Ahead of International Women’s Day, falls on March 8, Sri Lankan women shared harrowing accounts of being sexually harassed on public transport at an event organized by United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) in Colombo yesterday.
UNFPA together with the Colombo Municipal Council, Ministry of Women and Child Affairs, and the Ministry of Transport and Civil Aviation, yesterday opened a public exhibition titled “Does She Travel Safe?” featuring stories of victims of sexual harassment in public transport in Sri Lanka.
“I was travelling in a bus when the man seated next to me started to touch my thigh, while he was pretending to sleep. When I confronted him, I knew he would try to escape, especially since he had already made several such attempts. This is not the first time this has happened,” said Shalinie, a victim of sexual harassment in public transport.
Meanwhile, a study conducted by the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) stated that 90% of women and girls have endured sexual harassment at least once in their lifetime on public buses and trains. Only 4% of those affected reported the incident to the police.
Sexual harassment is a major type of harassment. In public transport, harassment can include verbal and non-verbal behaviours ranging from sexual remarks, whistling, groping and touching. Even though under section 345 of the Penal code of 1995, sexual harassment is considered a crime and therefore punishable in Sri Lanka, reports about these incidents unfortunately go unnoticed.
Delivering a speech at the event, the Mayor of Colombo Rosy Senanayake said, “Policy level actions need to take place in order to curb the national issue – sexual harassment in public transport. It is important that women are part of the planning and implementation of development projects to ensure a holistic approach towards making Colombo a safer space for all women and girls.”
UNFPA Representative in Sri Lanka Ritsu Nacken, praising the Ministry of Transport’s recent decision to have female-only compartments in trains, said this move also implemented in Japan, India, and other countries with the purpose of making it a means to a more sustainable solution in the future.
The public installation will be open to the public from March 2 to March 8, 2019 from 8.00 am. – 8.00 p.m. at the Colombo Town Hall Grounds. In parallel to the exhibition and International Women’s Day, UNFPA said it hopes to deliver awareness sessions for school students, bus drivers and conductors, and to the public, on how to speak up, intervene, and be the change. 
Spring Koha / March 2, 2019
This is the secret shame of Sri Lanka. Unlucky tourists too are returning to the outside world with the message. The Police think that section 345 of the Penal code of 1995 is an embellishment to our statute. Even many policemen through the ranks resort to sexual harassment and more. The only ray of hope is that from time to time those who get caught will get a thrashing from menfolk who take matters into their own hands.
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Desperate Sinhalaya / March 2, 2019
Going back to my days in SL, 3 decades ago, I still remember what my sister explained once on her return home how an abusive boy sat next to her, on a 2-seater of a CTB bus, whose age according her guess was not even 18 shamelessly touched her knee area. She had guts to question the boy immediately by asking him ” malli, you should also have Akkas of my age right, why wont you behave well මල්ලි, ඔයාටත් සමහරවිට ඇති මම වාගෙ අක්කල, ඇයි එහෙනම්, ශීලචාරව හැසිරෙන්න බැරි ? Boy had immdiately got down in the next possible halt.
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I think it is strongl advisable to girls/women and boys to be confident enough having gone through self-defending tactics so that they themselves could stand against the kind of harassments. Just because of them being females or young boys, they should not be EASY prey of the abusive men.
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Not just females, also going back to my days in SL, men wearing sarongs were after us the lads who were then wearing school dress (white shit + long troucers), many of them made every effort to rub off their genitals on our backs. To that time, buses were croweded and we after school had to rely on CTB buses for get home back. These were the experiences I had then in crowded buses. One I happened to push one of them with my elbow and hurt him so that the bugger could fall down. This was in early 80ties in SL.
: All these were though rare to that days, but today, it has become common specially in jam-packed buses and trains. Daily commuters seem to have no other choice than stay mum because of not having confidence enough to protect themselves. May well be, some bus/train conductors proactively stand with those abusers, in order these crimes to expand today more than in the past.
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Desperate Sinhalaya / March 2, 2019
apologies for my typing errors above, as I wrote it I was commuting on a crowded tram, but not a single commuters ever rubbed off their genitals on me… ha haha.. this is civilized europe.. by the way.
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So, please accept my corrections to above text.
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white shirt + white long troucers.
Strongly advisable
One = Once
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I know that Champawathi et al would attack me next,… but that is the culture down there in RAJAPKSHE dominated SRILANKA.
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Thappu / March 2, 2019
white long TROUSERS – (or Slacks)
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Desperate Sinhalaya / March 3, 2019
Thappu@
to my days in 80ties they were white troucers not slacks.
Please dont ridicule out these, this topic is of vital importance in todays society.
Thappu, you sound to be a tamil srilanken, but please try to respect when discussing the serious topics. Thank you.
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Gramberg / March 4, 2019
Thappu,
Desperate sinhalaya’s points are all valid and should be taken serious note of, but he does not understand the point you made about trouSers.
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Desperate Sinhalaya / March 5, 2019
Gramberg,
it is fine with me. After passing thatonly i noticed it. That happens to me each time check on them on smartphone..
Thanks for your concerns.
Greetings from CYCLONE hit Germany
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Amarasiri / March 2, 2019
CT,
In Sri Lankan culture, the “2,500 year old civilization” of the Paras, you sexually harass my sister, my daughter, my mother, my aunt and my grandmother, I will return the favour to your sister, your daughter, your mother, your aunt and your grandmother.
The land of Native Veddah Aethho, illegally occupied by the Paras from India, a Land like no other.
A Sri Lankan Muslim young women said that she used to wear the Salva Kameez, the North Indian/Pakistani women’s dress, and got sexually harassed occasionally. So, she stated wearing the Abhaya with hijab, the so-called “Goni/Bills” dress, and the sexual harassment stopped. Since the Sri Kankan won’t reform, women must reform, by wearing the Abaya and hijab.
Unfortunately, the Muslim women are not protected by the MMDA, especially 12-year old girls who are legally raped, and women married off without their signature to the marriage, as they are chattel.
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ceylonee / March 3, 2019
why cant Budist woman put on long kaavi – sivura like dress – Goni bills so no one can approach ???//
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Amarasiri / March 4, 2019
Ceylonese,
Good point. Do Sri Lankan men abuse even Buddhist female nuns and Catholic nuns as well? Quite unlikely yet, but there could be occasional cases.
Correction: Goni Billa, not Goni Bills, is the colloquial Sri Lankan name given to Sri Lankan Muslim women, wearing the Nikab, the full coverage of the face, with the Black Abaya, the long cloak, worn by Middle Eastern women, forced on them, by the Ulama and authorities.
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FreqTraveller / March 2, 2019
First, do a survey and see how many women do enjoy that. I am sure that not all women disagree on that. Some times, it depends on their moods, sometimes depend on personality of the guys.
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There are times, when boys, especially young boys are treated the same way by matured women in a crowded bus. Though it is not much compared to opposite case, but we can not deny.
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Babalathappu / March 2, 2019
I think not anyone with a bird- brain would EVER agree with you here.
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Dont you think that what matters should be the opinion of the majority.
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Of course, there may be women even young boys would love to be harasesed by the kind of sex abusers. That is common to any population not only to lanken.
But as it is the case for any civilized society, those commit such crimes should not be promoted by any means. We also have jam-packed trams/omnibus travels in Europe. Specially looking back my commuting from student hostel to the University those days, we were packed in omnibuses, but I dont think a single man made effort to abuse the situation.
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Lanken problem has been, the kind of sex abusers and their acts have become more common today than years ago.
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T P / March 4, 2019
Enjoyment or not, nobody has the right to touch somebody else without consent. No need for a survey.
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babanpunchi / March 2, 2019
Not just lay people, but also so called SACRED ” SIVURA” wearing skin heads/if you may call them buddhist monks abuse youth in public. Once I myself was touched by a monk while travelling in a CTB bus I was then in grade 5 or 6 if I am not exactly sure though. But we were more or less real kids. Even at my 15, I was still a kid. Unlike today’s young boys, we were not that matured about SEXUAL harassment. May well be IT revolution damaged entire huminity through their info flow without barriers.
We then as kids always were compelled to respect the elders, buddhist monks, teachers and police. Looking back, I think we were well disiplined then than today kids. Today, teachers struggle not being able to control over the children in class rooms.. And, the society was intact, and more civilized then, I would say . Budhist monks abused school boys but the place grabed by them in the society was unbelievable. If we then youth opened our mouths, parents just treated us as if we fabricated them. Unbelievable respect was given to so called buddhist monks, even if I and the like always looked at them with some skepticism.
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True Buddhist / March 3, 2019
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Balwathi Jayasinghe / March 2, 2019
We need to bring harsh laws if found their genitals would have been taken away.
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We need to introduce rigorous laws as is the case in an arab country. There we should not be shakey…… drug trafficking and sex related crimes should be held as the high crimes similar to murders. Then abusive men and women and buddhist monks would learn to behave well where they are going to be. I think Buddhist monks too are highly abusive in today backdrop.
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Burt / March 2, 2019
SK:
“This is the secret shame of Sri Lanka.”
You mean more than calling WAR CRIMINALS and CHILD MURDERS as WAR HERO’s?
“Unlucky tourists too are returning to the outside world with the message. “
Then change the message.
Say Sri Lanka is a SINHALA BAUDA country and your sexually harassed with love and peace.
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BP / March 2, 2019
Till government stop ‘sardine packed buses’ this problem would not be solved.
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Real Revolutionist / March 2, 2019
BP
Of course;
Not to white wash bad men but in crowded bus/train a touching man/figure may be misunderstood for a harasser/pick pocketer.
Unfortunately some of our ladies selectively allow/tolerate pressing figures, that might be encouraging/invitation for harassers. ( Pls be thankful for taking the risk of mentioning it).
Ladies have a right to be fashionable, but right fashion @ the right time @ the right place please.
Especially girls must be given a good knowledge about fashion together with martial arts & boys must be made aware that they(girls) might highlight cleavage just to pick one so everybody has no chance & therefore, before all get the girl’s written permission to approach her.
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ghk / March 2, 2019
RR,
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“boys must be made aware that they(girls) might highlight cleavage just to pick one so everybody has no chance & therefore, before all get the girl’s written permission to approach her”
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So married women can lock those cleavage till she comes back home?
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“Ladies have a right to be fashionable, but right fashion @ the right time @ the right place please”
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Wear Abaya while commuting in and out the offices, and keep the Abaya in the lockers? Just like biker jackets..
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Real Revolutionist / March 2, 2019
ghk
Ah, no my dear, you’ve gone too far on the way I paved.
You’re going to justify your unfair treatment to your women (you seems to be Muslim)
However I strongly believe that (whether married or not) a woman may reveal in case she seeks love or even new love.
It’s unsought & unethical for married man or woman to seek another but pls be matured enough to understand that necessity has no law. (for both men & women)
In your case, as polygamy is allowed for men, Muslim ladies should be given an ethical right to highlight cleavage even @ the presence of her hub to attract new love.
My comments on the subject based on women troubled by harassing men but that doesn’t mean that women don’t have a right to attract st new.
Moving abayas along the roads are reflections of violating rights of those inside it, most probably women but even men can be inside. (in disguise for something)
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ghk / March 2, 2019
RR,
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“boys must be made aware that they(girls) might highlight cleavage just to pick one so everybody has no chance & therefore, before all get the girl’s written permission to approach her”
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So married women can lock those cleavage till she comes back home?
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“Ladies have a right to be fashionable, but right fashion @ the right time @ the right place please”
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Wear Abaya while commuting in and out the offices, and keep the Abaya in the lockers? Just like biker jackets..
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Amarasiri / March 2, 2019
BP ,
“Till government stop ‘sardine packed buses’ this problem would not be solved.”
The Govt. won’t reform the MMDA, despite clamoring by Muslim women, the President carries out illegal and unconstitutional coup, the ministers, MPs, president, PM all steal, including the govt employees.
So, the women, will continue to be harassed, and the politicians will continue to steal.
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LEELAGEMALLI / March 2, 2019
Jam packed buses are every where at least for particular rush hours.
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Germany’s public transport is one of the best, also to the eyes of my american colleagues. But I myself have commuted in jam-packed buses very often in Berlin, Hamburg, Munich and Frankfurt. Also in Saabrucken. Trams and S bahns are also crowded comparably that of colombo sometimes. No different in Basel , Zurich/Switzerland and also in London.
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So it is not an issue of them being sardine packed but peoplenot being edcuated adequately and them being unable to control their sexual fantasies. And not forgetting that the law and order in Europe is rigorously enforced. That is no means comparable to what we still have in SL. If found to have travelled black, you have to end up being interogated by police. That can then be like a black mark to your ID.
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If anyone regardless of your nationality would abuse while being in crowded public transport, europeans/sudda would never be submissive not having done the due.. That is common to both males and females in the west.
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leelawathie / March 3, 2019
BP,
Yours is in non-sequitur.
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Even on the west, public transport buses are jampacked at least for some hours.
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So please get your facts right before going to see it that way.
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rbh / March 2, 2019
Public transport systems around the packed trains, Buses make travel no Classes of Travel becoming a magnet for sexual harassment: the concerned authority is late to do more to make women feel safe, Travel conscious that there are still many areas not yet addressed.
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Sandya Siriwimala / March 2, 2019
I am a woman and I travel in public transport (buses and train). There is no sexual harrassment at all. People are making up stories.
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Amarasiri / March 2, 2019
Sandya Sirimala,
There are rumors that mostly pretty and shapely women are subject to sexual harassment, not grandmothers.
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Mallaiyuran / March 2, 2019
Amare,
You are doing well. I like your earlier one too. Harassing is the result of, in the general sense, failure to understand the Individual freedom. That is what happens in the PT system too. Impunity is other problem. Reality is this is not just transportation problem. Cold can be treated with symptoms. But the Cancer has to be done with deep Chemotherapy. A good political culture is the need of the time.
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George Malli / March 3, 2019
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Real Revolutionist / March 2, 2019
Sandya Siriwimala
You might be right as this harassing culture in public transport belongs to past & it’s somewhat rare now.
But failure to wear strong & brave mood together with fashionable outfit (especially when it’s revealing) may tempt not only a weak minded man but also a strong minded man not to resist..
However how do we know what’s in mind of the person approaching from behind.
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Estate Labourer / March 2, 2019
Sandya, Are you good looking?
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babanpunchi / March 2, 2019
I have no doubt, you can be from the minority women that would love , if you yourself had been caught by such harassament. It is the diversity.
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Just because your buses you never faced such harrasements, can you caetegorically say that there are no such harrasments ?
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Please read the news papers and listen to your neigbourhood. They can refresh your knowledge on the public menace.
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Dionysus / March 2, 2019
Organize campaigns to stop police raiding brothels and harassing prostitutes. That way perverts can find an outlet. Perverts harassing Sri Lankan and foreign women in public places is a common complaint. Perverts who get caught should be stripped and hammered. Do our men have the balls to do that?
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Suren / March 2, 2019
In Malaysia, in the six compartments trains, the middle two compartments are only for ladies. Our railway too could provide separate compartments for ladies. Even the public buses they could allocate separate seats for ladies like for the special need people.
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Sarath / March 2, 2019
Sri Lanka should do thorough and radical change to the public transport system for the country to move forward, and for the people to have a better life. The top most place should be given to the Railway. The Railway should be privatised like in Japan, UK etc. Else it should be made a corporation like the Sri Lanka Port Aurhority. Government could get huge pool of money to improve the Railway system by selling tons and tons of scarp steel lying on the Railway properties. Also selling all the unwanted land for the Railway is blocking and holding huge chunk of prime land all over the country. The Railway is the most efficient and cost effective mode of transport for moving people and goods. The government should put high priority for this. In many countries people travel from the cities to their local station by train, and from there onwards they have regular locals buses to all the points in their local communities. All the intercity buses should stop on the out skirts of major cities, and city commuter buses should ferry the passengers to the inner cities. Government should asked all singled bus owners to joint together and form joint stock companies by pooling their resources. This way they could provide better services with well maintained high quality buses, and with good quality workers plus this would in turn provide good returns for the owners too by way of good efficient use of their assets. Depending on the available traffic, the government should issue permits to one or several companies on a particular routes. Else the government should auction route franchise to the rout operators for a particular period in order for them to earn profit and recoup their investments.
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K.Pillai / March 2, 2019
At the recent United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) event in Colombo, Sri Lankan women shared harrowing accounts of being sexually harassed on public transport.
To the best of one’s knowledge prosecutions have not taken place.
Harassed women will not approach the Police for fear of being harassed. The accused can often buy their way out.
Is this social menace going unnoticed because of the breakdown in Law & Order?
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kalu bokke / March 2, 2019
Lets face it. This has been going on for ages and no one has had the balls to take it on. Sri Lankan men are as a whole sick and depraved, obsessed with sex and a bunch of cowards who try to exploit women sexually in public transport. This depravity stems from a culture that attempts to make sexual advances in a discreet and cowardly manner. Not only women but children are often exposed to this sick practice from a so called culture that boasts that it is 2500 years old. Does not mean a f..k this culture that our f….ks talk about. The perverts are so sick that if they seen a woman wearing shorts and exposing a bit of thigh this is enough for the depraved to ejaculate. These deplorables are sick to the core and a danger to our society. No point in having all these f…king laws if no action is taken to implement tbem. Like all our laws these are never enforced. I suggest that all buses have the left aisle reserved for women and children. In offices does not matter whether it is the boss or not, every employee must sign a document that sexual harass women must be reported to a hotline which number every tuk tuk driver must display in a prominent position at the front and back of the tuk tuk. In public transport if a pervert makes an advance to touch a women , this must be reported immediately to the driver and a photo of the ratbag taken to be reported to the ;police. Women must be encouraged to report any indecent approach made in public transport to a hotline number to be set up. Similarly very important that buddhist monks are notified that any indecent sexual act against a female or child will be prosecuted by the government and the most severe punishment with long term jail sentences be meted out.
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Concerned Sinhala Man / March 3, 2019
Kalubokke@
I agree with you more. Thanks. you have articulated it as no other. Most among buddhist monks in current day SL are manamalyas: This I happened to notice also during my last trip made to home country. They manner they abuse sangahood today, we cant respect many of them as real buddhist monks. All these years the manner buddhist monks behaved in the country are beyond their ethics. But media never reported it adequately.
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But my question is ho w can you even think of encouraging people in today s society. Rascals dominate the society since vicious politicians protect them.This started in the high days of Rajapakshe rule. The uncouth langague they are upto is beyond all bearing. Just study few of YT video accompanying comments. Most of them start ” umbe ammata” mostly. That hs become the standard sinhala in current day srilanka. They are far from tolerance of criticisms.
The main reason why women or decent men not to attack those men on the spot is connected with people’s passive nature. Each time back in home country, I try to pick up my own information, by holding a smalltalk with TUK TUK/cab driver to Uni Dons for my own info. The educated seem to be away not being able to get on with others. Wimal weerawanse or the like politicians have spread all hatreds. As had been few decades ago.. there is no respect and dignity of life seen in the society today.
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JD / March 2, 2019
Oh Rosie is a Fraud. she says, Removing the meethotamulla – Garbage pile is her most nerve wrecking problem.
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Burt / March 2, 2019
“Sexual harassment is a grave violation of human rights.”
Cut the crap. Sri Lanka used sexual violence including rape and murder as a weapon of war against Tamil women and children.
I don’t believe your a stupid person, nor deaf or blind so where were you? Why now? Is women and children your concern or gaining political popularity?
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Sam Fernando / March 3, 2019
Tihs is not to the eyes of so call nation’s patriots Rajakashes.
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So long those sexual criminas are their voters, the buggers would never utter a single word in public agains any kind of criminals.
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Just that BP Rajapakshes have beena ble to mislead the nation for their political survivial, can be made instrumental in order to teach good lessions to the very same nation, but BP Rajakshes obviously have no interest about turning this a civilized society, but their selffish gains.
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Sandya Siriwimala / March 3, 2019
Ask any bus/train travelling women whether young old good looking or not. There is no sexual harrassment at all. Women shout at men unnecessarily. Men in public transport are good except the odd drunkard.
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Chitra / March 3, 2019
It is shameful that this has been going on for decades. Many helpless women, who travel by bus, has had to endure the disgusting physical abuse by sexually frustrated men. We do not want this country becoming like India. Women must be protected, including young girls, and if necessary CCTV cameras must be installed in buses, so that these cads can be apprehended, and charged. Let us make it safe for women, and tourists, to travel in public transportation, without harassment.
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babanpunchi / March 3, 2019
So long those helpless women behave passive, macho men would say, those women enjoy the kind of indecent acts of BP srilankens.
That is all about srilankens sinhala civilization in this rotten island. To me, if found, these men should be hung by their balls by bringing to galle face green. Alone looking at them can shock the nation. Today than any time before, teenagers abuse the elderly women. As some analysts point it out, even worst tendencies have become usual to their normal day life thanks to introduction of internet to lanken type of uncivlized folks.
I myself have got to watch YT video where some lads have been searching old ladies to live up their fantasies. This is not about west, but about our MOTHER land: Lankens have been the champions to have searched for sex on the web. That is now a public secret but the politicians just enjoy it.. … interpreting it as the freedom to the nation. see?
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rbh / March 3, 2019
When a open body dress is seen it looks like an attraction when a goni billa dress itself is warn
an objectionable that runs thoughts of people. When you see a police dress the veiw point suppress any wrong doing it is a form of controlling the minds of setting. in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening. The style of refusal code in dress.
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K Pillai / March 3, 2019
Outdated stuff, now not happenning. somone is blowing out of proportion. Sandya S I bow my head down to you.
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Dionysus / March 3, 2019
Sandya Siriwimala. If you like what is happening to you when you use public transport then of course there could be no sexual abuse or harassment. Another question that arises is whether Sandya is actually Dandiya, a creepy old man I know.
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Sandya Siriwimala / March 3, 2019
As usual Rosy Senanayake is making an unnecessary fuss. She never travels by bus or train. I do daily. Men are very decent and civilised in public transport. Sometimes they give me a seat.
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Seelawathie Jayasinghe / March 4, 2019
Sandya,
Yours is in non-sequitur. We almost everyone know that abusive men behave indecent in jam packed buses. This has been known to us all for ages. Unfortunately, it has become an habbit today. So, please dont shoot the messenger, but try to get your facts right : You or the like are total ignorants that seem to protect those men. Either you love such acts or you have some one who has all along been abusing women and young boys in public buses.
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Good Sense / March 4, 2019
It is sad but true that this menace was in existence in the public transport sector for a very long time in this country. In Singapore I understand that for certain aggravated sexual contacts the penalty is quite a number of strokes of the cane administered on the bare bottom and it need not be rape. The case in point is the penalty imposed to a Saudi diplomat who was to take a posting in China but caught in Singapore while on transit. As to whether severe if not barbaric punishment is the answer is to be seen although it can be sported as a deterrent. The principle of mutual respect must be fostered across the country even with respect to gender. I have also heard of instances in Sri Lanka of the reverse, where females have made very bold advances to men, perhaps “outraging the modesty of men” although no men’s group have ever voiced this in the open.
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Sandya Siriwimala / March 4, 2019
This is 2019. Women in buses have become violent and aggressive. They shout at men for simply touching them, When bus brakes and takes a turn of course it is inevitable the next person will touch you. Women shout abuse at men and try to hit or have actually hit them. I have seen this. Innocent men stay in silent some shout back.
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Winifrida / March 4, 2019
There is no sexual harrassment problem in buses and trains. People are exaggerating. Rosey should clean up Colombo than poking nose on unnecessary things.
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Rtd. Lt. Reginald Shamal Perera / March 5, 2019
Hitting the “Jack” inside a Bus has been a longtime tradition in Sri Lankan society. I haven’t traveled in a Sri Lankan bus for 27 years but during my young days when I used to, if there was a young good looking girl I used to make an attempt to apply the “Jack” by squeezing in a bit and even saying “Nangi samwenna, bus eka thadai”. If the girl smiles, I’d take that as a sign of consent and proceed to the next level. If the girl moved away or gave a bad look, the matter ends there.
It has to be mutually consensual in nature and it is a tradition enjoyed by most people (men and women). There are instances where the girl took the initiative. Like a good friend of mine once told me, he was traveling in a bus and this girl was rubbing her chest against his arm with which he was holding the railing. Then she proceeded to rub her buttocks against him.
Great traditions. But politically correct idiots nowadays would not understand any of it.
In North America, I have never been on a bus, so I don’t know what’s the situation here. I have heard that in Japan too this is a tradition enjoyed by many people. They call it Sumata.
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Rarityminds / March 5, 2019
WOW,…. thanks for your honest exposures about your own exp.. Sucha man to become later as one of the big bosses in Army ? That I believe reveal alla bout your profile.. hahah.
I come froma family where my parents are planters. To that time, our circles never talked any good about the jobs in lanken forces. I mean that was in early 80ties.
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During my younger days upto 20 I had been commuting daily like 20 mile long distance by a CTB bus, there I noticed, old men made effort to rub their erected willies on our buttocks. As you added above, the only excuse was that the buses being that crowded and itwas not at all their intention to do so. Unlike todays boys, we were not that matured either… never thought that adult men were intentionally on jacking. I myselt never thought to do so… looking by I was then a shy guy… Anyways, once, I happened to hit a man by pushing my elbows on him while he was pressing his on my buttocks..My sister revealed me how many times she had to face the kind of harrassments. And she had even attacked a guy with her parasol directly on his genitals immediately she noticed he was on that on and on
. Buses were jampacked even more than I think.. I too hve not travelled in a public transport for the last 30 years in SL, but we very often use public transport in EUrope. I have never heard any of my colleagues saying about the kind of abuses.
I think this had been very common in developing countries than any developed ones though your examples from Japan says something else. I know the japanese are very like introverted people. I dont think that is at all needed europeans to do so, since they have their gfs already from their early teenage times on.
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Rtd. Lt. Reginald Shamal Perera / March 5, 2019
RarityMinds,
Looks like you didn’t read my post very well. Please reread it and respond again. Many people here misunderstand my posts. And that is not surprising given that most of the fellas here have their IQs up there rear-end.
I emphasized in my post about it being mutually satisfying to both parties. I also said that it needs the consent of the other. In your case, looks like there was no consent. And the same in your sister’s case. Unless your sister contended to it and when the two parties were seen by someone else in the Bus and she wanted to show her moral righteousness and attacked the man. I am sure this is not the case, but it is possible. After all, a man is very vulnerable in a situation like that and can be blamed upon so easily. Of course, we know that Rosie Posie could not care less about that.
Now, back to the consent part. What I said in my earlier post that as a Gentleman you are supposed to obtain the consent of the girl before all this. You can wink, you can whisper to her ear, you can get closer to her and show your intent etc. But if, if she shows her displeasure, or if she gives a bad stare at you or something, then you need to respect her decision. As a courteous gentleman, this is expected of you. With no hard feelings, you move onto the next. And that “next one” may just be one or two steps away inside the Bus. And you rinse and repeat this process until you find the right one.
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Rarityminds / March 5, 2019
I dont think girls or women in general would allow guys to jack the way you did .. To me, I cant even think of such consents. At what age had you been experiencing the kind of habbits ? I was talking about my teenage days. May well be you guys in colombo had other life styles that we the ones out of cmbo.
Anyways, this is of not that interest. Yes, I do overead most of the comments to some posts. Apologies about that.
So how is the weather like over there. Ours is becoming rainy/cold for these days. I happened to read the latest article on Samantha Badras life style and became bit annoyed, even monks of that nature not wanting to focus of the real shortcomings of the destitute. They obviously spend millions for their alms givings while leaving the destitutes in their states further. If those attendees would spend 1000 bucks for the sake of those who are really in need, that would have been the best for the moment. There are lot more in elephant-human conflicts areas not being able to protect their shelters. There had been some reports about the school going children who had been killed by wild animals on their way back home. Can you imagine, those have such a miserable life while some 2-3% lankens live over luxury style of life.
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Rtd. Lt. Reginald Shamal Perera / March 5, 2019
RarityMinds,
The weather over here is terrible. We had one of the coldest and longest winters. It’s -15 today and tonight we are expecting another snow storm as if we haven’t had enough already. But we must look at the bright side. In another 1 month it will be Spring. And unlike in Paradise Island we do not have landslides and Floods.
As for the destitute in Sri Lanka, when was the last time you were in Sri Lanka? If you were there recently, you’d notice that if you were to talk to a Sri Lankan living there, and ask about the destitute, they’ll go like “what destitute? where?”.
They’ll talk as if though you living in EU and doing very well, and me living in Canada are the destitute ones. LOL! So, don’t worry too much about what happens there. Just worry about your own prosperity in which ever country you reside now. That’s what we all must strive to do. If you want to be charitable, there are many people in need even in the countries we live. I am involved in a charity project that helps First Nations (Eskimo/Inuit) children. I am sure in EU, there are ones in need of your help. Especially, the Roma people.
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Rarityminds / March 6, 2019
Thanks RLRSP,
Yes, such weathers are no good at all. I wish I could spend winter in our home country. Stormy and wet weather these days over here make me feel depressed (W Germany). But temperaturewise it is 10 degrees at average, with spring already started even if April is still ahead of us. April macht was er will (april weather in Germany is unpredictable)
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I travell to SL almost 2-3 times a year depending on my free time. So does my wife too. But last year it was restrict to once for some pvt reasons; since mother is no longer there, I dont feel like travelling home nice. Last time it was in Feb 2018.
No your info regarding lanken poverty levels should be not the updated.I am well alert on lanken realities than what they just spread via TV channels. Media mafia would not reveal much for their own reasons. Ours is caught by media mafia today than any other part of the world.There does exist a media cover about facts about lankens.That should have started from the previous govt for some hidden reasons. Just focus on the areas where human-elephant conflicts are there..Those cant be just handful of people.
School going children return home not knowing if there usual shelter remains intact. And lately, I happened to watch few videos recorded by Derana TV, that showed it better how poor prodigious number of northeners are.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GSzHXHPLgIo
see how poor the people have been.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0AXFsRpDn78
see how those shelters in Jaffna (Nothern province)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8rboQdwPl8&t=884s
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Mano Mortimer / March 5, 2019
Colombo 7 ladies are barking at wrong tree. False Alarm .
There is no such abuse so widespread to warrant such action like separate train compartments for ladies in Sri Lanka.
Concentrate on something else like cleaning up Colombo Pettah and Fort Station areas (need a good colourwash).
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Anti-male / March 5, 2019
You Lunatic MORONS at CT Must be Thrilled about this Article It is no Surprise in the name of Empowering so called weaker SEX You ROTTING SCUM at CT is doing is DIVIDING the Country by GENDER …Gender BLABLABLAbLAbLA……it is all about Girls are this women are this….? You Murderous SCUM at CT You only are Puppets for the Far Leftist west…creating an Anti-male Society there is not a Dot of notification about Harmony…. you Murderous SCUM at CT wants to divide women and men by Branding all men and BOYS as Potential Rapists while every Cunt out there is s Gedera budun amma….uh uh what’s ***ing Joke this is called Anti male feminism you Moron at Colcombe Telegraph….
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men's RIGHTS / March 5, 2019
How Pathetic I wonder how many Commenting on this Shetty article is actually Travels If ever travelled on SL Public transport…all are COL 7 Filthy RICH SCHMUCKS of SL Whining about there Sri Lankan Citizenship BS ….. Let me ask you Something….As a male I have seen women at Certain Instances Stair Down on us Like for no reason……But what they are saying here ” I know what you are upto…So Do you know what is Like to be Falsely being accused…..Guess not…..but worse..What the Hell is this Empowerment of women is really is about…oh I’m sorry it is the New Social Order..It Translates into as Female is The FIRST SEX…and Male is 3rd Class….yes it is the Great Gift from FAR LEFTIST western Rotting White Society 21 century Class war….behold the face of RACISM….it is POSITIVE DISCRIMINATION of Men and BOYS…
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Sam Fernando / March 6, 2019
Typical ceylonese mentality. Why not you guys let the kind of topics being caught by the discourse ?
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Suddas talk any thing with their own children while they grow up while our people would not even teach the basics of the basics to their own offsprings. That is the birth of all the problems. If Parents would have the knowledge to explain things properly, their kids would not end up being caught by sexual criminals.
Where not even the basics are being taught by their adults to own children, there you find lot more crime rates. That is common. See most a,mong arabian countries are made home sexuals. The root causes are because the strictly held situation between men and women in that part of the the world ..
Just interview them and get your facts right.
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vinod nadu / March 7, 2019
My darling Rarityminds
I think I know you. Are you Mitchell Gunasekaram, a student at St Anthony’s in early 80s? I was in Rector Colamabage’s class same time. I now live in your next door – Italy (just over the West German boarder).
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Rarityminds / March 7, 2019
Vinod Nadu@
Sorry, for your disappointment, I am afraid. You cannot know me. I am from southern province but moved to Europe 3 decades ago for my studies.
Anyways, nice to hear from you – whenever we travel across your cities in summer, we could meet up. I have been travelling a lot across europe.
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