21 October, 2017

The Need To Legalize ‘Underage Marriages’

By Muhammed Fazl

Muhammed Fazl

“When a woman has scholarly inclinations, there is usually something wrong with her sexuality” – Friedrich Nietzsche

The last time I attended a panel discussion on ‘Constitutional Reforms’ where feminist movements were seen ‘moving mountains’ to change divine laws governing Muslim marriages and inheritance among other changes to the Constitution, I couldn’t help but notice such organizations having a sizeable number of staff consisting of members of the LGBTQ community, divorcees, single women etc. While I am of the opinion that what we do define who we are, I sincerely hope my contribution towards addressing a key part of the Muslim Personal Law (MPL) would be taken into serious consideration by all concerned.

As usual, Islam and Muslims of Sri Lanka have come under attack once again. This time, the enemies and their collaborators seem to have adopted a more genteel approach in infringing the rights of Muslims in order to suppress the influence the faith of peace wields. It is said that ‘when India sneezes, Sri Lanka catches a cold’. Coincidence it is or a well-orchestrated stratagem by a devious third party to ‘address’ the issue of MPL simultaneously in both countries, I do not know. But ring an alarm bell it does in the minds of the local Muslim community when attempts are being made to single out the Islamic faith and its adherents by invalidating centuries-old and divine laws while more virulent and present-and-clear dangers to society are ignored.

Times have changed for worse no doubt. fourteen  years or eighteen, if a girl thinks it is her right and engages in a sexual relationship with the opposite sex, there is no further argument there…., ‘cos she is ready for marriage as well! The online activist that I am, to sum it all up, six months ago, I wrote the following on my personal Facebook page and that which was taken down since then by its administrators for reasons best known to them. Extracts of that post are as follows:-

“If a girl has reached the age of puberty, and if she is ready or willing to be married (and not coaxed into), no force on earth should have the power to act against her. End of the day, it is her life and her body. Feminist movements and rights organizations can scream as loud as they wish, but laws of nature does not pay no heed to their hypocrisy.

Living in an age where parents find it ‘cool’ allowing boyfriends to ‘pop the cherries’ of their teenage daughters’ (mostly in non-Muslim families), I somehow find it very hard to digest their hypocrisy when they oppose ‘underage’ (even if matured enough) girls wanting to get married to one man and have a family, secure life etc….

While my grandmother got married when she was 13 and had 11 healthy kids, my paternal aunt too got married when she was 13 and gave birth to 8 kids. They say age is just a number…. and it is. Needless to say, there exist kids aged between 14-16 who are much smarter than 18yr olds and who would even score a lot higher should they be tested for their IQ, general knowledge, common sense and their levels of maturity.

While education is necessary, if one is to take a good look at women with loose morals aka ‘harlots of Colombo’, he/she will see that most of them are highly educated and having come from broken families or having changed hands from one man to another when in search of emotional solace or sexual gratification. At the same time, teenage girls graduated from universities in Western countries do not seem to be fairing any better either when they are seen doing the rounds in social circles of Colombo in skimpy clothing and failing miserably in their quest for contentment, happiness and inner peace of life, and eliciting nothing but pity on themselves..

While the debate for changes to MPL rages on, one thing that should not be up for debate is the fact that no girl should be forced to or forced not to marry a man, not even by her own parents! Minimum age restrictions may limit sexual exploitation of the vulnerable to a certain extent, but in the same vein, wouldn’t it be a slap on the face of law when parents allow their teenage daughters to freely intermingle with boys of their age or older and often resulting in sexual relationships abortions and pregnancies? The hypocrisy of the ‘modern society’ is such that teenage daughters having half a dozen boyfriends (sexual partners) before they even turn 20 is considered ‘cool’ and acceptable, as against ‘hell breaking lose’ when a decent young girl under 18 years of age wants to be married and be happy. And it is not as if the so-called ‘champions of women’ causes would go out of the way to uplift the standard of living of a less fortunate young girl…, let alone help financially to sustain her or the family she belongs to. While I am no medical doctor, respect as well we must medical opinions should it go against marrying early. But then again, it would be exceptional cases”.

While I do not dispute the fact that Muslim Marriage and Divorce Act (MMDA) of 1951 needs to be rewritten, as long as it does not contravene the teachings of Islam, I believe it should be alright to accommodate requirements of the modern society that we live in. Having examined few clauses of the existing act, I would appreciate should knowledgeable individuals respond to the following:-

1 – While it is disappointing seeing local feminists and/or representatives in NGOs of Crusader countries misconstruing on public media the notion of girls not having reached the age of 18 to be as 12-year olds as if it is a rule, reflect does it not their true intentions, one of them being to demean Islamic laws and Muslims in general?

2 – As per the demands of feminist rights movements, if reaching 18 years of age is what it takes to be considered as ‘matured and ready for marriage’, would a girl who is only 17 years and 360 days old be considered ‘immature and NOT ready for marriage’? And if so, wouldn’t that be an insult to the intelligence of girls who are much younger than 18, but who could possibly be a lot more matured, educated and intelligent than some 25-year olds of the same sex? I mean who set reaching 18 years of age as the standard for one to be considered as ‘mature’ in the first place?

3 – If 13 years of secular schooling is what it takes for a girl to be considered as someone with a ‘sound mind’, would that be an indication of being educated enough to take correct decisions and make righteous judgements in life? And if so, wouldn’t that criteria make a mockery of this ‘13 years of schooling’, education etc. when the so-called ‘educated women’ end up being promiscuous or lead adulterous lives even when married in addition to having other anti-social habits in their latter years of their lives?

4 – Based on isolated incidents. If ‘underage marriages’ result in sexual and physical abuse of children as claimed by feminist rights movements hell-bent on ‘reforming’ MPL, would marrying once they reach the ‘age of consent’ help them find the perfect life, married or otherwise for certain? To throw a challenge, if these feminist movements can list X number of cases of abuse resulting from ‘underage marriages’, I probably could prepare a bigger list (many times the X number) of women who got married long after the suggested 18-year threshold and who now literally live a ‘life of hell’!

The point I try making here is, instead of burying our heads in the sand highlighting the age factor alone, the focus should be on the abuse itself. And to educate the ignorant, statistics also reveal that, countries championing causes in favor of minimum age laws having the highest divorce rates of more than 50%…. not to mention a considerable percentage from the other half having adulterous relationships with co-workers and friends while remaining ‘married’.

5 – As claimed by feminist rights movements, if physical and sexual abuse of minors are a problem in countries where no minimum-age requirement laws for marriages are strictly implemented, does it not the following report prove them feminists organizations wrong and expose their devious and manipulating ways? And ironic is it not when countries that champion laws governing minimum age requirements happens to be among top on the list of countries with the highest cases of physical and sexual abuse of women and teenage girls as against statistics of Islamic countries where girls marry young?

6 – Contradict themselves do they not when the Zionist/Christian West falsely claims to be liberating women from an ‘oppressive’ culture/religion, suppresses rights of Muslims for exercising the right of their women for choosing their attire when in public? In the same vein, attempts of the so-called ‘reformist’ feminist rights movements here in Sri Lanka the same when they force their agenda on an unsuspecting community quite content with their religion and their traditions?

I am indeed impressed by the ability of the West to instill ‘values’ that determine the wrongs and rights in the minds of the ‘Westernized’ but ignorant Muslim population of Sri Lanka. If modern day fathers cannot fathom the fact their daughters will be deflowered at some stage in their teenage years, they might as well restrict their daughters from having any kind of contacts with the opposite sex. If a daughter who is just 14 years old is considered as a mere ‘baby’ to parents, does she ceases to be such when she turns 18? I guess it does only when we allow elements in the West and their ‘foot soldiers’ here at home to ‘brainwash’ us into thinking in those lines. Times have changed and so have attitudes towards life and sex in the minds of the young. If marrying an ‘underage’ girl raises the question of possible sexual abuse, let us also criminalize the act of sex between teenagers and jail half of International school-going kids in Colombo for engaging in such!

The body and life of a girl/woman is hers alone. Eighteen or not, girls should be able to decide on whom to marry and when to marry. And if one has not reached the age of 18, to strike a compromise, her case should be addressed by a respectable judge on an individual basis and on its own merit. When it comes to matters of love, life and happiness, ‘one-size-fits-all’ approaches should be discouraged. As much as we the right-thinking, lobbyists and policy makers are against forced and child marriages, we should also be careful enough not to enforce ourselves and prevent a holy matrimony from taking place. As long as the bride has attained the age of sexual maturity and if she is mentally and physically strong enough to embark on a long journey, what right should an unrelated third party have in preventing the same girl from entering into a union that provides her with love, sustenance and security among others? And what if the couple intending to get married are ‘soul mates’ and meant for each other? Not to mention the economic situation of the girl and her family…. Or should we be promoting the prevailing promiscuous culture amongst teens in the West right here in Sri Lanka by delaying their chances for marriage? And while at it, making it a lot easier for teenage girls to experience and enjoy sex with as many partners before the thought of marriage even cross their minds?

I mean are we so blind to realities in life that we fail to acknowledge the fact that promiscuity and debauchery at early stages in life contributing to break down of marriages and loss of family values often resulting in increased levels of crime as an addition?

Let’s admit it…. Muslims and Islam are the real targets here for this ‘reforms’ to MPL. It is my firm belief that the Zionist/Crusader West is on an ‘unholy’ mission to castigate the Prophet of Islam in a negative light and to make him look a ‘pedophile’ in the eyes of millions of unsuspecting masses for his marriage to his very young wife Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her). The fact is, as it was customary those days to marry young, the Prophet of Islam consummated the marriage ONLY AFTER his young bride attained age.  While the following link enlightens us of the ‘age of consent’ in both past and present times, I believe the world needs to stop the use of words such as ‘Pedophilia’ and ‘Child Marriages’ irresponsibly, and to stop using them as weapons to fulfil their ulterior motives when they are blind themselves to realities in life and lack the resolve to move ahead.

There is never a day where we don’t read about incidents of teachers having sex with their young students in Western countries…. Not to mention it being considered an extreme rare case not being able to find a 14-year old virgin among school-going kids in those same countries. In this context, why are we making a mountain out of a molehill here? And if sex with multiple partners is good and an acceptable norm when 13-17 year olds engage in it, WHY NOT marriage with just one man while being provided with a sense of security, love and all good things that come along with it?

If the welfare of children in general is of utmost importance to those striving to change MPL, why not start with Buddhist temples in Sri Lanka where I believe 99% of them tiny ‘monks’ who are no more than 6 years of age and who are sexually abused on a daily basis by seniors wearing robes of a monk and claiming to be monks? It is not right for those little boys to be ‘caged’ with unrelated male strangers who apparently and outwardly claim to live a life of celibacy…. and devoid of women! I mean, how hard is it for one to figure out what really goes behind those walls? Little boys being ‘spiritual’ and gaining knowledge about Buddha’s teachings when they should be having a normal childhood and an upbringing? I mean is this a bad joke that nobody takes notice no more? Surely, instead of being stuck with isolated cases of abuse resulting from ‘child marriages’ numbering not more than a dozen, shouldn’t the government and children’s rights movements be cracking down hard on temples and cracking down NOW?

To allay any misconceptions about the title of this article, legalizing ‘underage’ marriages is NOT necessarily to enforce the practice as a norm, but to allow girls in certain situations to exercise their right to a decent life should that option be in their best interests. And in the event the government goes ahead with making changes before having proper consultations with representatives of all concerned Muslim and Islamic religious organizations, I fear the inevitability of extremist forces amongst the Muslim population declaring a semi-war on the government.

It is 15:35 in Colombo and even though the old saying – “after 12, it is lunch time” comes to my mind, just as I delay experiencing all that is beautiful till the times of sunset when calmness reigns at around 18 hundred hours, I would expect the same patience or more for all stakeholders to exercise before they rush into taking drastic decisions that one day our future generations could hold us accountable for.

*Editor’s note: The Colombo Telegraph does not hold any or all of the views of the writer of this essay. Prior to publication the editorial board pondered on the contents of the essay. We felt the essay was representative of the mindset of many Muslim males. We believe that this essay by an English speaker would be reflective of a deep rooted regression among the community.

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    It is great that Colombo Telegraph has taken the initiative to expose these regressive minded human beings who are also a part and parcel of the Lankan muslim. I hope this will be an oppurtunity for all the fair minded Muslims to take this tribal, archaic, inhuman, and irrational practices out of the psyche of the Muslims in Lanka. Thanks CT- these have been the underlying ideals that have supressed this once vibrant community, and this exposing of that should help Muslims re think.

    And yes I am a Muslim, a practicing one- who has kept the Quran as the ultimate criterion- in which none of this nonsense is there. Before the Islamaphobe tals of the killing in the Quran- I invite them to read the allegories within it and how the 124 sword verses ( on killing and martyrdom) was continuously abrogated and did not and does not form a part of the inherent teachings of rules or laws within it.

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      Muhammed Fazl

      RE: The Need To Legalize ‘Underage Marriages’

      When Prophet Mohamed married the first time to Kadija, he was 25 and Kadija 35.

      Why not follow that tradition, the Sunnah.

      Why the Double Standards.

      Did the Wahhabi tribalists pay you?

      The Wahhabi follow the Devil Satan, and have the lowest critical thinking skills in the World, as far as their graduates are concerned and extends to the Ulama the populace.

      Quick Post: L&V’s National IQs predict GMAT scores across 173 nations.

      Wahhabi Saudi Arabia at the bottom with Average GMAT at 330 . Turkey and Iran between 520 and 540

      Regression Plot: The regression plot for GMAT scores and L&V’s (2012) Estimated National IQs is shown below.

      https://humanvarietiesdotorg.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/gmatregressionplot.png

      http://humanvarieties.org/2014/02/02/quick-post-lvs-national-iqs-predicts-gmat-scores-across-173-nations/

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        Marakkalamarasiri,

        Are you ‘puka mattu’ now that the true nature of your ‘religion’ has come out?

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          Point Blank

          Point Blank, take the GMAT, show your idiocy. Is it worse that the Saudi graduates?

          Regression Plot: The regression plot for GMAT scores and L&V’s (2012) Estimated National IQs is shown below.
          [Edited out]

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            I don’t think this guy is a real Muslim. Where is his beard?

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      Muhammed Fazl

      This is what wise people called the Arabisation of the entire world through back door.

      There is nothing more one could rationally add to the discussion when men claim to possess the divine right to publicly scrutinize and privately admire children’s private parts.

      This has nothing to do with their primitive nature however this is an indication of too much irresponsible freedom the perverts enjoy and too little care for women and children.

      Practicing or potential Pedophiles should be dealt with all seriousness, put them in boot camps.

      Children should be heard not hurt.

  • 12
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    very well said.

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      Jehan,

      Yes, indeed.

      Have not read such an idiotic piece, in a long while.

      Not even by Fazl’s very own Total Religious Nutter Standard.

      Cheers!

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    When you talk about “Rights of Muslims” it makes clear that your allah is a farce.

    Why don’t you think all what happens to you is Allah’s wish ?

    If not ask allah what to do, probably Jihad.

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      Jihad is a strong term for a BBS terrorists, don’t you think so ?

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        How about LTTE ?

        they were a Tamil spiritual organization blowing up buddhist temples to destroy terrorists.

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    Muhammed Fazl ….as a Muslim male you would definitely want to have fresh taste of Muslim girl who has just attained puppetry

    why not let the Muslim girls speak for themselves

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      No a Tamil girl.

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    Harlots of Colombo , LGBT .!!! Has Muhammed resigned from the UNP.

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    My dear FazI
    We are caught up between two extreme …one is literal and liberal…literal want to follow word by word ..liberal want to liberate women from very think..
    They want to lesbians.. they want to have boybefriends..they want to go clubs and pubs …they want to atheists and they want to many things …these people have nothing to do with religion. They do not have faith at all …
    But literal group also done harm to Islam in many ways …they can not grasp the change and challenges we face IN SL.
    They wanted to have imported rituals..in.SL???

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    This guy wants to make Sri lanka a really primitive country.

    Read below;

    [Edited out] Comments should not exceed 300 words.Please read our Comments Policy for further details.

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      Sri Lanka is a relatively already primitive country.

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    Muhammed Fazl “While my grandmother got married when she was 13 and had 11 healthy kids, my paternal aunt too got married when she was 13 and gave birth to 8 kids. They say age is just a number…. and it is”

    you proudly talk about your grandmother and paternal aunt ….

    but you have not categorically stated whether you would let your own daughter to decide for her self and marry as soon as she attain puppetry.

    you are a selfish sexual pervert..who may sell your grandmother to a brothel…. because age is “just a number…”?

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      Authority should confiscate Fazal’s computer and have a good check. In the West this type of excuses made under religious beliefs are coined as Pedophile tendencies.

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    Muhammed Fazl:

    How is Kathankudy ?

    Is it not yet a ISIS strong hold in which Muslim laws make even eight yeard olds get married because the prispective husband wants it that way ?

    Google and see how Saudi Arabian women are treated when they come out. when are we going to see the same in colombo. Kathankudy is far away ?

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    Prophet Mohammed when fifty-three years old, married Aisha nine years old.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7-VUso4H-yU

    Does not this fact allow young Muslim women marry at least soon after puberty.

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    Let the Muslim girls excercise their right of opinion in the Colombo Telegraph.After all it is their right to decide whether to marry at 15 or 50. Who is Fazal, a man,to speak on their behalf?Fazal’s intervention here shows the continuing trend of Muslim men to speak and decide on behalf of Muslim women folk, and clearly dominate them.It is time for educated women like Jezima Ismail, Anberiya Haniffa etc to speak up.Their silence on this important issue is deafening.

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      The writer disappointingly, seems to be pushing for little girls to be given in marriage when they are not physically or mentally ready for it, seem to want girls uneducated and depending on their husbands, who want to control them, physically, mentally, and financially. He wants women to be subservient, and ignorant, and give in to the demands of the husband, even producing children that he wants, and she may not.
      Keep in mind that even at that time, Lady Khadija was a strong willed woman, who was successful as a business woman, and still the Prophet Mohammed worked for her, and married her.
      The writer seems to be endorsing little girls be given in marriage very young, perhaps showing ignorance that they will end up psychologically traumatized by what marriage demands, the horrors of physical intimacy, that little girls cannot comprehend or understand. Shame on him.

      It is this type of thinking and behavior that gives Islam a bad name.

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    Muhammed Fazl,

    Perhaps one should consider some fundamental questions, and not falsely drag this into a religion based discriminatory issue, given that the age-limit is applied uniformly across all citizens.

    The age-limit is imposed on a seemingly reasonable assumption that most children below a certain age are just “children” – in GENERAL not capable of making some serious decisions as much as a mature adult could. That does not mean that there are no children who make better decisions than some or even most adults. Nor does it conversely mean that all adults make better decisions than children. The issue is that in it is not unreasonable to expect adults to be in GENERAL capable of making better life-affecting decisions than children could.

    That is the basis for many socially responsible laws such as voting rights, tobacco and alcohol use, treatment of crimes by children as opposed to crimes by adults. What is then your view on these other laws that limit children in some case and favour children in others, but both intended to protect rather than punish children for being children.

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    Marriage is a legally biding contract, so nobody under 18 should be allowed for it. It stupidity one ask if one is less than 1 second to 18 and if that one can marry. One has to understand what law the means by 18.

    Marriage Is diffrent sextual relation diffrent. Quranic followers are beating with whip or chopping heads for having sex or even simple love relations. Recently many cases from Acher, Indonesia was released. Indonesians has been un-divinely committing sins for centuries and now suddenly picking scuttle graceful deeds of Whipping girls under 18. The nature of the human being can not suppressed. So it has to be educated against under age sex. A certain marginal, fault will occur and those have to used as example to teach, but not to torture the fallen victims.

    MMDA is dividing law, not just muslim Men and Women, but the unity of the Tamil speaking crowd too. The Sinhala Intellectuals have been diving Tamils into Indian Tamils, Ceylon Tamils, Muslims and Upper-lower castes. Like the Indian – Ceylon Tamil difference went away all other differences should go. One of the hurdle is Don Stephens MMDA. That has to go. Freeing Muslim women will be the first step for Tamils to unite minorities and launch agitation for minority rights.

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      Mallaiyuran “Marriage is a legally biding contract..”

      Muhammed Fazl the sexual pervert is talking about MPL and Shari law….may be marriage is not a binding contract under Sharia law

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    This guy is [Edited out]! CT stop printing his drivel repeatedly!

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    Congratulations, Fazl. It is not the MMDA reformers who have “castigated” the prophet and the religion. It’s idiotic men like you. As a Muslim woman, I find you and your thinking vile and just bat-shit crazy.

    You champion the need not to change the laws under the guise of freedom of choice but you have skirted the question of whether you would let your 12 year old daughter get married — many men like you are vocal about not reforming the law but clamp up if you are asked that question.

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    Dear CT Editor, taking note of your comment at the end of the drivel in this article, Please allow me to speak the truth I believe in, as frankly and truthfully, without causing any offence to the right minded Muslims whom I count friends. I vow to comply with CT editorial standards for comments on the site.

    To begin with, this demand sounds conspiratorial! The proposed child marriage of Muslim girls will further contribute to the explosive growth of Muslim population in Sri Lanka that has aggravated during the war time. It almost looks like while the Sinhalese and Tamils were killing each other, the Muslims were busily breeding. This has been happening while there are (unverified) strong rumours of Muslim obstetricians employing force and tactics to sterilise young Sinhala mothers. Just today, the Colombo Chief Minister announced that Muslims are the highest population in Colombo, with Tamils second

    But there are stronger moral objections to the animal behaviour the writer Fazi seems to seek legal permission for.

    For the edification of those Muslims who seem to consider they are faithful to God, you are worshiping a man diseased mental condition of being sexually attracted to prepubescent children, medically referred to as pedophilia. A person suffering from this condition is called a pedophile.

    The subject of your worship Muhammad was engaged to a minor named Aisha when she was only 6 years old and he was 51, and consummated the marriage while she was still pre-pubescent, 9 years old (Sahih Muslim 8:3311).

    Muhammad’s companions also committed pedophilia. Umar the 2nd caliph of Islam married a 10 years old Umm Kulthum, with some even saying that she was five years old at the time. He sanctioned his, and his friend’s, animal desire of marrying pre-pubescent girls and having sex with them in his ‘Holy Book’ Qur’an at 65:4.
    .
    Muhammad was a pedophile, even according to the most stringent clinical definition of pedophilia used in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (Fourth Edition).

    This practice is intuitively ghostly, no matter what this confirmed pedophile has ‘preached’.

    Pedophilic Islamic marriages are still mostcommon in Pakistan and Afghanistan, followed by the Middle East and Bangladesh.

    Irrespective of the reasons and justifications given by the so-called Muslim Faithfuls (they clearly are not), this animalistic, brutal practice needs to be condemned as immoral, uncivilised, and unacceptable in the modern world. It is a matter that goes beyond justifications of animal behaviour on purported ‘religious’ beliefs. It is intuitively against common decency of human existence instilled in us all by God and any one or any thing that sanctions can’t be called a Prophet or a religion.

    The right thinking Muslims need to act because it is not against God’s will to denounce Mohamed and his brutality in this regard. Tthose who insist on satisfying their pedophile fantasies with the help of our law should be criminally prosecuted to the maximum extent and put away for life, or for ever.

    Let God’s curse be on the infidels who seek sexual abuse of young girls.

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    Fazl,

    You must be talking a very elite group of girls and women who go around fornicating. For the masses, it is mostly about hard work and/or study, and there is not much time to indulge. And Lankan culture of all creeds have a benchmark traditional culture that they usually abide by. By nature, men and women are shy of each other, and most of the interaction is one of romancing or hanging out with each other in platonic ways. Parental advice (or threat) usually is abiding.

    Trouble is, in the West, sex has become experimental and they try to stretch all kinds of concepts to stimulate creativity so they stay on top. Some in the West are speaking against this, and they feel that it is deliberately done to destroy their traditional Western Civilization.

    Truth is, girls who desire to be married in their early teens are usually not too bright. Parents are glad to be rid of them. If they had average intelligence, they usually channel much of their energies into school and social life. The kids produced might not be as bright either, like the Mum. The poor girl might have a terrible time with the jealousy of the older wives – younger men usually marry their own age group so they can work together and build up. Soul-mates might be there too. But when girls study and work and go through to the 13 years of school system, soul mates come at a later stage. Everybody has a soul mate.

    As per the prophet (PBUH), the guy was merely following tradition. Rich guys did that even in Europe. It was the playground of the Rich to marry children. For the hard-working masses trying to follow that structure, it was misery.

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    Popping the Cherry used to be serious business for our Sinhala Buddhist majority. I bet it would have been the same for Muhammad’s folks.

    Opportunistic Muslim Politicians worked O/T with the Tiger Diaspora , the West, UNP and the Vellala TNA to bring Yahapalanaya.

    Those opportunists probably didn’t realize the Yahapalana front line players belong to the LGBT and their followers.

    Our majority inhabitants, traditions, values beliefs, practices and even religion are not important to these Yahapalana Heavies who are in total control now.

    Muhammed Fasi’s penchant for picking really young cherries has become a victim of this Yahapalana dudes determination to change the Nation for ever . to fit in with their thinking their ways, their values and those of their Diaspora mates .

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      wijelion

      Brilliant

      Thanks.

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    Totally agree with the author’s comment on child enrolment as Buddhist monks.

    Surprised to hear that “The body and life of a girl/woman is hers alone. Eighteen or not, girls should be able to decide on whom to marry and when to marry.” No doubt the author will campaign to change the Muslim marriage laws to permit the bride to sign for marriage rather than allow her father to do so ?

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    “*Editor’s note…We felt the essay was representative of the mindset of many Muslim males. We believe that this essay by an English speaker would be reflective of a deep rooted regression among the community.”

    Yet the ‘Editor’ is aware that this particular ‘writer’ ( who has no qualifications and is only published by CT) defended child rape on their own pages and was removed after a public backlash.

    Perhaps CT could find a regressed Muslim male without allegations of female child abuse against him to speak on the subject of underage marriage and child/women’s rights?

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    The writer’s entire premise supporting underage marriage is based on the consent of the girl child.
    (a) If consent is so important, why does the writer start to question the morality of teenage girls who engage in sexual relationships with teens of similar ages? After all it is done with the full consent of the girl!
    (b) The writer himself points out that children shouldn’t be coaxed into a marriage. How are we to know that a Muslim child has in fact made an un-pressurized choice as to marriage, when there could be indirect pressure from family members, teachers of the Muslim community etc?
    (c)Most importantly, the reason for banning child marriages, is the VERY IDEA OF A CHILD. A child is supposed to spend his/her growing years in an environment conducive for their personal development and education. Can a child who has family responsibilities as a result of an underage marriage truly experience childhood? (The writer should take a look at the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Maybe that will help him understand what he was supposed to receive and what he missed during his sad childhood)

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    “When a woman has scholarly inclinations, there is usually something wrong with her sexuality” – Friedrich Nietzsche

    Nietzsche was for long close to the hearts of fascists; when did Islamic fundamentalism adopt him?

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    Although the points could have been better made, a good article.

    The sheep mentality these fools have to western ideals should be challenged. No matter how bitter it is to them.

    These liberal fools have no problem with a man marrying another man and penetrating each others anus but God forbid a girl get married before 18.

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      You must have got here in a time machine. This has nothing to do with men marrying men, and following Western ideals. This is simply safeguarding our children from being given in marriage, to avoid rape, and children giving birth to children. The word for adult men having sex with little children is called Paedophelia, and it is time ignorant and backward men realized that this is not the dark ages, and people are more educated, and realize their primitive thinking does not belong in the modern age. Safeguarding little girls and boys are part of human rights, and they do not have to be forcefully married to dirty old men.

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    Assalamu Alaikum,

    Being an observant Muslim, I have two major issues with what the author says.

    I find it interesting that the author of this article quotes Friedrich Nietzsche’s (a man who questioned religion and tradition) views on the education of women, and not Islam’s view on it. In Islamic history, women were very active in the search for knowledge as well as being teachers of the community. Notable in this aspect are Aisha (Ral), who narrated volumes of hadith, and who people would approach to learn more about Islam. Sayyidah Nafisah bint Al-Hasan, a great-great granddaughter of the Prophet was a known scholar of her time and is said to have taught Imam Shafi himself, and also financed his education. You can read more about the great female scholars of Islam in the link below.

    http://www.youngmuslimdigest.com/study/02/2015/great-women-islamic-history-forgotten-legacy/

    So the views of women have traditionally played an important part in Islamic Jurisprudence. Sadly, men like the author of this article, like to limit the role women play in scholarship and education. So he claims to uphold ‘religious and divine law’ at one level, quotes a man who was a sceptic of religion, and then actually does not acknowledge the role Muslim women were granted by the faith in education and scholarly inclination.

    Secondly the author speaks of the women in his family who married young. The issue here is not about denying sexual rights to men or women, or taking away their right to marriage. Age is definitely a construct, and the construct of this time is based on the education system. Irrespective of the flaws there might be in education systems, it has helped uplift people, improved their access to valuable information, and broadened their opportunities for a livelihood. By increasing the minimum age of marriage, we ensure that girls finish secondary education, and are free to marry anyone they want. While the author and I might come from English speaking, educated and privileged backgrounds, so that even if someone were to marry young, a support system is in place to take care of them, this is not the case with the majority on this island And we cannot be irresponsible about their lives, just because we come from privilege.

    What has been discovered, in the narratives of women I have interacted with is that in the event a woman who has married young (thereby unable to complete formal education) and is faced with divorce or widowhood, and comes from disadvantaged situation, she automatically plunges into a state of poverty, and will have to support herself with low paid unskilled work. She may have to leave the country for migrant work, and if she has children, leave them to make a living. This is the story of my own maid, who married at 15, had five children, divorced her alcoholic and abusive husband, and then left for Kuwait for work. Her extended family lived off her money. When she came back, her children were scattered, and she died while in our care, with not a single relative attending her funeral.

    We live in an unpredictable world, and as citizens and parents we must first ensure the safety and security of our children. The author says ‘legalizing ‘underage’ marriages is NOT necessarily to enforce the practice as a norm, but to allow girls in certain situations to exercise their right to a decent life should that option be in their best interests.’ I have been a school teacher and I understand teenagers and respect their maturity. However, if
    a student of mine, out of her own will says at 14, that she would like to marry, in her BEST INTEREST I would ask her to finish school and get married later.

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      I find it interesting that the author of this article quotes Friedrich Nietzsche’s (a man who questioned religion and tradition) views on the education of women, and not Islam’s view on it.

      NIETTZCHE’s father and grand father was church pastors in Catholic churches.

      Muslims venerate a hard core catholic over their Religion.

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      Aamina
      A well written rejoinder.
      Any reasoning person cannot quarrel with you.

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      It is good to see comments like this coming from within the Muslim community.

      Also good to see SJ commending the comment.

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        Thanks. But why me?
        Is it unusual for me to endorse views that I appreciate?

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    A lot of women who married young ( 13,11 years old) and had a lot of children face lots of health problems when they are old.

    This man is a shame to humanity

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    A very good article. Hypocrites will cry.

    As for the kaffirs- there destiny is hell. jim softy learn about islam, before you end up in hell. hell is not a coffee shop.

    There is only one ALLAH AND PROPHET MOHAMMED IS THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH

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    Girls (and boys) should be able to decide when they are ready to have consensual sex only after being given a proper education on consent, healthy relationships and sexual health. marriage is legally binding and no persons under at least the age of 18 should be able to legally bind themselves in situations they do not have enough education, life experience or exposure to grasp..
    If a girl is so adament on getting married at 14, why not stipulate that she be educated on her rights, both human and sexual and then let her decide when she reaches 18, unless there’s concern that she will change her mind once she realizes the gravity of the situation and her rights as a human being and her reduced rights as a married woman..

    This author clearly has an agenda since he has written so prolifically on many occasions as to how women should behave and demonized women educated on their rights as “westernized, all while claiming to say that everyone else should wake up to the 21st century. please give Sri Lankan women the credit they deserve and have earned in standing up for their own rights without so called “western” influence.. we realized how suppressed we are on our own -.-

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    There are lots of NGO funded Lgbt organizations in Sri Lanka than the actual homos.

    Regardless of religion or ethnicity, no one should get married under the age of 21.

    The reasoning of girl getting married at the at the age of 14 of yours is all nonsense. Children should not have children as parents.

    Lots of Muslim girls in Sri Lanka have mental health issues.

    The best age is to get married is after the age of 30, live care free single life for awhile and then get married, once you are married, you are married for life.

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      Johnny Boy

      “Lots of Muslim girls in Sri Lanka have mental health issues.”

      Do all of them behave like you? Strange.

      “The best age is to get married is after the age of 30, live care free single life for awhile and then get married, once you are married, you are married for life.”

      What happens when people like you could not find partners even at 65 years? At 45 you become a rapist or a gropping pervert, at 55 you take up flashing, at 65 you convert to Fazl brand of Islam and become a pedophile.

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