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?
    Next, the limitation very clearly states; “.. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one …”
    Muslims Today – Most Monogamous
    Step by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth (we only have one wife). Check for yourself and see. In the majority of all the Muslim homes on earth, a man gets married once, to one woman and then he stays married to her until the death of either himself or his wife.
    Woman’s Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes –
    Even If He Is Already Married
    One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.
    Women Need Husbands – Allah Provided the Answer
    The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) predicted that in the Last Days the women would outnumber the men to a great extent. Today we are seeing this become a reality all over the world. Allah has already provided for us for this occasion. After all, He is the One who makes it all happen and He already knew that many women would come into Islam in these days. He also knew many of the Muslim men would be killed or die at an early age, just as it is happening these days. These women all need husbands. Allah has given us the solution to all of life’s problems.
    Women’s Right to Vote – 1,400 Years Ago
    We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with “Women’s Suffrage” and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.
    Women Keep Their Identity – And Their Names
    Additionally, Islam protected women’s rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.
    Women Keep Their Property And Earnings – Men Must Share
    Yet, at the same time the western society is so concerned about the way Islam demands that a couple be married, the man actually must work instead of the woman; the woman owns her own property without giving anything for the support of the house or the child; a child has the right to his or her own mother raising them instead of a baby sitter or day care; father must support his children; divorce is hated; and marriage is sanctified.
    West Can’t Tolerate Man And Woman – In Marriage
    It is strange isn’t it, a society like America, has no problem accepting sex without marriage; homosexuality; same sex marriages; sex without responsibility; children without fathers; and divorces are more common place than the measles or chicken pox. Yet, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.

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    Article by Dr. Imtiaz indeed opens eyes of both Muslims and non-Muslims in cross-cultural settings. I think segreggation begins since childhood taught by parents. Parents learn gender phobia/ségrégation from their religion, from their parents and from their own life expériences. In some cultures ségrégation is deeply embedded in individuals that even highly educated people cannot get rid of it. Gender ségrégation is more likely to be visible in cultures where discrimination, gender gap, gender dominance, gender violence and repressive religions are présent.

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      So, it is seems you crave for the bliss in the frictions of female encounters.

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    Thank you inhaled: dear so called Dr IR. Read Niha’s article to know more about Rights of women in Islam: send you own sisters to mix with men as you like but do not distort divine command p: Islam is pure and Clear cut not mixed with ideals of spuds like you

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    Razak, I am sure you are enjoying the anti-Islamic insults heaped on muslims. If you have not foreseen this happening, may God forgive you.

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    Those religions that tell their followers not to sit next to individuals of opposite sex dont understand that those followers go and sit next to individuals of opposite sex in other religions. Because they like Humans. Whether those outdated commands preached by divine or Devils humans should be able to choose what is right for them today. By segregating/separating opposite sexes, you simply force one human being to stop interaction with another because of gender, that is discrimination on gender.

    Both Segregation and Separation are same: both are discrimination and dislike interaction with other groups. Segregation is happened when a (majority)group decide to refuse interaction other (minority) group while separation dislike/avoid others and seek company of ‘like minded’ (Same sex/ friends) individuals seeking confortzones. Both are discrimination, dislike, avoid interaction with other group.

    If one says Muslims are the monogamous, I think he needs to define what is monogamous Muslim men are allowed to marry 4 to7 wives.

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      Dear

      Please read my previous comment….if you eager to know the truth..
      Your comment is against the truth and obveious misunderstanding about islam..

      “”””If one says Muslims are the monogamous, I think he needs to define what is monogamous Muslim men are allowed to marry 4 to7 wives””””

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    Dear it is wrong give us evidence if Muslims can marry more than four

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    Only Muslim males have written to announce that they are correct. No Muslim woman has written even a word.I believe they are silent because they approve what I have mentioned here.
    I thank Muslim friends for responding to my comments

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      Dear Friend
      I hope you red my previous comments….the simple evidence for such true is the number of women revert to Islam in Europe and USA…..

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      Until very recently, the Kandyan Sinhalese had the practice of ‘Eka-ge-Kema’ or eating in one house. Robert Knox observed ‘In Ceylon even the greatest has one wife but the women have many husbands’. Joao Riberio wrote in 1685 that in Ceylon if a man marries a woman, his brothers take her on the following days in turn and there is no priority for the husband. One researcher noticed that most of such women like the youngest among the brothers. Polyandry is not new to Sri Lanka and I strongly believe that you must be having natural genetic liking to that in your blood so much so that you are more anxious to bring that practice back than anyone else! You do a confidential survey among the women in Sri Lanka as to whether they wish to bring that practice back. I am sure many from your family will vote positive. But unfortunately, for Muslim women it is something which they cannot even imagine. So the silence of Muslim women against your comments is not an admission but an omission.

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