19 November, 2018

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Dear Mr. President: Letter From A Sri Lankan Queer Woman

By Aloka Wijesinghe

Aloka Wijesinghe

Mr. President, 

As I was going home after lectures yesterday [Monday 5th November 2018], I had to wait in Malabe from 12.45 PM to 8.00 PM, because of your rally at Diyatha. On social media, I noticed a couple of friends of mine being boldly and bravely vocal about remarks you made during your speech. When I browsed through a couple of articles, I just said to myself, “Wait, I’m just an 18 year old and I never had a thing for politics unless it affected my right to live, I mean I’m neither a fan of Ranil Wickremesinghe nor of Mahinda Rajapaksa, I’m done with all these useless rallies where people from far away towns have to come to Colombo on buses and block the roads so students like us have to forget going home or worse, find a place to stay in the road, but in hindsight I bet homeless people have it better”. 

When I read a couple of articles I just saw that you, Mr. President, had referred to Prime Minister Ranil Wickremesinghe as “සමනලයා”; now we all know that this is derogatory language. With this kind of dialogue, you, Mr President, have sunk deeper than the titanic. You also referred to politicians working with Mr wickremesinghe as “සමනල කල්ලිය”. 

When the most powerful man in the country takes issue with people like me on private matters, Mr President, I, for one, will not remain silent. 

Mr. President, 

Your presidential term is best-known for soundbites such as calling upon people to stop drinking Milo, and about the cashews served on board the national airline. But despite all that, there was some respect towards you, somewhere. And that is what you have now lost. For good. 

 Mr. President, 

You decided to degrade the lives of millions, who still do not have their basic human rights to love who they love, and simply to live in peace. You used our lives to insult your political opponent. 

I’m an 18 year old cis lesbian woman who was severely bullied at school, for which, in most cases, the teachers took issue with me and in most cases they themselves were my bullies that I couldn’t stand up to. Dear Mr. President, I am a Lesbian cis woman in Sri Lanka and for people like me, our siblings give up on us, in most cases. People like me are homeless because of their sexual orientation. People like me are forced to enter heterosexual marital ties at an early age without our consent, and in some cases, are raped by family members to turn us straight.  People like me are continuously mocked because people like me are not seen as normal.  

Many queer youth are scared to talk out loud because of the fear of cis-hetero-normative stigmas and backlashes. 

 Mr. President, 

Have you not yet been briefed [other than cashews and Milos], that people like me attempt to commit suicide a lot more than people like you? That many of us face precarious situations, of homelessness and joblessness, simply because of systemic discrimination that mercilessly targets us. Basic rights, such as the right to love the person we love, or hold their hand in public and walk around, are denied to us, Mr President, because of intolerant, ill-informed, prejudiced, uneducated dinosaurs like you. 

 Mr. President, 

Our lives are at stake. Our queer lives were always hanging on a ceiling. Some queer Sri Lankan citizens have been beaten to death, or banned from their native towns and villages. Some are addicted to drugs because people like you and your hateful language mess them up so bad. Queer youth often keep to themselves, or find solace in such destructive addictions, Mr. President,  precisely because people like us are animals to “respectful” people and powerful politicians like you. Because someone waving a rainbow flag hurts your ego. Because seeing actual සමනල කල්ලි – who have taken nothing from you or done to you and yours no harm – hurts your small ego. Whenever we shout “we need our rights”, your political colleagues keep telling us “Bring bigger crowds, vote for us and then we will give your rights!” Haven’t all of us who were born and bred in this motherland of ours stood up in silence on February 4th at Independence day celebrations, because that day does not mean much to us, as our fundamental freedoms are categorically denied to us by our political class? You have shown, Mr President, that this hatred is sanctioned by the Head of State of our motherland.  

Mr. President, 

If you have any respect towards people, the next time you want to blame Ranil or anyone else, please do not insult Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Intersex Sri Lankan citizens. Because of people like you, even the most high-profile amongst us face constant insults and marginalization. We are often forced to sacrifice our entire lives, because of a socially conservative and intolerant “[non]culture” and “[non]traditions”. 

By the way, Mister President, next time you want to blame your colleagues or political opponents, why don’t you merrily deploy your own sexuality instead of zooming on ours? [if a tip is needed, Mr President, you may ask your old friend Mervyn S. of Kelaniya!]. 

*Aloka Wijesinghe is a writer, undergraduate student and LGBTQI+ rights activist. She is the co-founder of Lesketeers                    

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  • 8
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    Aloka: What made you hate Men ?. You know it.

    I am in the west for most of my life. I know their mindset and vocabulary very well. You are writing that from Colombo.

    Are you an international student ?

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      fao JimSoftly
      Grow up man, grow up!
      Don’t focus on the messenger by asking Aloka Wijesinghe whether she is an international student. Focus on her message.

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        Dumb Jim,
        After working in Toronto Toilet Services for most of your life, you still dont have Aloka’s vocabulary.

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          yusuf – How can you expect pea brain Jimbo to have a vocabulary? He must be thrust into a limbo of forgotten things!

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      Please Bumsofty, read SCIENCE magazine, there you will get to know even among Penguines you will find gay penguines. So, that is natural among Human beings too. I am hetero sexcual, but I dont hurt any human beings just because their sex orientation is different that of mine. We on the west work with LGBT colleagues. Even Germany ‘s late foreign minister was gay. Now mayor of Berlin is gay. They are like us. They dont hurt anyone. They dont have their sex life in front of us. These bed stories are out of focus so long they behave well.

      In some part of England or USA, they cant win their elections, if those LGBT communties would not be respected. THat is the issue in India TODAY: But our Monks to allow have it with their Samanera on broad day light and behave as if they are SOVAN bhikssuis is good enough to you, but lay people to be discriminated that way is beyond ethics and morals I would say.

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      “What made you hate Men ?.”
      In her very young age she met a few guys like you. Can you blame her?

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      Jimmy,
      Really? “I am in the west for most of my life.”
      After working so long in Toronto Toilet Services you don’t know there are people with better vocabulary than you.

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        YUSUF: IT is Allah who created this mess. Am I wrong. did not Allah create every thing. Still my job is better paid than your CRAAPY FREE LANCE JOURNALISM.

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          Dumb jim,
          Please give my compliments to that Afghan supervisor of yours. Yo know, the one with the big p**ck who keeps making demands from you. It must be really painful.

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      “Aloka: What made you hate Men ?. You know it”
      Jim soft in the head – What made you love men ? You know it.

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      JimSofty

      Let’s take pity on this child Aloka

      Her statement may be valid in wild west but it’s premature to apply here.

      Hope it’ll never be applicable here.

      It’s worth taking them to the right track rather than letting them live in wrong mental enclave.

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        You will in a western country and still your mentality and thinking is still in stone age. What did you learn from Western civilisation except hatred.

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      Aloka Wijesinghe, about time the youth of our nation hold our politicians accountable. How dare they try and make Mahinda Rajapaksa the man who’s entire family is under investigation and have several ongoing criminal cases against them the Prime Minister of our country.

      This is going againt the election promises they made!

      The citizens of this country want to see them prosecuted and the entire family permanently removed from any and all form of politics.

      Thank you for finding the courage to come forward.

      Shame on India’s Subramanian Swamy to stand by Mahinda Rajapaksa and his Criminal Network while the whole world stands united against these criminals…

    • 2
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      Jim dumwit,

      Are you still in the gutters of Scarborough Refugee Culture?

      Every time I see your comments, I smell the unbearable stink of a coolie emerging from the gutters of a dirty refugee culture in Toronto-Scarborough

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        NIMAL the Scum of the Scum on earth.

        My guess is this girl is a victim of Sri lanka’s present economic culture. Mothers go to work leaving daughters behind that produces LEsbians. IT is the same thing inthe west. M50% of the marraiges are broken with in a hew years or months. The second husband is a Pervert. NIMAL I know you must be a dollar kaakka. Talk something reasonable you A.hole.

  • 29
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    A compassionate appeal. Good one. Guys read it.

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    I am very sorry to hear what you have gone through your school years dear. If you were my daughter and your teachers did to my daughter what they did to you, I will remove their Sarees and hang them upside down inside your classroom.

    From my perspective, LGBT people can do whatever they want with their bodies as they see fit. I have no objections to that. You can hold your lovers hand in public or ride on her shoulders for all I care.

    But I have to tell you that I am opposed to LGBT people becoming Prime Ministers and also raising adopted children. Especially the latter.

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      [Edited out] We are sorry, the comment language is English – CT

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      Rt.Lt.Peeping tom perera
      But I have to tell you that I am opposed to LGBT people becoming Prime Ministers and also raising adopted children. Especially the latter.

      You are another bashi bazouk,not fully evolved yet for the 21st century.If a person is suitable to be the prime minister and can do the job properly,why should his/her sexual orientation have anything to do with getting that job.next you will say you are against women too.So where will it end if we go on nitpicking like this?

      As for adoption,why should they also not enjoy a family just like you do?And why should the children also not enjoy a loving family instead of being in a orphanage?

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      Opposition to raising children I can understand, but becoming PM??
      (No, I don’t support Ranil, nor am I queer)
      The last time I checked the Constitution did not specify ones bedroom practices as qualifications for PM!

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      wow Lt. you talk like the god! they are people just like you and me. they have all the rights!

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      Rtd. Lt,
      Do you know that there is a sexual relationship started in their sixties and it is the outcome now.

  • 22
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    Mr president got wrong in politics ..
    He wants to get his second term ….
    He needs to dislodge Ranil at any cost;
    He expected MR will help him for his second term ..
    He is dreaming..
    MR will never promote him?
    All this issue of homosexuality comes as a result of this power hungry GREED .
    Nothing else .
    So; in Sri Lanka politics goes wrong .

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    Dear Miss,
    Your knowledge of English and your writing skills are exceptional…
    Being a Sinhala girl who is only just 18, makes it even more remarkable..
    Good on you girl..

    You will do exceptinally well as an English Journalist in any part of the World..
    It must be a top school .
    Wonder how much you pay as School Fees..
    Focus on studying..
    Don’t worry about Samanalayas in the UNP…..

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      This comment was removed by a moderator because it didn’t abide by our Comment policy.For more detail see our Comment policy https://www.colombotelegraph.com/index.php/comments-policy-2

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      KASmaalam K A Sumanasekera

      “Focus on studying..
      Don’t worry about Samanalayas in the UNP…..”

      I am sorry are you the paternal/maternal grandfather of Aloka Wijesinghe who is paying all fees and expenses for her education?

      Aren’t you patronizing?
      Would you be glad if she too lavishly praise Dr Mahinda and Sirisena?

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    Dear Aloka, I work in Saudi Arabia but reside in Bahrain. Bahrain is the most cosmopolitan country in the highly conservative Middle East. In Bahrain, LGBT can live without any problem and do whatever they do with each other with no fear. They are not harassed or looked down upon.
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    There are LGBT here who come mainly from Philippines and Thailand and are known as Baklas. As an example, my favorite barber is a Lady Man (a man who looks and behaves like a woman). The first time I entered his saloon, what I saw was a beautiful young girl, who as I found out later was a man. Soon, we got in to the usual saloon talk. He asked me ‘Sir, do you have a boyfriend?” I said no. ‘Sir, my boyfriend left me. If you like I can be your boyfriend’. I turned down his offer politely.
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    What I find is that the LGBT relationships are very much longer lasting and stronger. In fact, if you romantically approach a partner of such a relationship, you would certainly be met with fury by the other partner. There are a few cases where they ended up with murder.
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    LGBT people are to be pitied for their weaknesses or physical abnormality, which are genetic and about which they cannot do anything.

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      edwin rodrigo,

      Why did you turn down the offer? Usually Filipino baklas don’t like south Asian men for hygienic issues – you must be lucky. Also you wouldn’t regret anything trying them since these Baklas are very hygienic, clean, softer and always smelling good that you don’t even find among educated and upper class Sri Lankan women who smell bad..

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        Yes Amila, there is some truth in what you say about hygiene. The offer was made by the bakla not because of the cleanliness of my body but because of the fullness of my wallet. He knew I was not a kanjus (miser). We were introduced by a mutual friend who was gay.
        .
        I find that Baklas are highly creative people in art, music, dress making etc. Many Saudis come to Bahrain in the weekends in search of Baklas, whom they prefer over women. I do not know why.

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        amila
        educated and upper class Sri Lankan women who smell bad..

        is it your dick you use or your nose when you get into bed with them?

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        I heard Philipinos like Arab men who like the what the Philipino women like. I can explain. IT is the western culture. but the Indian version was more sinister.

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      Edwin

      “The first time I entered his saloon, what I saw was a beautiful young girl, who as I found out later was a man.”

      The same thing happened to a guy i know.he was dancing in singapore with a beautiful girl and his hand went down and he found she was a man.

      Edwin,i know initially you would have been disappointed,but as in physics once a momentum has been made it is difficult to stop,but the velocity can be reduced.

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        Shankar, those days I had a Philippino housekeeper by the name of Lisa, who would have disapproved of any gay behavior on my part. Not that I wanted to indulge in any such behavior, any way.
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        This does not mean that Lisa and I had any sexual relationship. It was far more professional than that. She was more like a daughter guiding me through such matters. She would have put a knife between my ribs if I tried any funny stuff.
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        She turned a blind eye on my hetero-sexual behavior with others, not opposing nor assisting. Now, she is back in Philippines running a small grocery and doing quite well.
        .
        The bottom line is that I do not want to even consider that sort of stuff and I am happy with what I am. I m happy with zero momentum.

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          Edwin
          Does zero momentum mean E.D. Just curious my friend. Believe you are back to Sri Lanka at the end of the year. So good bye to the baklas.

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            Steve, E. D.? What do you mean?
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            Yes, I will be back in SL at the end of Jan 1. Goodbye to the baklas? I am no fan!

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              Edwin

              Erectile Disfunction-E.D.

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                Oh Yeah? Thanks Steve. Is there anyway of inducing it purposely? I am over 70 but it never seems to be satisfied.

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                  edwin

                  why do that.just enjoy till you die.iam 98 in dec and the ‘nurse’ at my house does evrything to keep me happy.I just lie back and enjoy.use it or lose it.

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                  Edwin
                  It has a mind of its own. So don’t worry about the age.

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                    Steve and Shankar, I have taken your advice and decided to let things their course rather than trying to guide the flow. You really are good friends.

                    N.B.: I have withdrawn my letter of resignation, to the jubilation of my boss and to the loud sighs of the ladies in my office.

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    Milo cashew My3 , cant even pay respect to the national anthem of the country. The President of the country waving his hands around while the national anthem of the country is playing.

    Sri Lanka has such a low level President

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    i feel sorry for what this girl has gone through because of some ancient bashi bazouks in SL.

  • 8
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    If the president has anything called decency in him,he should either reply to this girl or issue a general apology to same sex people.i know he won’t the gutless m——-f—–.

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    “By the way, Mister President, next time you want to blame your colleagues or political opponents, why don’t you merrily deploy your own sexuality instead of zooming on ours? [if a tip is needed, Mr President, you may ask your old friend Mervyn S. of Kelaniya!]. “

    dear aloka,it is your duty to the country to elaborate further.did he have sex with mervyn S?

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    As a Sri Lankan Citizen, I hate these LGBTQ culture that demolishes our internal social order and ethics and morality. Sri Lanka should be free from these western hegemonic aspirations. So that iam proud of my president who speaks against it

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      Please explain how sri Lankan is gonna be ethical or moral by refusing his own people their human rights. We were born in this country it’s my birth right to live in this country as a free person. You are so proud of a person who represent a whole nation who can’t even stand for their own. This is not a trend or a hashing this is who I am.

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      As a Sri Lankan Citizen who now resides in a western country, your opinions are nothing but hateful and quite archaic. Our internal social order is built on patriarchy, abuse and a power imbalance that only caters to the needs of straight men. The only one who needs a lesson on ethics and morality is you my friend.

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      zacky

      “As a Sri Lankan Citizen, I hate these LGBTQ culture that demolishes our internal social order and ethics and morality. “

      how does what they do affect you,and what makes you think it is a culture BTW?

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      Zacky,

      It’s their body and not yours. Unless they are after your something. If that is the case, then you should turn around give them a thundering punch. The Pinkies must understand that we straight people have rights too. Every straight person reserves the right to be not harassed by a pinky who is looking for a lolly.

      But if they are not bothering you, we must not bother them and allow them to go about their “business”. You must realize that from ancient days Sri Lanka was a paradise for Gays.

      King Dutugemunu was Homo. That is why at the time of his death there was no queen by his bedside. King Parakramabahu was a Gay man and Tamil King Sakkilian was a number one Homo. Even Elara I have my doubts. If one has seen a picture of Elara, one would realize that he looks just like Shyam Selavadurai.

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    Homosexuality and prostitution were made illegal by Christian colonial parasites. It is high time we change this. By making prostitution illegal who benefits? Police.

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    I am so profoundly moved by your article. I hope more and more people in our country will gradually see the error in our ways in relation to our treatment of the LGBTQI community- and well,so much more!
    Keep up the brilliant work that you do for yourself and your community Aloka! You will always have my support :)

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    Hi Ms Aloka Wijesinghe,

    Reading through your piece …….. I felt very proud to be a Lankan! ……….. And I haven’t had many days I’ve felt that way.

    I’m glad that Lankan youth now have the ability to wade through these ……… using their intellect.

    Live your life on your own terms ………… don’t let any unprincipled con-artist/artists ………take that away from you.

    At 18 …….. in the tip of your little finger…….. you have more honesty, integrity and class……… than perhaps 95% of Lankan adults.

    Keeps your wits about and be safe …….. these are dangerous times.

    Good Luck

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    Aloka, Sri Lanka has never ever persecuted a homosexual person although homosexual acts are illegal. There were homosexuals in the political arena and in other circles long before you were born and to date. I doubt you have heard of Paul Bowles, an American writer and a composer who was famously bisexual and chose the Thaprobane island as his second home (his first home was Tangier in Morocco), and Arthur C. Cleark the famous science fiction writer made Sri Lanka his home until his death because this island is tolerant of homosexuality, there were and are others, famous writers and artist,s like Norman Mailer or Shyam Selvathurai. The point is no one on this island is going to persecute you, attack you. Or, forcibly get you married, or rape you each night, as you say. You are eighteen, an adult and is not a Muslim woman (for whom the horrors of MMDA applies), no one can get you forcibly married
    You are dismayed about a rally that caused you inconvenience, but in a democracy, everyone has the right to protest or rally peacefully. You were stranded in Malambe, not in the jungles of Borneo.
    Aloka may I suggest that you try to take the focus out of yourself and think of all those Muslim girls who are 13 and above, they are the ones who are vulnerable to forced marriages and raped every night because they are under a draconian law. If you are so upset about the Butterfly reference to take a moment to study the MMDA law, you will realize you are crying for Prada shoes when there are women and girls here without legs to walk on.

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      You need to get your facts straight. There are so many people in sri lanka who gets sexually abused and prosecuted by the police. Also there are many men and women who get into marriages forcefully by their parents and become victims of marital rape. I mean with What confidence can you say none to any of these. And are you suggesting that she should leave this country simply because our president and many others are bigots? Why it’s her mother land shouldn’t we all have the same right ?
      Also all people have issues just because you only agree on one minority’s issues doesn’t mean you have the right to look down on others. Those Mulim girls and us, we all have our human rights violated.in our own country.

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      Get you facts right before attack, there are many people who gets sexually abused and prosecuted by the police because of their sexuality it has happened it still happens. How on earth can you say with so much confident that no one ever have. Also many homosexual people gets forced into marriages by their parents and relatives and at some.instances just to “cure” them. They do face martial rape every day. You can’t simply say Muslim.woman have more issues your issues aren’t valid. Yes they are valid. It’s not.prada shoes it’s human right. All of us have our human rights violated. Not just one. You can’t stand on your bigoted cloud and act like you are an open minded feminists just coz you talk about one oppressed party when you have such bigotry remarks on the other. Forget prada you walk on our shoes and see how easy it is to be humiliated harassed every day simply coz of who you are. This is not us fighting to get a snapchat filter changed this is our life you ignorant .son of a.person.

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      Your opinion oversimplifies the countless issues faced by the LGBTQI+ community. As much as there are issues in other groups within Sri Lanka, it doesn’t make the issues felt by the LQBTQI+ community less relevant.
      Please stop using anomalies as the norm and realise that countless people get harassed sexually and forcibly married in order to protect their families ‘name’.
      All this article asks you to do is have equal LEGAL rights for Lankan civilians regardless of sexual orientation. Why are you so butt-hurt about enforcing equality?
      Equality for you, for the muslim girl under MMDA and equality for the gay dude down the road. Equality for EVERYONE!

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        Free Lankan and Shak Das, as for the marriage issue, Sinhala or Tamil women cannot forcibly be married before 18 and after 18 you are an adult an no one can force you to get married, men belonging to any of the ethnicities cannot be forcibly married. that is the law, so rather than crying wolf and playing the victim stand up to your parents. Get a job, get a scholarship to be financially independent, then no one can force you to get married. Playing the victim has become the most profitable past time if you worked hard instead you don’t need to dependant on people who may force you to things that you don’t want to do. I see boys walking holding hand regularly, they may not be gay, I don’t see anyone harassing them. You might be harassed by the police if you were doing more than holding hands at the Kinross beach at night time, gay dude, so would be your hetero friend up the lane, police will chase them out. You are not special, no one is.

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    He is worse than a scavenger!!!

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    Sira first got infuriated when at a Musical show some one in the audience threw a Brassier on stage. He would have thought it was his daughters but to see it has been Renuka’s the keep.

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    Awesome writing for your age.I respect and salute you for your bravery in going public for what you believe is right. There are no ‘people like me or ‘people like you’ God made us in his own image and we are all human beings that have a right to live the way God made us. I am not LGBT but I very strongly believe in the saying “do not judge others, and you will not be judged”. My heart goes out to you for all that you have had to go through and pray that people everywhere will one day have enough love in their hearts to open their minds to those whom they think are different to them. Whatever you are, I believe it’s no fault of yours as we are all made in different ways and no one has any right to call you names or throw stones at you. God bless you little girl be courageous always.

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    I wonder if this is your writing. I really enjoy your writing style more than your argument about Lesbian culture. I do not agree with that culture. But your writing is superb. It is great to read your writing. Keep writing. You have a great future in writing. But, one thing I suspect. Is it genuinely your writing. I do not think 18 year old girl could write in this creative way. I hope that someone will help you to write this.????

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      Jealous much?

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      yes this is her writing, she is a writer & a poet too.

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    Dear Aloka, you may discover by age 30 or so (when you feel lonely and find attracting other women is an impossibility), that you wasted your life unable to overcome a childish urge for same sex interest.

    A careful view in front of a mirror will show you that the human body is designed by a higher force for male-female union, and not for sex toys and other perversions.

    Hope you still have time to overcome your mistaken understanding of sexuality by becoming free of American, Jewish values and finding a good virile boy friend who will never let you go astray again.. =
    Good luck.

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    Aloka, please take my question seriously. I am just innocently curious.

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    I can understand what gays do when they indulge in sex. It is obvious for any normal person. But I cannot understand what in the world Lesbians do when they indulge in sex. When Lisa my housekeeper was with me, I probed her on the fringes of the question and was treated with a stare so evil that I got up and walked away. I have done the same with other lady associates and all I got was loud laughter and looks of pity from them.
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    I don’t know what is so secret about it. I hope you can provide some clues. I know that a raw explanation will never get through the censorship cocoon of CT, which seems to be tighter than the defense cocoon around a US Carrier Attack Group. At least give me some references. Thank you.

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      Edwin,
      Search in Google, ‘lesbian sex videos’. I am sure you will enjoy.

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        If you did so would I.

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      Come on man Edwin, there is plenty of material on the Internet about lesbianism and that includes HD videos. It is so simple to do a search on Google. You can stay up the whole night watching those and that will satisfy your curiosity more than you bargained for!

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        Eagle Eye and Estate Labourer, I do not think that you get the truth from the internet. Everything is exaggerated. The sizes, timings et al. are all inflated. I am in search of the truth. And what is better than getting it from the horses’ mouth?
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        Thanks anyway EE & EL.

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      Neither the writer nor any one else is obliged to answer your puerile questions. The utter baldfaced nerve.

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      Neither the writer nor anyone else is obliged to answer your puerile questions.

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        Nicola, I never said that you and your partner Aloka were obliged to answer. It was only a kind request. EE and EL have already answered my questions. So you and Aloka need not divulge your most cherished and well guarded secrets. I wish you a happy and long life together. Keep away from Appa and you will be OK, OK? I say that because it was Appa that did all the damage to our country back in 2015.

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          Your rationality and political acumen are apparently as mature as your emotional intelligence. People like you think that merely because you have internet access and can type that automatically validates your putrid opinions and beliefs.

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            Nicola, isn’t the internet wonderful? So are computers, laptops and tabs too. The darned things even check your spelling and grammar. I have no idea of how they work. But there it is!
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            This Lesbian thing is more wonderful than that. I am fascinated and want to know how it works. As suggested by EE and EL I watched lesbian videos the whole afternoon today. But they were no help at all.
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            Nicola, just let me explain what I want to know through an analogy. You know the 3-hole wall sockets that are used with electric kettles etc. The kettle cord has a plug consisting of projections and the socket has orifices of the right size so that the projections may be inserted in to them when required.
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            Now consider the hypothetical situation where the kettle also has a wall socket like device where the plug should have been. In this situation, no one would be able to use the kettle. The situation is like the 2 -lesbian situation. So, we have to conclude that we need orifices as well as projections. Orifices only would not work. How do lesbians like Nicola and Aloka overcome this problem?

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              edwin

              ” So, we have to conclude that we need orifices as well as projections.”

              edwin,isn’t the tongue a projection when it comes out of the mouth?isn’t the finger a projection.isn’t a dildo a projection.All this without a man farting.

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                “edwin, isn’t the tongue a projection when it comes out of the mouth? aren’t the finger, dildo, projections”?
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                Shankar, you are an experienced guy of 96, or 69 or whatever, and you say these are substitutes? The tongue would be if you are on a 69, there being no other option. The other things are poor substitutes for the real thing.
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                They are all like a Carrier Strike Group without an Aircraft Carrier. You may have Aegis class cruisers, Guided Missile Cruisers, frigates, Submarines and Destroyers in the Group making up perhaps 30 ships. But without an Aircraft Carrier they are nothing. There is no prestige, impact, majesty or the ‘oomph’ factor without a Carrier. The Carrier projects the shock and awe that goes right to heart of the target subduing it and tempting her to open up the gates wider and making the entry pleasant and easy for all parties concerned.
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                If you LGBT have never tried it, I recommend that you do. Don’t go for cheap imitations. Go for the original stuff. God may have made a slight mistake by placing a fun park next to a sewer. But he has compensated the user by making it double the fun.

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              The guy who coined the term ‘Aappa Gahanawa’ must be really a creative person.

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              Prurient troll.

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            Socket to Socket: Nicola and Aloka, I could not sleep last night. The Lesbian puzzle continued to bother me throughout the night. I am like that when there is a problem to solve. I watched more Lesbian videos hoping to get some clue to the solution. There was none but I was impressed by the way you ladies improvise to lick the socket to socket problem.
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            Inspired by your perseverance, I took two unused wall sockets and started rubbing them together, expecting that I will get that Eureka moment. That of course, never came and I started to count sheep. On the 69th sheep the alarm rang and I had to get up. Now it is 07:00 AM here in the ME and I am in office, again trying to lick the socket problem. Good thing that the only work I have is commenting in CT.

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              This thread was infinitely more amusing and interesting than all the drivel on politics and whatever.

              edwin I am sure you have been confronted with connecting say two female USB ports. You run over to the electronics store and buy a female-to-female adapter. It is as simple as that.

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                sbarrkum, you say, edwin I am sure you have been confronted with connecting say two female USB ports. USB ports? my foot! Nicola is in her fifty’s. No doubt that a dozen Aircraft Carriers must have sailed through her Port before she became Lesbian. There is no way such huge things could be handled by a 5 VDC USB port. Even 230 VAC would be hardly enough.
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                But do be careful and always consult an expert like Edwin before you start connecting 50-year-old ports to 18-year-old ones. It is not rocket science. But neither is it just a matter of pushing a big PVC pipe through a smaller one.
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                Nice try, anyway. Foolish sbarrkum. But nice. It is not your fault that in Edwin you have a clever guy, who is known as the Einstein of Bahrain.

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              Where is Nicola? When I hear that name, I conjure up a mental picture of my favorite Nicole Kidman. What a waste if you are LBGT.
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              Don’t seal off your entrance gate to fun.

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                Edwin
                Watching a lot of porn videos are you. Now that your boss is happy you are not leaving, ask him to send you to Thailand on holiday to watch live lesbian shows.

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                  Actually, NO Steve. The close up shots of the ports are disgusting. If I watch anymore I may even get E.D.
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                  Thai girls smell of Garlic and I hate garlic.
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                  Today I withdrew my resignation letter. One does not want to give up everything and come back to a sinking ship with two Captains and a mad LGBT hater at the helm, even if it were an Aircraft carrier. I told my boss, when I die to put the body in a wooden box send it back. That is the only way I am going to return to Sri Lanka.

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    The letter is excellent but the so-called President (as he has no vote base at all than even Mervyn Silva) cannot understand this letter. If he can criticise our country’s pride SriLankan Airlines just for getting old cadjunuts on board just to show that he is a mighty king who should be served with gold coated fresh cadjunuts, we know his swollen headed mentality. That foolish remark may have plunged the sales further. Very soon he will go down 6 feet underground by his own former rivals.

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    Most of the comments here are just vile.

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    Brave girl Aloka. I would be proud if you were my daughter. Stay strong and look after yourself.

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    Those interested in finding out more, may try the following.
    Lesketeers – Aloka and Chameli are a Sri Lankan lesbian couple with their own YouTube channel…
    A check reveals that Aloka was involved in the award winning Teledrama Kumbiyo (Ants). Aloka and Chameli may be an expert all kinds of holes, such as ant holes. Kumbi gul, kadi gul.

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    It was known from the beginning this man MS was not made of leadership material. He was only used to send MR and his gangsters home. Now he has proven what a cheap human being he is and how desperate he is to hold on to his post. Only time will tell if My3 will be able to go home with his 3 intact.

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    Aloka, there is a Buddhist saying _ Aloko Udapadhi – meaning ‘light arose’. I presume your parents named you meaning this.

    So why are you thinking that you are unable to sexually function with a male to mutual satisfaction and why are interested in women sexually? This is a passing phase in every one’s life and when people sexually mature they understand the true nature of sexuality and 99% move in the right direction. Male homosexuals who were subjected to sexual abuse during childhood appear to be unable to escape.

    So at 18 (as you say), you are still maturing sexually and don’t be categorised with these weired women who try to recruit young girls like you, because they can only fool the young. As a woman, you will realise that two mature women never want to be together knowing the reality of their lives.

    So be brave, step out of the trap you are in. Our culture has much more to offer than these weird middle eastern no-values.

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      Seriously, this is very good advice. consider taking it Aloka. While many like, me have. been joking and having fun with the condition this girl is in, Visakha has done the right thing.

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    Well Done Aloka… good for you..
    I think all the professionals and educated people in srilanka should come out and ask this idiotic president to go home and look after his family in his village.. I do not understand how he can as the president of Lankan come out and talk about one of his colleagues private life, it is nothing to do with him, non of his business.. he can have an opinion about with his political decisions.. but not about the private life.. For him to come out to a rally asking for support and having talk about srilankan prime ministers private life shows that he does not have a leg to stand on for what he did… completely against the constitution.. if they claim this is done according to the constitution, why dod they have to do this behind closed door and at night.. get back in the parliament and put the facts out on the table and debate about this… you are pathetic president… if you could not work with your colleague , if you don’t have the personality work with people around you… best thing for you to do is to resign from the job and let somebody else take over… not removing other people around you… look in the mirror .. it is you who cannot work with others because you have this stupid ideas in your head…

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    Proud of you! Proud of your bravery to stand against discrimination. I’m also like you. Wish I had the courage to speak like you, but my vocabulary is very poor. Anyways, we are all with you, and you are with us.
    Thank you for this! This encouraged me more.

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    Aloka: We are agonising over the coup. By the way, do you know that we have had a ‘coup d’etat’ – bloodless though.

    We are ashamed to see the self-auctioning by our lawmakers. Our reputation is being shredded at international laundries.
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    Please do not use this to further your cause. It may in fact damage it!

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