27 May, 2022


Strange Relationship

By Sivanesan Sinniah

Sivanesan Sinniah

Sivanesan Sinniah

This is an anthology of twenty one short stories dealing with various topics and various places in Sri Lanka and a few in Toronto. An overview of the backgrounds of some of the stories in this collection is given by the author himself in the foreword. The readers will have an idea of the customs and traditions of Sri Lankan Tamils and their efforts to preserve them, wherever they are living now. I went through all the stories and found that the author has painted a vivid picture of the Jaffna villages and other places appearing in the stories. The history of the villages which have been passed on from generations by word of mouth have been well documented by the author and will be used by future generations. Hence I thank the author for his foresight. I found most of those information about the villages were new to me even though I was born in Jaffna. The descriptions are so authentic that they captivate the attention of the readers and add flavour to the stories and make them interesting. His style and presentation is very lucid and smooth running. He has a natural gift of imagination along with clear and concise story telling. All in all this anthology is interesting and informative. Especially to readers who are new to Srilankan way of living and their internal family feuds .

I found some details given in some stories were unwarranted or antisocial in the present context but at the same time they throw light on the evils of caste system which prevailed in the Jaffna society three decades ago. Instead of very vivid details a casual mention may have been ideal.

Strange Relationship_cover 1_rev4.inddNow I venture out to deal with salient features of some of the stories one by one. Some of the stories deal with questionable activities of Jaffna Tamils of the past and present. The first story titled “Strange Relationship” deals with lesbian love and the reactions of a Sinhalese family. The same applies to any Asian family to such controversial issues which are not addressed properly even at this twenty first century. The tragic ending of the story appears to be to pacify the family concerned. This story brings out the ignorance of the Asians of the mental and physical make up of same sex lovers, which is abhorred and denounced. Incidentally the book is given the same title as that of this story.

The second story is also a controversial one in the eyes of the Asian society and not much spoken about, but found rampantly because of tourism. Pedophiles make it a point to travel to some of these countries including Sri Lanka. This story is set in the background of Bentota a beautiful seaside village in Sri Lanka a famous tourist spot. This brings about the social degradation and the teenagers attraction to quick money and falling victims to pedophile and the spread of HIV.

The third one paints detailed events in a rooming house in Colombo and its suburbs run by government servants for government servants living alone, when their families are in Jaffna. This may be because of economic and social reasons. These rooming houses were in old dilapidated houses with leaking roofs and badly maintained surroundings. These were found mostly in the sixties and seventies and I am not sure of these after the 1983 pogrom in the Sinhalese areas. I was familiar with these rooming houses as some of my friends lived in them.

The story titled “Marriage” describes the life of a typical Jaffna family where the male sibling or siblings takes the responsibility of arranging marriage for their sisters by saving money for giving dowry and leading a frugal life. Some of them pass the age of their marriage in this process and remain a bachelor throughout their life. The dowry system was an evil societal custom prevalent in those days and was given up during the three decades of war in Sri Lanka. I hear now it has shown its ugly head among some of the Diaspora Tamils.

“Rainy Day” is a story depicting the atrocities of the Sri Lankan army in Jaffna during the war, even though the story is happening in Badulla ,a town in the central province. “Retribution” is also a similar one dealing with the same topic told in flashback. “Roadside Singer” another story also falls in this category. The author has used many forms of story – telling with vivid details of the background so as to captivate the attention of the reader. “Beauty” is a story set in a rich and influential area in Colombo called Cinnamon Gardens, similar to posh areas like Bayview or Richmond Hill areas of Toronto.

The story set in Jaffna titled “Well” depicts the typical family feud over a well and Malayan pensioners bringing large amounts of money to Jaffna and building big houses for their children. “Gabriel” is a story connecting Toronto and Puttalam a coastal town in South Sri Lanka. This gives details if Kaffir community from East Africa, who were brought to Sri Lanka (Ceylon) as soldiers by the British and some of them settled there. This was an interesting piece of information which I was not aware of. Incidentally most of the stories contains historical information of villages which have been passed for generations by word of mouth and the author has taken the trouble of recording them and he deserves an honourable mention.

“Rajan’s soul” and “Loneliness” are both set in Ontario and brings out the social issues faced by mostly immigrants. Stories like Chit fund, Intermarriage, Temple Entry, Bribe, and Caste are some very familiar events and the way of life of Jaffna families of those days before the war. Especially the caste system of those days were very well illustrated in these stories. The author may have avoided some details or treated them very casually. I found them a bit out of place at the present context. A Canadian or a Western reader may find them distasteful and may form a negative opinion about us. The story “Barren” deals with the modern technique of artificial insemination which is commonly practised by childless couples.

Most of the stories with Jaffna background deals with some lost practices like crying for money in funeral houses ( Oppari ), animal sacrifice in some temples, temple entry denied for some Harijans etc. These events are very well documented and may serve as valuable information for our younger generation.

All in all this anthology brings out the life of Tamils mostly and a few Sinhalese families from various strata of Sri Lankan society. Author’s wide knowledge of the history, customs and traditions of these families are evident from these stories.

The general get up and formatting of this anthology, including the captivating cover is well done. The publisher Notion Press of Chennai, India deserves commendation. I recommend this book to all readers who are interested in knowing about Sri Lanka and its people. I congratulate Pon Kulendiren for his uncanny ability of remembering events and details of his experiences in these stories and making it an interesting anthology.

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    Tamils in North has had its biggest enemy long before Prabhakaran. That is the caste system. Sadly it still prevails and the Vellala TNA has smothered any representation of them. The fact Prabhakaran rose to prominace is due to his integration of Low Caste Tamils into ranks so they can cudgel the Vellalas. So was Sambanthan living by Prabha’s dictats which now he has conveniently covered by hanging on to the Rajapaksa hate wagon. Sad. The writer thinks as a result of 30 years of keeping people in subhuman conditions in the facsist onclave of Prabhakaran the caste system has vanished. Well he should visit Jaffna and see for himself before writing bunkum out of Toronto.

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      I disagree.

      I am a hardcore Jaffnese.

      I am a Vellala.

      My partner is a Paraya.

      We are human. Deep down we love each other. Cast does’t bother us. ‘Tamil’ unite us.

      We are hardcore Tamils.

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        Good for you. Sadly one individual like you does not make the majority. For a fact do you know all that who in the displaced camps in the North are Low caste Tamils. They are good propaganda for the diaspora Vellalahs but they will not lift a finger to raise a dime to support these low caste people. Truth hurts but some people live in fantasy world sadly.

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    Names of many Roads and Places in Jaffna peninsula are based on caste. Examples.
    Thattar Theru, Vannarpanai, Pandarakulam, Siviyar Theru, Kollan Kalatty etc etc. It is true that Caste system did not take prominence when LTTE was powerful because many of the leaders were not from Vellala caste. Caste system exists not only among Tamils but also among Sinhalese. How about Asokamala –Saliya love affair?. How about the Rodiya caste?.How about Late President Premadasa?
    Other than caste there are other traditions such as Animal sacrifice still continues. It reminds me of the issue at Muneswaram Bathirakali amman kovil.

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    Thank You Mr Sinniah for your review, and Mr Kulendiren for writing what is clearly an interesting book, and one that I look forward to adding to my library.

    Memories of a long-ago boyhood in Negombo were triggered by the ‘hired crying in funeral houses’ which was prevalent in old Negombo. This I have witnessed first-hand, and was chastised by my elders for making the most obvious observation.

    Negombo itself was an anthropological time capsule. Sinhalese, Tamils, Moors, Burghers, Chinese, and possibly more. What a right-royal melange. The strangest was the itinerant hybrid fishermen from the north who camped in Palangathurai and Kochchikade at certain times of the year and added richly to the variety of inter-mingling of customs and traditions.

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    Nirmala, caste did not bother you becos you are a good soul. But the majority of the Jaffna Tamils are just the opposite. It is still there and slowly vanishing in the diaspora but it may take another 100 years at least to completely disappear at this rate.
    As Pon Kulendran indicated, not only in the north, in the east also you could easily guess who lives down the lane of Vannar theru, Thattara theru, Sengunthar Veethy, Senguntha Hindu College etc. What we have done to remove this taboo first.
    Have you ever seen a street name as Vellalar Road anywhere in the north and or east? Nope. Why?

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