22 October, 2021

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Why More Than One?

By Suha Cassim –

Suha Cassim

There is a debate about the “nefarious effects” of Polygyny.. but the debate is not within the community rather it is imposed on us. Often, our society weigh in on many social issues..prostitution, gay marriage, capital punishment, unfaithfulness in relationships or some other social issues. My aim is to enlighten the reader on the  reasons that it Polygyny is allowed in Islam. Those opposing Polygyny  do not represent the majority of the Muslim population in Sri Lanka. Polygyny is the most common and accepted form of Polygamy, entailing the marriage of a man with several women but Islam restricts that to 4  wives and with strict conditions; and in this country Polygyny is practised by a very small percentage of the Muslim population. But it is allowed.

Benefits

Allah is the All Wise who has has sent down the Quran and chosen His  Messenger to guide us – who are we to even think of changing Allah’s laws? (Thashkheer is to put aside our intellect and our logic when it  comes to the obedience of ALLAH swt and the sunnah of Rasoolulah sal.) Our duty is to teach and reform faulty human behaviour and not change Divine Law. The basic requirement of a believer is to obey ALLAH and His Messenger; solutions to any eventual issues are to be found in the Quran and Sunnah.

The practice of polygyny gives that man who has not been granted children, a reason not to divorce his first wife. Ageing wives can therefore retain the dignity of the married estate and remain with her husband and the family they love.

A wife who does not feel like intimacy due to pregnancy or childbirth or menopause, will not be under pressure since he will have other perfectly acceptable options within the marriage. Also, if the husband and wife  collectively decide that the man should take on a second wife because the first wife is unable to bear children, what objections can any critic lay

on them? What moral authority do they have over any husband and wife who have decided their own collective happiness? No critic should raise questions from any presumed role of a moral high ground.

The importance our laws place on marriages contracted only between two people, tempts us to think that monogamy is the natural human state. The reality could not be further from the truth.

Scientific research has verified while monogamy is the expected societal norm, it is relatively unusual against the back drop of human history.  Only 20% of the societies sampled, considered monogamous unions to be normal and desirable.

In Western countries, that ban Polygyny, LGBTQ marriages are legalised, recognized and protected by law. There does not even seem to be an argument then, to limit polygynous marriages..

Why did Gay men and women fight for the right to be married? In the main it was economics. Like Polygynous marriages, it provides partners with certain automatic legal protection that include inheritance, pension rights, hospital visitation rights, custody rights, access to family insurance and many more.

Polygynous marriages extend these protections automatically to all spouses within a marriage, regardless of their position in the family. So long as one can support multiple wives and children from them, then  it’s probably the preferable legal position (rather than satisfying desires with illicit relationships that have terrifying life long consequences). Questions of jealousy, desire, and so forth, are important from a  subjective perspective, but irrelevant from a legal evaluation of the issue.

Michael Price’s hypothesis that monogamy supports co-operation and, as a result, has spread from the West to other regions was tested by using five measures of societal success against 156 contemporary nation states, of which 84 are monogamous and 72 are polygamous. Among other conclusions, “Price found that 64% of monogamous societies only 25% of polygamous societies had liberal democracies.” But not all monogamy is politically imposed, as evinced by its existence among small-scale band and tribal societies. “Ecologically imposed monogamy” arises when men lack the resources needed to support multiple wives ..

(Sanderson 2001: 333).

The intended change in the law banning Polygyny in Sri Lanka is firstly a  total infringement of our fundamental and religious rights. No Government has the right to change our personal Muslim laws and  injunctions given in our religious scripture and are already in place. This will bring social changes that will give rise to serial monogamy – i.e. people who marry and divorce multiple times. It will change the social  structure and construct that is Divine. For the man who wants a new relationship he will simply divorce his wife and avoid any economic obligation.

Essentially serial monogamists ‘use the law to gain the benefits of a polygynous relationship’ without being subject to the restrictions and duties of marriage, including escaping what should be lifelong  commitments to the children they have with their disposable spouses.

On the flip side the Polygynists are criminalised for wanting to take lifelong responsibility for the wives they have loved and the children they have created, while serial monogamists are permitted to celebrate  wedding after wedding, discarding their previous relationships on the scrapheap of life. While divorce is now an accepted part of our life and  the world over, up to 50% of first marriages end before the death of a spouse and often failure rates are high for subsequent marriages. It is quite right that the stigma that used to surround divorcees and their children has disappeared but it leaves us, with an unpalatable situation where society sees nothing wrong with the serial monogamists!

As a nation that has accepted divorce, or living together without marriage, turning a blind eye to the LGBTQ groups although such relationships are illegal in Sri Lanka, it stands to reason that there is no longer any reason or any excuse to continue to victimize the Muslims and their Divine law.

There are four objectives given in the Quran for marriage: Protection against physical, moral and spiritual ailments, continuation of human life, companionship and peace of mind, Growth of relations of love and compassion.

However, Allah The Most High, has explicitly mentioned in the Quran in  Sura Nisa: verse 3: “And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or  three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. (3)”

Monogamous or polygynous, the objective of marriage in Islam remains the same.

Islam gave women rights which were not dreamt of, by the rest of  the world, when humanity was in total darkness. It ensured the protection of the female, be it wife, mother, daughter or sister. While there are behaviours whose value judgements hold no place in decent society and cannot be condoned or supported by the Muslim community in Sri Lanka, this does not give any credence or necessity to abolish and modify, simply an allowance, a tolerance that has been permitted but with strict conditions in the Quran and explained clearly by our beloved Prophet sal.

Finally and the most important fact is that we are forbidden to make any changes to the Quran which is the Divine Word of God.

As a believing Muslim, I am working for my hereafter. And we are not  alone in that.. As such we have to ensure that God’s words, His Commands and Prohibitions are not jettisoned for the sake imported customs.

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  • 17
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    It is not alright to have the ancient inapprpriate laws as divine. The laws should EVOLVE asthe time goes by. The Laws of the country should be upheld. No room for
    “divine laws” as it was also made by a man.

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      So, is it OK to have mistresses and prostitution? They have no legal rights. Islam forbids both these and has offered legal recourse through polygamy

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        Hilmy,
        In Iran, there is something known as a “temporary marriage”. This enables a man to have sexual relations with any willing female.

        https://www.mei.edu/publications/temporary-marriage-iran-and-womens-rights
        There is always a “legal” way around prohibitions in any religion.
        Interest is prohibited, but there is “Islamic Banking”.

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        HA
        Will it be it all right to have sex with another without offering or receiving a fee?
        I see nothing unnatural in it.
        I agree that there is something distasteful about cheating.
        Otherwise anything goes between two consenting adults.

    • 0
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      This is live the age of consent is 16 and marriage is 18. So our children should live together like in the west even if there is an accidental pregnency

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        Pregnancy is at worst an inconvenience and terminable if unwanted.
        You have heard of things called contraceptives that many kids know about even before puberty.

    • 0
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      Our divine laws were not made by a man. They were proclaimed by God, to our holy prophet {pbuh}.

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        FD
        When I see things that happen in the name of God, I feel that God is one of the most stupid creations of man.

  • 16
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    The author states:
    “No Government has the right to change our personal Muslim laws and injunctions given in our religious scripture and are already in place. This will bring social changes that will give rise to serial monogamy – i.e. people who marry and divorce multiple times. It will change the social structure and construct that is Divine.”
    Whether it is divine or not is a matter of opinion. If matters were cast in concrete as suggested, people would be still sacrificing virgins to the gods, simply because it is the done thing. People have to adapt to the societies they live in. Would Ms.Cassim stone adulterous females to death as suggested in the Koran (and the Bible)? Would she put homoseuals to death? Or kill usurers? If not, why? Do not misunderstand me. I believe ALL partners in a polygamous marriage should have the right to opt out, not only the male. Why is Ms.Cassim so concerned about the sexual needs of only aging husbands? Don’t aging wives have any?
    I completely agree that monogamy, like celibacy, is not a natural state for human males. I have nothing against serial monogamy either. But I do object to the sanctimonious genuflections to divinity performed by Ms.Cassim. Polygamy existed long before Allah, and I am sure it will survive him.

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      Nowadays, sex between consenting adults is not illegal. Otherwise, half the country would be in jail. Also to issue a birth certificate, the parents don’t need to be married. So I don’t see what the fuss is about.

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      old codger

      “I have nothing against serial monogamy either.”

      In this day in age when women are actively demanding equitable treatment at workplace, home, society and in the country, why men/woman aren’t demanding their right to practice polyandry?

      The practice of Polyandry is as ancient as human origin.
      S J Thambiah, E R Leach, and many other scholars have recorded the practices of polyandry in their research papers.

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        Native,
        If you have a look around places like the Fort railway station, you will see many ladies who practice Polyandry. Informally, of course.

  • 6
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    The controversial subject of polygny is addressed in only one verse in the Quran (4:3). The previous verse (4:2) makes it very clear that it is referring to males who have assumed the responsibility of caring for orphans and instructing them as to what steps they MUST take to ensure that they ‘deal justly’ with such orphans.
    Verse 4:3 continues to address these males and informs them that “: If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, then marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four ..”
    .
    Verse 4:3 is clearly a conditional (IF – THEN) statement.
    .
    Therefore, the permission to “.. marry two, three or four ..” is granted ONLY to males :
    (1) who have assumed the responsibility of caring for orphans (4:2), and
    (2) who fear they will not be able to deal justly with such orphans (4:3).
    .
    The Holy Quran does not grant an open licence for all Muslim males to engage in polygny even if they are able to treat all wives equally, which even the Quran doubts (Verse 4:129).
    .
    Quoting the second section of verse 4:3 to justify ‘general polygny’ amounts to cherry-picking by patriarchal scholars.

  • 20
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    Allah allows men to have sexual relations only with his wives and female slaves. A slave is the property of her master. Do men ask their cars for permission to drive it? of course not. In the same way, they don’t ask their slave property for permission to have sex. So it is rape. In his infinite mercy, Allah allowed men to rape their slaves, but mutually consenting sex between unmarried people is forbidden and the punishment for violators of that prohibition is 100 lashes of the whip (Quran chapter 24 verse 2). The Most Merciful Allah allows Muslim men to have only 4 wives, but there’s no limit to how many female slaves a man can have. And Muslim men are allowed to rape all of their slaves repeatedly without punishment.

  • 19
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    Suha Cassim, you say that you should put aside your intellect and logic to obey Allah, but who is it who gave you your brain and your intellect and logic? Was it not Allah who gave you those things? Or was it Satan? If Allah gave you your brain and intellect and logic, then why would he want you to suspend the use of those things in order to obey him? If you happen to try to use your intellect and logic, you will realise that it makes no sense to forbid mutually consenting sex and allow rape and slavery. These “divine laws” are the opposite of mercy. Allah also allows Muslim men to beat disobedient wives (Quran chapter 4 verse 34)

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      justice

      What is this man rambling for half an hour?
      Is he another Polygamy/Polyandry Guru?

      Ultimately he wants his creator to arbitrate between his carnal desires and his vision.

      Why doesn’t this religious nutter discuss/encourage Polyandry?

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      J
      I think polygamy is commonly used to cover both polygyny and polyandry, and the author has tried to be very specific.

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    Oh no….in monogamy non-Muslim divorces, the husband has to pay for the upkeep of the children and alimony to the discarded wife, unless the wife initiates the divorce. The woman has a chance too, to find a new partner.

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      It is the law now but if polygamy is abolished, Muslim women will marry under Islamic Nikah and two consenting adults can live together, have children etc. There is no legal bar

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        H.A

        “Muslim women will marry under Islamic Nikah and two consenting adults can live together, have children etc. There is no legal bar”
        Exactly! So why make a fuss?

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      Even if the wife initiates the divorce for any reason other than having a new partner, the husband has to pay alimony and very often split the property and other assetts.

      • 0
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        Also the father has to pay child-support to any children from de-facto relationships.

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          Suha Kassim,
          Your prophet came out with law as at a time when there were NO laws regarding marriage, divorce, and child-care, other than traditional ones passed down from unevolved stone-age ones. On top of that, his laws were entirely for Bedouin tribes of the harsh desert environment. So, Allah was looking after those tribes at the time, for maybe a 1,000 years or so till they evolved to newer lifestyles. The desert structure has evolved since then. Doubt that the Koran says that the laws should be spread far and wide and forced on all mankind.

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            rtf
            Her prophet came centuries after your prophet.

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              Buddhism was slow in reaching them, lol.

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                Now finally, the nexus between Buddhism and Christianity, and the world evolved and modernized.

  • 14
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    Protest should be raised against CT for publishing a 1500 years old mentality essay, where CT says it stand for progressiveness in sexual orientation or sexual discrimination. As per UN charter’s human rights, church and government are two separate entities. Church will have to comply to government. All constitutions can be modified with two third or three fourth. Allah who didn’t live during the development of modern democracy should not try to limit the freedoms in the modern constitutions. In any sector, there are traitors. No exception in women sector.
    If this essay is appearing to distract or camouflage Rishard home’s murder, that is ridiculous.

    • 1
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      Yes, when we as sri lankans will soon have same sex marriages, lesbianism and gay rights as some of you liberals want, So why not a legal polygamous marriage for those who agree. Nothing is forced on the man or women

      • 2
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        ” Islam forbids both these ” So what? Is this lady is publishing you or any of your group edited essay? Would she be ready to call press meeting to explain the contents here?
        Is there a marital obligation on promiscuity? Why are you so forcefully twisting the issue? (I don’t talk about prostitution because almost all are force started by men and it is related to income. In Lankawe The ruling Muslims-Sinhalese Governments encouraged it by refusing to care about women independence and their income. That was the case with the 15 years child was raped by many different people including a Maldive’s Muslims doctor- he might have been practicing obgyn or sexology)

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        ” Nothing is forced on the man or women “ Really? Really-Really? To whom are you telling this? An idiot? Friend, if nobody forcing, then why do you want Sharia enforced? Nobody can be a liar like you friend. Is there the Muslims kids have their own kids law that kids should be playing? There is no woman want to marry a man who is already living with many women. That is how the jealous has evolved in the human minds. It is unconformable with animals behavior. As your dirty mind is dreaming, the world is not suffering by promiscuity. In the western world, married men and women have to maintain the faithfulness to their partners. Your wild thoughts are suitable only for Rapist Army’s Wildlife Sanctuary. Remember what happened to Yazidis families in Middle East?

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          May I know your last essay or your comment on Yazidis women and children.

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    Polygamy is a religious right granted in Islam to Muslim men and is permitted under the MMDA.Contrary to claims by women’s rights activists, Polygamy gives equal rights to women and legal protection as a lawfully married wife if a women chooses to be a second wife In the absence of the MMDA and polygamy, there would be many Islamic marriages (Nikkah) which can deprive the women to inherit equal share of the husbands wealth upon his death or alimony if divorced as she would not have a legal claim. The women or children from that union will be deprived of their livelihood upon the husbands death or divorce. So, the governments attempt to interfere with Islamic divine law will only cause severe disadvantages to women who would otherwise become mistresses to be dumped at will.

    • 3
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      Hilmi, You are still there? Good to see you.
      I expected to see you digging in if there is some dirt appears. Until you and Rishard were born, the women is the world were insecure and slaved. Go ahead and save them. Didn’t your predecessor saved Tamils’ education with Standardization, so the No1. Tamils now the last in education. Good logic will be better instead of your arbitrary number 4 to infinity. You shouldn’t not sleep until all Lankawe women are securely tied in stables and the gates closed. Recently I read a news that one Swiss farmer sold his Ram for 400,000EU. An organization bought it. News said they make much more than that. Do you think Allah was too early to attend to that auction, to learn some biology?

    • 3
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      Disgusting attitude. You must go to a Muslim country to practice this totally disgusting Muslim religious right of having several wives. Soon this will be forbidden in this country. Adultery should also be forbidden, then the second scenario you explain would be automatically illegal and impossible to practice without huge legal consequences like jail time, huge fines and compensation to the misused woman and her children. Its just terrible that some people want to justify and defend primitive Arabian social practices in this country.

  • 17
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    Mrs. Cassim,

    “As a believing Muslim, I am working for my hereafter. And we are not alone in that. As such we have to ensure that God’s words, His Commands and Prohibitions are not jettisoned for the sake imported customs.”

    If you are working for your hereafter, why get married at all, lady? Why not renounce life, join a monastery, and extol the ecstasies of the afterlife, 24/7 ? It is another matter entirely that even in monasteries you might find that male renunciates are trying to focus on your female body.

    What if others in SL say that people like you are trying to impose your ‘faith-based’ laws onto a larger population that considers your faith an ‘imported custom’?

    Broadly speaking, parochial religious laws cannot be allowed to supersede the secular laws of the land. This applies to SL, just as it does to the U.S., Canada, U.K., France, and India.

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      Agnos, there is no new imposition as you imply. Muslim personal laws had been in existence since 1872. We are a multi ethnic, multicultural society. Personal laws has been in existence through out history. Thesawalama for Tamils and Udarata for the upcountry Sinhalese. Why tamper only with the Muslim law. Are you also a part of the racist bandwagon.

      • 4
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        Hilmy,

        My comments were based directly on the author’s writing. I don’t know what really is going on in SL as I don’t have much time to follow events back home closely.

        But I stand for rationality and “the scientific method” of arriving at the truth. Until the larger populations can come to accept this and eventually reject all religions, I see secularism as a practicable way to balance the competing demands of multiple religions. You will see that in countries like India and SL, it is often the secularists who have supported the rights of the Muslim people. At the same time, I cannot support or encourage practices that discard the advances in human knowledge and try to harken back to the uninformed times when religious texts were produced. Fundamentally, when someone claims a certain thing is a divine law, then he/she needs to ask why, then, is that divine power–omnipotent, omnipresent, and omniscient– allowing a much larger population to have contrary views and act against it.

      • 2
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        Hilmi speak Tamil properly please. That is your mother tongue.
        There is no Walama, if you don’t know Tamil, don’t mention it.
        1.You argue that Tamils should not have Thesavalamai because Muslims have trouble to have Sharia. (Sorry MMDA said to be worse than Sharia). If so, are the Eelam Tamils asking for TN Laws? OK then support for North East merger and let us practice TN’ semi federal (13A) laws the way you want to practice Desert Laws. Why are you carrying a desert hat for Colombo rain? You are a born and bred Tamil for Tamil generation. Please don’t write convoluted frauds.
        2.If not, you are equalizing some desert laws to Thesavalamai. But, still we are not asking for Thesavalamai, we are asking for our freedom; if you can read English or Tamils, read the news and find out what Tamils want. It is not Thani Alaku. You should be an excessive addict or extreme racist to compare Thesavalamai with Sharia. You are prime example the crowd who, “look at the deer and says it a bear”

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        HA
        Are all Muslims happy with some of the Muslim laws?
        Do they have a voice?

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        Fake Arab converted Thullukan it is Thesavalamai and not Thesawalama. Your mother tongue is Thamizh, should know that but deliberately misspelling it to insult the Thamizh. Thesavalamai and the Kandyan laws are home grown laws, that evolved in the country, to suit the needs of the people of the kingdom of Jaffna and the kingdom of Kandy. However the barbaric Islamic Sharia laws, are from the deserts of Arabia and suited their harsh intolerant environment and religion. Now fake Arab South Indian origin converted Dravidian Islamic Thamizh like you have become its biggest supporters of these laws, that enslave women. You have no right to compare the laws that evolved in the island, with foreign barbaric laws that evolved in the deserts of Arabia.

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      Agnos,
      “What if others in SL say that people like you are trying to impose your ‘faith-based’ laws onto a larger population that considers your faith an ‘imported custom’?”
      Probably the lady considers the rest of the population to be imported.

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        old codger

        “Probably the lady considers the rest of the population to be imported.”

        From where?
        Afghanistan?
        Islamic State of Iraq and Syria?
        Myanmar?
        Or Islamic Republic of Kattankudy?

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      Agnos

      “Broadly speaking, parochial religious laws cannot be allowed to supersede the secular laws of the land. This applies to SL, just as it does to the U.S., Canada, U.K., France, and India.”

      We will do well if we consider the present skewed constitution in terms of secular law:
      CHAPTER II. BUDDHISM

      9. The Republic of Sri Lanka shall give to Buddhism the foremost place and accordingly it shall be the duty of the State to protect and foster the Buddha Sasana, while assuring to all religions the rights granted by Articles 10 and 14(1)(e).

      Secondly just because a section of the population (6.9 Million) is numerically larger or form a majority they/the state believe they could commit all kind of inhuman acts and getaway officially from all crimes.

      A permanent majority and noisy minorities have their own daemons to deal with.

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      Agnos
      There is a catch. Her religion has no provision for monasteries.

  • 16
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    Not a single logical point is made to justify Polygyny in the article. Do you agree with a muslim woman marrying several husbands? Observe few of those who practice polygyny in Sri Lanka. Women in such a relationship appear to be semi-retarted, unable to think for herself, etc, and men look like Saharan or Kuronegala Dr.Sapi.
    /
    The other thing is Muslims don’t stop at 4 wives. They want 72 virgins in heaven when they get there. So clearly they have an addiction problem, for which they should get medical treatment from Dr. Sapi.
    /
    Let’s get one thing straight that there is no higher power than the state. The state decides what’s allowed or not. The Christian countries don’t recognise Muslim marriage and divorce laws and they remind Muslims that their counties are Christian and to live by Judeo-Christian values. Same way, Sri Lanka is a Buddhist country, not Muslim. Government of Sri Lanka without hesitation must ban polygamy/polygyny, underage marriages, triple talaak and make everyone to marry under civil law.

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      Tony, exactly!

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      what a racist comment? Dr Shafi was a junior doctor in the ward. Who was the gynaecologist who signed off. Why are you not questioning him. His signature is taking full responsibility for any surgical procedure

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        HA
        I fully agree that the reference to Dr Shafi was utterly uncalled for and most unfair in the context of what the man is being put through by some sick people.

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        Hilmy,
        Enough of playing “The racist card”! It is played to hide muslim criminal shenanigans. Easter Sunday J1had attack which killed more 250 innocent people didn’t happen out of the blue. It was years of built up since 9-11 New York attack.
        /
        As for Sapi, he may be a junior but still had the access to wombs. His kind of crimes can easily be carried out under the nose of his superior. What do you have to say about his undeclared enormous wealth from undisclosed sources, deleted CCTV footages, 1000+ mothers’ complains, work colleagues’ complains, etc,etc ? And his boss is in remand for Easter Sunday attacks.

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    When slaves defend slavery what can you do?

    Soma

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      Soma,
      “When slaves defend slavery what can you do?”
      You beat me to it.

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        It’s called “Stockholm syndrome”

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      Its not slavery that we are defending. Our government continues to send a million people as slaves so that elites like you could live a comfortable luxury life from the earnings of the migrant slaves. Here we are talking about protection of women who otherwise will be mere mistresses or prostitutes. Polygamy for Muslims by law gives legitimacy to a second or third or fourth marriage if you fulfil the criteria laid out. The registered polygamous marriage gives the women equal rights in law for inheritance, alimony etc. If you are a mistress, the law doesnt provide you any rights. You will be a mistress only until you can satisfy the lust of the man.

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        Hilmy Ahamed
        .
        ‘Our government continues to send a million people as slaves….’

        You mean the Muslims of the Middle East still keep slaves? Says a lot about Islam.

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        Mr Hilmi Ahmad
        How is the time sharing arrangement worked out?

        Soma

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          NV
          Let’s get back to the subject.
          Do the rich Muslim men employ drivers?

          Soma

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        HA
        “The registered polygamous marriage gives the women equal rights in law for inheritance, alimony etc. If you are a mistress, the law doesnt provide you any rights.”
        *
        Some mistresses have had better deals that any wife or for that matter all wives put together.

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      soman

      “When slaves defend slavery what can you do?”

      Aren’t you one of the 6.9 million …………………..?

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      soman

      Whom are you going to blame for the athletic performances Sri Lanka at 2020 Olympics Games?
      Tamil Diaspora, ISIS, Boko Haram, the Taliban, and al-Qaeda, Sambandan, Amirthalingam, Chelvanayagam, G G Ponnampalam, Brits, Dutch, Portuguese, Pandya, Chola, Hanuman, ………… ?

      In case you are not aware of Namal Baby led Olympic teams final performance:
      Sri Lanka 0 0 0 0.

      Couldn’t you find a sharp shooter among the forces who could shoot well as you lot claimed in the past. Alright you could have find a champion sharp shooter among the former LTTE lot had Gota let them live.

      Tiny San Marino with a population of 33,562 has won 3 medals.
      It looks like you are going to act like some one who has applied hot chilly powder to his piles.

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        soman

        Seriously what was the purpose of Namal Baby’s visit to Tokyo?
        Did he go to Tokyo to clean up Chopin VA’s (Mathilda Karlsson;s horse) mess?

        As usual you can feel free to ignore our pertinent questions. Go hide behind your Sinhala/Buddhism.

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          Native
          Not that I am purposely ignoring.
          You hàve grown up ànd started asking embarrassing questions.

          Soma

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            NV
            Let’s get back to the subject.
            Do the rich Muslim men employ drivers?

            Soma

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      It appears that the Abrahamic Gods (in Judaism, Christianism, and Islam) are preoccupied with the sex life of humans, especially the women. This is understandable because they are all men. Any idea about the view of female Gods, if any.

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        RC,
        You mean Kaliamma?

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          RC & OC
          Draupathi who had five husbands is worshipped as god.
          There is a temple for her in Batticaloa district.
          *
          I think that makes the case for polyandry.

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      Be them muslims or others srilanken s would slave mindset. That is not overlooked if u d please look at the manner current politicians returned to loot the nation from where they were stopped by 2015. I m against any kind of slavery but we are the tiny minority in our hell. 😉😉😉😉😉😉

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        apologies.
        Be them muslims or others srilanken s in general would remain with their slave mindset

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    Husband has forced her write this..!! :) WHO IS HER HUSBAND? WHY HAS ALLAHA NOT ALLOWED A WOMAN TO HAVE 4 HUSBANDS? ALLAHA LOVES ONLY MALES? ALLHA MUST LIKE MALES MORE THAN FEMALES..?

    “No Government has the right to change our personal Muslim laws and injunctions given in our religious scripture and are already in place.”
    people like you keep this Islam at stone-age level 1400AD and that religion has not evolved due to lack of intellectual thought.

    Allah’s time there were no vaccines – so pls dont take the COVID vaccine also as it had Pork Gelatin !!

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    Suha Cassim:
    Would you care to explain why Allah had to decree something to man that is common behaviour among animals that live in one-male and multiple-female groups. I would rather think it’s the other way around. Human males like to live in such groups too. So man decreed to Allah to sanctify and legitimize his appetite for multiple concurrent sexual partners. Oh come on Ms. Cassim, you don’t really mean that! You yourself say 72 out of 156 contemporary nations are polygamous. See … you don’t need Allah always around to tell the male of the human species how to get all the sex he wants.

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    Understanding Human History, Michael Hart is an astrophysicist

    Why he had selected mohamed (PBUH number one identifying to rank one from hundred and

    kept Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) first in the list of 100 most influential persons in history.

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      RBH59
      Was it because Prophet Muhammad (SLMP) was the only religious founder to slaughter his enemies?

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    In principle, a country should have a common law (one law for all) for a country. Unfortunately, there are number of religions in many countries and they have different believes and practices and you cannot have one law for Muslim, One law for Hindu, One law for Buddhism, One law for Christian unless the whole population of the country. However, in Sri Lanka. Recently, in Sri Lanka cattle slaughter was banned in Sri Lanka because of Buddhist practice (Even Hindus). In 1972, Buddhism was given special status in the constitution. This is where the one law for all concept is under threat from religions.

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    If Muslim men are allowed to have more than one wife, can one wife or multiple wives of the same man allowed to participate in the sexual activity with both the husband and a another wife?

    Also, is Fellatio forbidden for Muslim women?

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      Reginald Shameless Pererass

      “Also, is Fellatio forbidden for Muslim women?”

      Have you ever tried and now being disappointed?

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        Reggie,
        Who the devil is Fellatio? Is he in a Shakespeare play?

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    Gosh! It would appear from the article the author believes in the existence of a God.

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      SAV
      Do you believe?

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    She makes several interesting propositions like:
    “The practice of polygyny gives that man who has not been granted children, a reason not to divorce his first wife. Ageing wives can therefore retain the dignity of the married estate and remain with her husband and the family they love.”
    *
    Substitute polyandry for polygyny and reverse the genders, she has beautifully argued the case for polyandry.
    In fact, that was almost the way things were before the male-centred family came about.

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    Soma,
    This is a valid point. This is the worse form of slavery. The slaves themselves overwhelmingly brainwashed to believe that the slave owners are their compassionate guardians not their oppressors.
    Similarly Suha ,who enjoys inferiority on her own free will!

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    soman

    Seriously what was the purpose of Namal Baby’s visit to Tokyo?
    Did he go to Tokyo to clean up Chopin VA’s (Mathilda Karlsson;s horse) mess?

    As usual you can feel free to ignore our pertinent questions. Go hide behind your Sinhala/Buddhism.

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    soman

    Why hasn’t Gota bring the Minitry of sports under Defense Secretary Kamala Gunaratne,?

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    Mano Ganeshan said “don’t go only to read the name of the vaccine. Just go and take some vaccine. Just save your life. “

    Can somebody translate that speech and put it here, instead readers wasting their time on these nonsense. Media is reporting today’s counted covid-19 deaths are 111, highest so far.

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    I love to be able to see the future and be able to know what religeons would exist in a 1000 – 3000 years as all these things that we are believing today were put in place by stupid uneducated peasants from about 1000-3000 years ago.

    in every instance what has happened is that they have created a human institution that guarantees the survival high priests popes mullahs hamuduruwos etc etc. while it could be said some of these institutions are benign , they have been anything but.

    I see no difference between polytheism or the monotheism , they are equally stupid. believing in something that has been proven not to exist. (or exist in only the imagination)

    As for polygamy or what ever this woman calls it it most likely was a function of the times when men had very short lives as they were killing eachother for the same foolish religeon. I think there has been cases women married multiple men (Not sure what it was called) so that the property was protected. I dont think any of these is evil or horrible as long as it is using the peoples free will.

    My 2c anyway.

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      A14455,
      ” I love to be able to see the future and be able to know what religeons would exist in a 1000 – 3000 years “
      How about one worshipping Billgates the God who created the Window into the Internet which begat FB and WhatsApp and keeps the multitudes busy watching even unto 72 virgins on Porntube?

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        OC

        Id say given the stupidity of humankind not impossible.

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    There is a news piece that the Doctor who reported that the child told him that she tried to commit suicide is in a foreign country. Guys, do you know which country allows Lankaweyans to fly to their country? Is that Myanmar or Ukraine? So quickly Visa, ticket, ready made bags and baggage….. ? How come Swiss embassy Garnier didn’t study these things and got caught?

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    This is not a timely article. This writers should be more vocal on current problems of their community regarding COVID spread. It is now becoming clear 2-3 lankens die every 20 minutes. We are all srilankens and should give the priority to most alarming issues of the hour.

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    “Thashkheer is to put aside our intellect and our logic when it comes to the obedience of ALLAH swt and the sunnah of Rasoolulah sal.”
    This is really mind-boggling I must say! Diktats like this would be absolutely unacceptable to any person capable of independent thought and action.

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    The world population report revealed that male population is less than the female population highlight the fact more female than male the solution for such allowed to have more than one wife

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    Just look at that picture. And you want four?

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    Srilanka is a Multi cultural country that accommodates different communities with
    their world guaranteed rights . They are right or wrong , good or bad , just leave it to
    them to decide . Leave it to them especially because , those who are trying to
    tampering with other people’s rights do have a Racist Background and ulterior
    motives than national interest . People’s rights are no Toys for anyone to play around
    with. People change no matter who , with the passage of time as maturity strike
    them on their head ! If it is done with good intention then double check other cultures
    and take away the wrong ones I challenge ! Everyone needs change but not forced
    change ! Find another route to trick the 6.9 million !

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