26 November, 2020

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Kamalini Selvarajan – A Child Of A Lesser God!

By Sharmini Serasinghe

 

Sharmini Serasinghe

Sharmini Serasinghe

 

Kamalini my dearest friend

your smile and the magic of the aura,

that radiates around your vibrant self

always lit up the darkest of times

 

Though in your new world of the unknown

you no longer know me

yet you greet me with that charming smile

you gave so freely to friends and foe

in better times

 

And so, it breaks my heart to know

you don’t know me, once your friend, anymore

in this strange new world

your God has made for you!”

 

Forgive me my friend

but understand your God

I do not

 

He took away your soul

and left me a living shell

 

Did he not find one

more worthy of his wrath?

 

(Sharmini)

 

Kamalini Selvarajan, my friend and colleague at Rupavahini- Sri Lanka’s national Television, has been diagnosed with Dementia!

Kamalini is an iconic TV personality and film star. She was, and is still loved by all, irrespective of caste, creed or race.

Kamalini

Kamalini

She is best known for her role as an Indian teacher in the film ‘Ordinary Magic’ and ‘Komaligal’- the Sri Lankan Tamil film, where Kamalini acted with her late husband SillaiyurSelvarajan, as lovers.

The following testimony was sent to me by her family:

“It’s three o’clock in the afternoon. My sister Kamalini is sitting on a sofa staring at the TV watching ‘Tom and Jerry’ without any emotions or reactions to what she sees.

While I tidy up her room, she asks when she will have lunch. Is this the seventh time she has asked this question today? Eighth? I’ve lost count. Yet I take a deep breath, repeat silently to myself to be patient, and try to smile as I remind her that she had her lunch just over an hour ago.

She smiles back, and her eyes gaze vacantly, once again, at her surroundings. I don’t know what she is thinking, it is hard to tell. Kamalini is now sixty years of age. She is quiet, subdued and thinks I’m her ‘Aunty’. She no longer knows who she is or where she is!

Kamalini is a graduate in Mass Communication from the University of Kelaniya, and hails from an affluent family of highly qualified professionals.

Alas, disaster struck when a cub-reporter from a local newspaper, with no knowledge of Dementia, visited Kamalini at the apartment where she lives with her son. Posing off as a computer professional and part time translator, he had inquired after Kamalini’s health and financial situation.

This journalist then went on to air his ‘views’ in a newspaper article violating journalistic ethics, falsely claiming that Kamalini’s condition had been caused by her sudden dismissal from her employment at a TV station.

His false story goes on to claim that if sufficient money was spent, Kamalini’s condition could be treated. He then goes a step further, claiming that Kamalini’s son was not in a position to work full time as he has to look after his mother.

KamaliniSimilar comments were made by journalists of other media, without verifying facts, perhaps with the hope of creating sensationalism.

Some opportunists who were quick to grab this chance to make a fast buck, started collecting ‘donations’ in Kamalini’s name, not only in Sri Lanka but also overseas, such as UK, Australia, Switzerland, Canada, Norway and the Middle East.

But as far as the real story goes……..

Kamalini’s housing loan is paid through a standing order at her bank by her family members, and is not in arrears. All meals for both mother and son are provided, and costs incurred thereof, are met by Kamalini’s family members.

In addition cash is also provided to the son, to meet expenses such as utility payments and other incidental expenses. Clothing is also provided on a regular basis. The total monthly expenses in this regard are borne by her brothers and sister.

Kamalini’s family members wish to inform all those concerned about her welfare, that she is presently under expert professional care, with those possessing decades of experience in treating patients with Dementia.

The monthly cost of care alone is approximately Rs 164,814/-, excluding the cost of medication.

For obvious reasons, her family members do not wish Kamalini to have any visitors, until satisfactory recovery is observed.

Whilst appreciating the concern to assist Kamalini, we her family members are of the view, that she requires complete rest, which will ultimately pave the way for her stability.

Any fund-raising activities with dishonest motives, both locally and overseas must be discouraged in toto.

We her family, hereby request friends, well-wishers and relatives, not to be misled by rumours, and therefore be cautious in falling prey, to nefarious fund raising attempts.

Sincere well-wishers are requested instead, to make their contributions, only to Mrs Kamalini Selvarajan’s current account number (039010001955) with Hatton National Bank, Bambalapitiya Branch, and to no one else.”

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    Sharmini,
    With respect and understanding your love to fellow humans you live with, I already arranged to put A$100 to this account.
    We love you and your courage.

    Get well soon Kamalini or be in peace with whatever the condition you go through.
    Anura

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      Thank you Anura. You kind and humane gesture means so much to me.

      Thanking you,
      Sharmini

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    Sharmini!There is no swift code (branch code) to effect digital payment???

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      Dear Javi,

      I’ll check with HNB and get back to you.

      Thank you,
      Sharmini

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      Dear Javi,

      Please click on the following link and you will find the swift codes of all the banks operating in Sri Lanka, including HNB.

      http://www.theswiftcodes.com/sri-lanka/

      Best regards,
      Sharmini

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        I used this code: HBLILKLXXXX which is level 16 Bamba.C-4.
        I paid Pounds Sterling 105.00 and it will be in her account on Monday GMT 12-14hrs. The note says Appeal Sharmini Serasingha. Om Hari Om
        Cheers. ◕‿◕ (^‿◕)

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          Thank you Javi.

          All that we can do now, is to make her life physically comfortable.

          Sharmini

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            Dear Sharmini please,just me Thinking Aloud: A couple of years ago I heard this on BBC radio 5 `All In The Mind` Programme that …folk who eat curry don’t easily get dementia, so I thought what?? ಠ_ಠ ಠ_ಠ ಠ_ಠ ÖÖÖ
            Well a professor of one university confirmed that their research confirms |`Tumeric`| to be the cut-off agent and research is almost complete so we may have a tablet (yak) from `Welcome’. But Lanka is blessed with the natural and it’s like ginseng too, I mean the turmeric, excess would create (liver)hepatitis then you drink romantic wine like cat-olic monks. (^‿◕) Jokes aside regular use in curry or external application as at Hindu temple helps balance the metabolism. Did you know the red pottu keeps the force away (e-vil flashes)?
            ___________________________________________________
            BTW in the UK a very successful therapy and an income earner subsequently is painting, clay making, and sale online by dedicated charity and others in the MHSC- the painting deviates the mind playfully-needless to say.

            Ask your friend to try. Beat Wishes Javi.。◕‿◕。 。◕‿◕。

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              Dear Javi,

              Kamalini being a Hindu must be used to a lot of turmeric, not only in her regular meals of rice & curry but also as a disinfectant.

              Regarding the red pottu, I have never seen her without one :-)

              Thank you for your help and concern Javi.

              What Kamalini needs most now is to know that there are kind people like you and others on this thread who love her and truly care about her- this is all positive energy for her stability and hopefully a speedy recovery.

              Thanking you and others on this thread,
              Sharmini

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      Can funds be sent by Paypal as well?

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        Dear Mr. Amarasiri,

        I shall check and get back to you.

        Thank you,
        Sharmini

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          Dear Ms. Sharamini Serasinghe,………………………………

          Thanks. Bless you for your altruism. It will also be useful to provide complete instructions to:
          “Mrs Kamalini Selvarajan’s current account number (039010001955) with Hatton National Bank, Bambalapitiya Branch,” with complete Address, and instructions to the Bank Manager,( If name available better) to deposit the funds directly to the above account for those who wants to mail………………………………

          “Kamalini Selvarajan – A Child Of A Lesser God!”, does bring her plight to the surface, but nevertheless Kamalini is still the Child of the Same God or Natural Force we all originated – The Egalitarian God.
          …………………………………………………

          http://www.philosophybasics.com/branch_egalitarianism.html
          …………………………………………………….

          Egalitarianism is a political doctrine that holds that all people should be treated as equals from birth, usually meaning held equal under the law and in society at large. It is a belief in human equality, especially with respect to social, political and economic rights and privileges, and advocates the removal of inequalities among people and of discrimination (on grounds such as race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc)……………

          Moral Egalitarianism is the position that equality is central to justice, that all individuals are entitled to equal respect, and that all human persons are equal in fundamental worth or moral status.

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            Dear Mr. Amarasiri,

            Perhaps Kamalini’s family members who are monitoring this thread could provide you with the information you need regarding Kamalini’s
            bank account.

            Thank you,
            Sharmini

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        Amare Yes and it’s so very convenient because we dont then need to know account detail. (ofcourse the recipent should also hold a pay pal account)
        It’s more secure than our banksters i.e. quick reimbursement if mishandled. Anyway, All we need is their email address or mobile number, so you never need to exchange bank details.
        (^‿◕)

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        Kamalini does not have a paypal account the transactions through which although is easier will be exposed to greater risk.We donot wish funds to be sent to any other person.Thanks.

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      HNB foreign currency banking Swift Code is HBLILKLX001

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    Sorry about this . I know your pain .

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      Thanks you Abhaya.

      Best regards,
      Sharmini

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      I thoguht Rajapakshe apologists like you may have no heart :)

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        Dear Sir,Please please please, We beg from you please leave out politics out of this issue.We beg from you again.

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          The UK is hosting a G8 summit on dementia in London on 11 December. The summit aims to develop co-ordinated global action on dementia.
          They say EAT Medetaranian Food???WATCH
          “At the eve of the G8 Dementia Summit in London, UK, it is not just the G8 countries, but all nations, that must commit to a sustained increase in dementia research.”
          __________________________________________________
          https://www.gov.uk/government/news/watch-the-g8-dementia-summit-live-on-11-december

          。◕‿◕。

      • 0
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        You call yourself peaceheart and you make stupid comments. I wonder if you read and understood the article. Change your name to NoHeart. Please heed the family request to not involve politics.

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    DementiA, probably ALzheimers.

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      What a pity you don’t have it.

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        That is cruel. I won’t wish it on even my worst enemy. Please retract it.

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          Piranha, I’m sorry, but this Jim Softy fellow has compassion only for his Rajapaksas, no one else, not even for an innocent lady like Kamalini. Would it have been so hard for him to offer some words of compassion instead of defining the term Dementia in his comment?

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    Dear Sharmini,
    As a Buddhist, I, my Family feel extreme sorry for her sickness,And will pray and do some merit able deeds or Daana offerings to get her early recovery,
    May you all be bless with Triple gem, be healthy.
    May peace be with all of us.
    JULAMPITIYE AMARAYA,

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    Sharmini, When we have to go, we have to go.. Sometimes even dementia is a good disease to have.. Once you realize why it’s good then you will realize about life!!…………….There is not insurance on life.. Sharmini, Your are a beautiful and intelligent lady that is very very hard to find.. [Edited out]

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      To all those commenting on this thread,

      I have asked Kamalini’s family to monitor this comment thread. And I’m sure they are conveying your kind gestures and words of compassion and love to her. Perhaps she will understand in her own way, that we all love her and feel for her.

      Thank you all for your greatness in rising above man-made boundaries; caste, creed, religion and race, to feel for and reach out to a fellow human being!

      Thanking you all once again,
      Sharmini

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    Sharmini,

    I knew her husband – who was in the printing business. Kamalani used to sometimes accompany him to meet a senior Tamil Minister, whom I knew well. She was a pleasant person and polite in conversation.

    What you are doing is real reconciliation. This is one further instance that parting of the ways between the two races Tarzie Vittachi feared in 1958 is, once again, a long way off.

    R. Varathan

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      Mr. Varathan,

      You are right.

      As long as there are people like Sharmini are around, Tarzie Vittachi’s predictions will never come true.

      Her sincere compassion for fellow human beings (and I know, for animals too)irrespective of caste, creed, religion or race, is very rare in this cruel world we live in today.

      The government should seek out people like her in its reconciliation process.

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        Hey Maldive fish”(and I know, for animals too}” easy chum, SINHA ain’t gonna like that snide remark one bit.Having said that, Sharmini, if you don’t mind my saying so,what’ vital right now for Kamalini who always struck me as being a lovely, warm woman, [ for one could see it in her face and demeanor,]is that she be encouraged to have faith and that her obviously remarkable family members are also encouraged to exercise faith.It would be wonderful to hear that she has returned to being her old self again. I know she well deserves that. i have some very devout Christian friends here and have asked them for special prayer for her recovery. nothing is impossible, especially when it is something good for so deserving a person. Speak to her Sharmini. Her subconscious can and will respond to the frequencies of love, more powerfully than the conscious. You know all about it from your own broadcasting days. Words and inflections can trigger a healing process. We will do our bit with supporting prayer.just ask them all to focus on a positive recovery. God bless you all.It’s a great thing you’ve undertaken to do. Blessings.

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    Sri lankan-Tamil diaspora. Where are your voices here? Your sister Kamalini needs you.

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      Dear Sir,Please please please’
      We beg from you please leave out communal feelings.

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    Sharmini’s articles usually attract well over 200 comments, but here she pours her heart out over her ‘Tamil’ friend Kamalini’s plight and there are only 7 comments?

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      Goofy, although the comments are comparatively few, going by the number of clicks on facebook ‘likes’ (below the caption), 144 people have read this piece on Kamalini but not commented.

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    Dear Sharmini,

    I would like to contribute something. Kamalini was such a great person and a peacemaker through media.

    Thank you so much for this wonderful piece of writing and others that you continue to do.

    Best

    Visakha

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      Dear Visakha,

      Thank you for your comment. All that we can do now is to help Kamalini’s family to keep her physically comfortable as possible.

      Warm regards,
      Sharmini

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    “Every adult should become a child, if he wants to go to heaven”- Jesus Christ, knowing very well physically impossible, but the adult’s mind; it goes well with Buddhism as well, you got to be free of all desires. So Kamalini has no reason to be unduly worried.

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      Tadpole (゜゜)~ no reason to be unduly worried. (゜゜)~ tadpole ||\(@_@)

      Half baked big bad Jo, keep hell away fascist and stop loving a penguin.
      ________________________________________________________

      for an artist- Youth has no Age!! 。◕‿◕。 ☻ 。◕‿◕。

      ________________________________________________________

      Hanuman ki Jai

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        Hanuman is a monkey, your family

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          Thats sanskrit not for the low class!

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            Ha means ‘Supreme Spirit.’
            Nu means ‘that which permeates’
            Man means ‘manifested’

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    Dear Sir,Please please please, We beg from you please leave out communal feelings.This is one further instance that parting of the ways between the two races Tarzie Vittachi feared in 1958 is, once again, a long way off.
    We beg from you again.

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    The best medicine discovered at present for Dementia is good quality coconut oil. Put coconut oil into a jam jar and put in the fridge. It will become solid. When solid it is easy to use it beaten with fruit juices. She need one teaspoon in the morning, one at noon and one in the night. This treatment will also reduce her cholesterol if she has any, and also reduce blood sugar. This is cheap but the most effective, and widely now used in USA and most developed countries. Reports show that cure happens within 30 days. Do this to treat her physically. She needs some mental treatment as well, as the cause of this sickness is emotion based. Just leave a toy like a real like stuffed doll in some place where she will accidentally find it. It should not be handed over to her. Just let her find it. My blessings!!

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      Dear Mr. Nanayakkara,

      Thank you for sharing this helpful tip.

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    Dear Sharmini,
    I have never met you but I have watched you on TV when I was in SL. I am touched by your brave and kind gesture towards Kamalini’s plight. Since you reach many through your profile I have a suggestion. Why don’t you start a charity towards survivors of killed, disappeared and imprisoned journalists.
    I can do my bit by introducing to Rory Peck Trust in the UK who have funds for journalists.

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      Dear Pearl,

      Thank you for your suggestion.

      Warm regards,
      Sharmini

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    Dear Sharmini,
    way back in 2004 I was working in the same block as Rory Peck trust and helped them iout with translating for some journalists who were seeking asylum in Europe and corresponding with t heir families in SL. The families received financial help with mortgage etc. They alsi visit journalists in detention centres whereever they are.

    In 2009 one member and a BBC journalist asked me to focus on Sri Lankan journalists and let Rory Peck know how they can help them and to give names.

    As a founding member of Exiled Journalits Network I managed to get a few thousand pounds to exiled journalists who were struggling while their asylum applications were pending. There are various criteria to qualify for the Trust’s funding.

    If you can check out on Google Rory Peck Trust you will get further info.
    I hope this helps.

    Meanwhile when I have some time I’ll contact Rory Peck and explain Kamalini’s situ.

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    What a kind gesture by Ms Serasinghe for her old friend. Total respect for you Ms Serasinghe.

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    Sharmini,

    It is commendable that you have taken up the case of this poor lady who finds herself in this unfortunate position through no fault of her own. From the account there is no doubt she is a deserving case but there are thousands of others who are more deserving and I have come accross many in my line of work and let me tell you of one whose plight might shock you. She and her husband are the surviving members of a family of 7. Her five children were killed in an Army Shelling and a shrapnel hit her head causing her loss of memory smiliar to the lady in your article although the cause is different. Although she had a comfortable life she and her husband are now supporting each other by cleaning houses in Colombo. Compare her against the poor lady in your Article who was an ex employee of Rupavahini therefore entitled to an occupational pension as well as a State Pension, has a roof over her head , no Mortgage arrears and has a family to support her. It will be a Travesty of Justice to be selective as in this case and we as a Society need to help as many as possible collectively and I am not advocating against individual donations. If we care passionately about people like this poor lady we need to set a Trust with all the Checks and Balances to prevent any abuse. I recently helped to set up a Charity for the Residents of Udappu in Chilaw. I care passionately about human suffering and I take this from my Grandfather who was the first Asian to receive an MBE in Malaysia for his services to Humanity during the 2nd World War. So why dont you with your privileged position as a Journalist set up a Charitable Trust and we will do our bit and I will be happy to set up a Direct Debit with a personal monthly contribution as well as raise money towards the Charity through my connection with many businesses.

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      Dear kali,
      This poor lady Kamalini was not a permanant employee of Rupavahini therefore is not entitled to an occupational pension or a State Pension.she of course has a roof over her head , no Mortgage arrears and has a family to support her.
      It is not the matter of being selective but it is a good idea to set-up a Trust with all the Checks and Balances to prevent any abuse.
      Maddam Sharmini as suggested by Kali why don’t you with your privileged position as a Journalist set up a Charitable Trust and Humans like Kali will do their bit to set up a Direct Debit with a personal monthly contribution as well as raise money towards the Charity through their connection with many businesses.
      Wish you in advance towards a great journey.

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        Kamalini”s Family,

        In response to your request for help I will deposit Rs 10,000 in to your account in memory of my Mother who passed away two weeks ago. She was completely bed bound for over a year and I know the cost of caring for some one. I employed a live in carer and outside carers which cost me more than twice the amount a month you require. Please give your account details and if possible with an e mail address for the holding Bank for verification to prevent any abuse. Best wishes for Kamalini.

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          Dear Kali,

          As mentioned in the last paragraph in the article above-

          Kamalini Selvarajan’s current account number (039010001955) with Hatton National Bank, Bambalapitiya Branch.

          Warm regards,
          Sharmini

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            Hi Sharmini: Thanks for the details and will transfer the money asap. Kind regards Kali

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              You could contact the HNB Bambalapitiya Branch on 2501698 or 2501785 or E-mail bambalapitiya@hnb.lk.The Name of the Manageress is Mrs.Renuka.Premkumar.Trust this information proves satisfactory.

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    We are monitoring this thread.We will be conveying your kind gestures and words of compassion and love to her. Perhaps she will understand in her own way, that we all of you love her and feel for her.

    Thank you all for your greatness in rising above man-made boundaries; caste, creed, religion and race, to feel for and reach out to a fellow human being!

    Special thanks goes to Sharmini the legend.

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    Wonders will never cease……….! The likes of K. A. Sumanasekera, Banda, Sarojini etc are actually keeping away from this thread. Must be boring for them- no cause to insult the writer.

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    Remember her as a TV news presenter. will make a contribution to the said account this week.
    may God almighty bless her with all thats good

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    She presented the morining shows very professionllay. The Rupavahini corperation must look after its once flagship-presenters.

    I assume it could be a nervous-breakdown due to stress/depression/frustration espesially at workplace.

    Alzheimer or Dementia is quite uncommon in Sri Lanka, at least amongst under sixties. What she needs now is people to keep her company while she is recovering.

    Get well soon Kamalini!

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      Jones, you are correct. Alzeimer’s or dementia is a bit uncommon in under sixties. Yes it is depression which mostly triggers Dementia. Alzeimer’s is the last stage of it. In medical terms, a section of the nerve cells starts degenerating rapidly and there is no medicine to bring them back to their earlier state of efficiency. Truly a very SAD situation. These patients should never be left alone under any circumstance.

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    The manageress of the bank where Kamalini has her account confirms that so far, three credits have been made to her account totaling to Rs 37,310.91.

    This is her personal account and no one else has access to it.

    A sincere thank you to those of you responsible for these donations.

    Sharmini Serasinghe

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      Hello Sharmini, You would have had higher collections if you had kept it digital- once we see the request we just hit the pay pal button!
      I suppose the next time you would accept just Pay Pal like most sellers on the net by providing PP reference for item and e-mail or cell no. Its very simple to open the account online and carry out transactions with the best security (never reply look like pay pal). Banks are a bureaucracy and carry hidden charges etc. Did you know that Amazon is richer than the richest bank and more efficient than post offices? It’s never too late to open one now. Best Wishes Javi

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        Thank you Javi, I will suggest this to Kamalini’s family.

        Best regards,
        Sharmini

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      Oh my God!!!!!!!!!! 220 facebook likes and only 37,000/- rupees? That must be what Javi and AVB donated. Hey you Tamil diaspora, why don’t you put some money where your mouth is and help your sister Kamalini in need? Or was it more satisfying to contribute to the LTTE to commit murder?

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    I tried today my bit to send from ICICI india, transaction failed, tomorrow I will send it directly through bank. My sincere prayer for speedy recovery.

    Regards
    Mani

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    Dear Sharmini, Thank you for the mail and will forward same to my friends here and overseas. It is sad to know that a bubbly personality like Kamalini of all people should be struck with dementia. Will definitely contribute. I Pray that she makes a recovery

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    UPDATE ON KAMALINI- I’m helping her family to enable payment via paypal to her bank account. I shall keep you all commenting above posted when the process is complete.
    Further, to those who have queried how a person in Kamalini’s condition can operate a bank account- a trusted person with power-of-attorney can operate her account on her behalf, until she’s well enough to do so herself. Hope this helps. Sharmini

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      Dear Sharmini,
      Thanks for the suggestion.We are in the process of obtaining a supplementary credit card in the name of Kamalini. This may enable online payment. This process should be completed by next week.

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    I sent my little contribution from ICICI india bank , i was told that it would reach Monday HNB. please confirm me if reached to below mail

    msksalem77@gmail.com

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      JT’s won’t easily part with charity unless it’s related to defence like the Boston Brahmin.

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      Manisekeran,
      __________________________________________________
      I remember the classic Tsunami collection by Tamil Nadu and implementation which left Boston Brahmin Bill Clinton bamboozled. .- that was shining culture only possible in Tamil Nadu and maybe Mauritius. 。◕‿◕。(^‿◕)(@_@)

      The young IT lads from Bombay who kick start, JayaL, ignoring Sonia and standing to face the pride of Thailand in refusing the international aid etc But Andaman and Nicobar were neglected and many died except for the few who lived on the high trees
      ___________________________________________________
      You know that by the way tax collectors son like PM in proxy or GTF; kasi tarre mattan, defence only boom booom only chee? You know that manjal amma Sri-skanda-rajah petty cash tukiti taruvan, she knows Sinhala kindness, please you tamil makkal ask?? Say hari om, amma.(^‿◕)|(^‿◕)

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        Sorry Javi, I support TGTE as a neutral person, other than that I have no connection with them so far. I sent this message to some of my friends, hopefully they too will lend the helping hand.

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          Thanks, thats okay mani we know our local kanjus we just smile because the world is a big place. main thing is we don’t need a partition of the beautiful land- NSEW is always one as much as Baharat did not want it.

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    UK has doubled up its budget for dementia sufferers according to BBC News two days ago. I strongly believe Kamalini should be sponsored by someone to get treatment in the UK so that her three boys who I remember passing my house every day on their way to St Patrick’s College can have a normal life and have some relief and comfort since they have so far sacrificed their selves for their beloved mother. I am sure they will not even dream of abandoning her but they need to think of their future as well.

    I only live in a studio flat but in the next two months I plan to move into a one-bed-roomed flat. I will send out Sharmini’s poignant poem to people I know and try my best to get some treatment for her.

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      There are free excellent medical treatment available in Chennai itself, if her family is willing, I can check with Madrad memorial clinic and try through state authorities.

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        Thanks for the suggestion. We will consult the other members of the family and revert back to you.

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    Dear Sharmini,

    Dementia increases rapidly with age, and the end result is Alzeimers.
    All they need is loving care, nourishing food and a peaceful environment. There is absolutely nothing you or her family members can do to bring her back to what she was earlier.

    I was A helpless daughter who looked after my mother who was an Alzeimer’s patient. It is the family members who suffer most, not the patient, as she is totally unaware of her condition.

    I sincerely wish her a speedy recovery. BUT IN REALITY THERE IS NO CURE FOR DEMENTIA.

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      Tharupaba, there is ! The age of miracles is not over. LOVE LONE CAN BRING AN HEALING EVEN IF PSYCHIATRY AND DRUGS WON’T HELP. i’M WELL INTO COUNSELING AND HAVE HAD SOME AMAZING RESULTS BY SIMPLY POURING OUT LOVE INTO A PERSON’S EARS. IT’S ALL ABOUT CANCELING OUT THE NEGATIVES WHICH CAUSE DEMENTIA OR ANYTHING ELSE.I USE A COMBINATION OF DIANETIC PRINCIPLES, PRAYER, COMPASSION AND LOADS OF PATIENCE. NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. I BELIEVE WE NEED TO ENCOURAGE THIS AGGRESSIVELY.BLESSINGS ON YOU.

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    Read your article only just now. I remember Kamalini in the original Rupavahini team with Noeline and Sumana, Rosemund, Eric, and Kamal(?). Such fine reporting then compared to the biased comment and downright lies aired now. Sent some funds through my Bank electronically, no trouble, no fuss, well secured. I do hope and pray that Kamalini recovers, for she is too young to be plagued with dementia. And thank you for highlighting this news and showing your detractors what being a Buddhist is all about.

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      “|”showing your detractors what being a Buddhist is all about.”|”

      Whats this for? It sounds like Darwin’s missing link!

      Largest collection Basilica and next Tirupathi but no Gautama why??

      We all learnt it from the Catholic from 1500AD.

      The last London riots many JT shops were destroyed and they did not have insurance so the neighboring English public collected the money and gave them 3 times more.Tsunami funds were not Buddhist.In the west with it’s christian background and empty pews most folk are Spiritual but not religious (SBNR).
      Your dansal is for pansal to go in their Benz.

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    Though trying to help her friend is good, I think Sharmini is wrong to accuse local media for stirring up sensationalism.
    I too read it when it started appear in a famous gossip site in SL.

    According to my understanding a few visiotors from a local drama team, “Jana Karaliya” had visited her because she had not responded to many invitations they sent for two years. The drama team had visited her to check on her condition, after knowing her situation the drama team has contacted Sarasaviya media to tell about her. That was done to make any arrangements to help her financially and to help her get justice from Rupavahini.

    It was then Sarasawiya news had been to her place and interviewed her son. It was her son who has talled about Rupavahini coperation.

    In this country whenever some thing happen to someone the first guess is he/she has been victimized by an authority. May be that sort of mentality had given wings to such stories. As I understand the media people involved had done it to honestly help her.

    I dont know why Shamini takes is in a wrong manner.

    Here is the news site,

    http://www.gossiplankanews.com/2013/10/kamalinee-unexpected-fate.html

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      “According to my understanding”|| “famous gossip site”

      So you are down below into gossip?

      So you heard of the grape wine but unable to reach it even by trolling??

      As much as justice delayed is no justice a bird in the hand is worth
      two on the tree.。◕‿◕。

      BTW any of your gossip folk if they really meant it should now put their
      money where the mouth is, isn’t it so?? (^‿◕)

      Old chap, Seeing is but just 50%!! (@_@)

      I find it difficult to fathom how you believe intentions
      as real when you hear the curious.(^o^)

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      Sach,

      It appears that you are only a gossip believer.As such I should post this communication from the family members. We strongly believe that you are one of the “Arm chair critique” who don’t contribute to any worthy causes.

      Grow up. The country does require believers of gossips like you.

      ***********************************************************************
      Request from the family members of Kamalini Selvarajan.

      I have a story to tell……………………

      It’s three o’clock in the afternoon. Our sister is sitting in a sofa staring at the TV on which the “Tom and Jerry” cartoon is televised without any emotions or reactions.

      While I tidy up her room, she asks when she will have lunch. Is this the seventh time she asks this question today? Eighth? I’ve lost count. Yet I take a deep breath, repeat silently to myself to be patient, and try to smile as I remind her that she ate just over an hour ago.

      Sister smiles back, and her eyes gaze once again at the outside world. I don’t know what she is thinking, it is hard to tell. Sister is 60, she is quiet, subdued, thinks I’m her Aunty, and no longer knows who she is. We have has been told she has been diagnosed with dementia.

      Kamalini had been a popular TV presenter liked by all communities and language speakers. She is from an affluent family and her Brothers and Sister excel in their relevant professions. One of her Brother is a Doctor by Profession with post qualifications, the other a qualified Double Accountant with double Masters in Business Administration and Economics, who is presently a General Manager of one of the largest Group of Companies in Sri Lanka. Her Sister too is an Educationalist who has guided thousands of students.

      A junior journalist Harshantha ([Edited out]) from Sarasavi who has no knowledge of dementia has visited her apartment where she lives with her son who claims that he is a computer professional and part time translator and has inquired about her health and economic conditions.

      The journalist airs his view that this sigma and taboo has been caused by sudden dismissal of her employment from a TV station. He also adds his imagination that if money could be spent this could be treated. He also goes on to add that her son is not in a position to work full time since he will have to look after the mother. He also confirms that the son prepares the meals for the mother and feeds her and finds it difficult to meet expenses including the payment of housing loan which is in arrears for months. Similar comments were made by Renuka ([Edited out]) verakesari too without proper investigations.

      The other journalists such as varnam TV, Lakbima and social networks such as Gossip lanka too add their imaginations with the view of increasing their distribution and Hit rates and the news started spreading in the media and social network like wild fire.

      Some opportunists were quick to grab this opportunity created by these news items and started collecting donations not only in Jaffna, Batticaloa, Vavuniya, Trincomalee in Sri Lanka but also in Overseas countries such as United Kingdom, Australia, Switzerland, Canada, Norway and even in Middle east.

      Why are stories like the above becoming increasingly common in Sri Lanka? What is dementia and what should we expect as individuals and a society where issues around old age and mental well-being remain enfolded in stigma and taboo?

      With this rapid growth in the ageing population, it is clear that the number of dementia sufferers is on the rise. However, medical professionals, nurses, care workers here in Sri Lanka aren’t geared up or trained to care for people with such specialised care needs. There is a significant requirement in Sri Lanka for this specialized care, especially for those whose lives are blighted by Alzheimer’s or other forms of Dementia.

      Alzheimer’s is the most commonly known illness in the dementia family and with no known cure, a variety of established models and techniques are needed to be implemented to ensure suffers live as fuller lives as possible.

      But the actual story goes as follows.

      Our sister was diagnosed with dementia some months ago after carrying out number of medical tests and the son aged 30 years was assigned with the task of providing medicines on a timely basis. He was closely monitored and regular updates were obtained in connection with provision of medication.

      Her housing loan is paid by a standing order to Hatton National Bank –Bambalapitiya branch to the credit of her current account number 039010001955 by her family members and is paid up to date. The accuracy of this statement could be verified from the Bank branch (0114515808).
      All three meals for both mother and son are provided by Nanthini ([Edited out]) and the cost of same are met by the family members and the amounts are paid in advance. In addition cash is also provided to the son to meet other expenses such as utility payments and other incidental expenses. Clothing is also provided on regular basis.
      The total monthly expenses amount to Rs 50,000.00 which is borne by her brothers and sister.
      A lady by the name of Lanka ([Edited out]) claiming to be an employee of Rupavahini has visited my sister and without knowing the reason for the sickness had admitted her at Ragama teaching Hospital and given two shock treatments on 1st November 2013.The hospital records reveals that these shock treatments have been facilitated by Dr.Herath. Another lady by the name of Saroja ([Edited out]) has intervened and got my sister discharged before the third shock treatment was given.

      Her health situation deteriorated badly since then especially with toiletry habits being affected badly.

      Another lady by the name of Sandiya ([Edited out]) without knowing these facts had made an appointment with a specialist at Lanka Hospital for 11th November 2013 for a second oppinion which was politely refused by the family members.
      The family members wish to confirm that she is presently under professional care under a professional born out of a long held desire to implement several decades of leading edge Dementia experience and practice having spear-headed some of the best elderly care homes in the UK. Round the clock 24 hours one to one care is presently being provided at a monthly cost of around Rs 150,000 per month excluding the cost of medication. For obvious reasons the family members does not wish disclose the location for the time being until satisfactory recovery becomes evidenced.
      Whilst appreciating and keenness to assist her, the family members are of the view that she will require complete rest which will ultimately pave way for her stability any fund raising activities with ulterior motives both locally and overseas should be resisted.
      The family members are hereby requesting the Friends, well wishers and other relatives to not to be carried away by rumours and not to contribute any funds to fund raisers. Genuine Well wishers are requested to make their contributions only to Mrs Kamalini Selvarajan’s current account number 039010001955 with Hatton National Bank Bambalapitiya Branch.
      As requested by the family members.

      *Phone numbers are removed – CT

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      On behalf of all contributors to the post we apologize to Sharmini for the unwarranted inaccurate comments made by Sach.According to my understanding Sach is one of the culprits who has been involved in the whole sensation. Being a fan of gossip sites he must be sitting on his brain if I have not mistaken. Kamalini I understand is not a permanent employee and the need for termination does not arise. This is common sense. Unfortunately the common sense in not common among inhuman like Sach.
      When talking about mentality , These type of comments could be expected from mentally retarded and unbalanced people in the caliber of Sach when “POYA”(full moon)day is around.
      If Sach could share his e-mail address or phone number I could communicate to him on behalf of the readers of this column in a language which Sach will understand better.
      This post I believe should have been made on the gossip site which Sach reads and analyses. I deeply regret for the tone of this post.

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        The reality is Shamini would not be writing about kamalini if not those media sites created an issue out of it. I have no problem with kamalini’s family members correcting the misquote and nor do i have any knowledge on the basis of her employment. My point was it is unwarranted to bash local journalists as their motive had been to help Kamalini.

        It was these gossip sites that brought attention of the people for Kamalini. So this sort of bashing my Shamini is unwarranted. No where did i say helping kamalini is wrong.

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          Sach,

          Are you one of those unscrupulous people trying to make a fast buck to line your own pocket, using Kamalini?

          If you are, you will rot in hell!

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      Dear beletver of Gossips,
      your contact number [Edited out] ????
      Can we ask the other contributors to call you????
      This number was given by one of your good friends.

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      Sharmini is going on correct path. Most of the media people comes and disturb kamalini. as a neighbor I watch everything. Sharmini serasinghe tell the truth.

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