10 December, 2018

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Are Women To Be Blamed For Rape?

By Muhammed Fazl

Muhammed Fazl

Muhammed Fazl

And among His signs is this that He has created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them; and He has put love and mercy between you…” – [Quran – 30:21]

Committed in the name of love of women, out of hatred or as a punishment, incidents of rape are definitely on the rise. While the act of rape needs to be considered as a violation of a woman’s (in most cases) right to her body and honor, and not just as a forced sexual act, it is important to address this burning issue taking into consideration all related matters and in a comprehensive manner, including highlighting the importance of preventive measures.

Vidya Sivayoganathan, a beautiful flower, breathed her last few days back after enduring untold brutalities in a supposedly civilized world. Having attended a candle-lit vigil at Colombo’s Independence Square yesterday in memory of the victim, I believe the need to address and contain this inhumane criminal trend should figure among the top priorities of any government in power.

While seeking home-grown solutions, one must have an open mind and it should be tailor-made to suit our country and society. Civil societies and feminist movements may want the death penalty imposed and or bail denied for suspects, but I am of the view that a holistic approach is needed, hence the need to begin examining,

  • The root causes of rape with emphasis and studies on the mentality of the average local male and of each and every known perpetrator.
  • Exiting laws and traditional preventive measures.
  • Existing and possible psychological counselling facilities for victims.
  • Possible enactments of guidelines/laws for public and private behavior of both sexes.
  • Possible regular media campaigns in protecting the rights and honor of the weaker sex.
  • The possibility of enacting laws against immodesty in dress codes when in public and the possible implementation of laws against nudity and objectification of women for commercial gain on all formats of the media.
  • Suitable methods of punishments and as a deterrent.

Vidya SivayoganathanWhile studies have revealed that male rapists in general don’t suffer from any particular medical conditions that could relate to their violent behavior, I believe contributory factors include sexual deprivation, obsessive behavior, broken families, lack of education, poverty, infidelity in relationships (on the part of their women), jealousy, and hardcore pornography among others. Being introverts in nature and more often than not, identifying or profiling rapists before the crime is committed is in no way an easy task either.

Taking in to consideration the number of rape cases 30 years ago and comparing it with current trends, would it be wise not to acknowledge positive aspects in this regard when living in an era where conservative values were more in existence? Once the damage is done, punishing the perpetrators even to the fullest extent of law does not necessarily bring about justice or closure to the victims and/or their families. Hence, the need to establish professional tri-lingual counselling components in order for them to recover from possible emotional/psychological trauma they probably would have undergone.

Data collected over the years from research statistics shows us how almost 80% of the victims knew their offenders. In this scenario, would it not make it a fertile ground for rape when women freely intermingle with little known male strangers especially when there does not exist a pressing need to do so? And now that intoxication has become quite fashionable amongst the young and old alike when in the company of the opposite sex, would it also not make a perfect setting for one to transgress limits when his/her vision and level of comprehension is seriously impaired?

When laws against making lewd remarks, sexual innuendos, whistling, teasing etc. are absent, or when those demeaning practices are widely prevalent against women in public and that which has been an accepted norm, does it also not give rise to a generation of unruly and disrespectful men who may have a higher likelihood to take the abuse of women to a higher level?

In all fairness to the men and more often than not, women too need to take responsibility for rape figures to reach astronomical heights. It is no secret that when skimpily clad woman or in a two piece bikini flaunts herself, it is always another vulnerable woman living somewhere else who ends up paying the ultimate price. Reaching middle age, while I am yet to understand the rationale behind a woman’s need to wear ‘Victoria’s Secret’ thongs when at a beach or a swimming pool environment, I keep foolishly thinking that one may find it impossible to swim should their attire be of knee-length. May be it is about time I get some swimming lessons.

While I respect their freedom to choose, shouldn’t women use the same in a manner where they don’t attract unwanted attention at the same time? Shouldn’t women also be conscious of any social responsibilities… especially when living in a conservative country where it is a far cry from Ibizas and Miamis? Would it also not be sensible/practical for women to be modestly dressed when in public as against educating or expecting the entire male species to ‘look-but-not-touch’?

Giving a hypothetical example, the need for a single or for the deprived woman to attract a good man should be accepted as her universal right. And while at it, she also has the right to show her cleavage or her legs as much to net the most eligible man around. The problem starts only when the woman attracts the wrong kind of man and unknown to her initially. Had it been a case where the man was interested in her only for her physical looks and for expectations of sexual gratifications, rise it does a situation where only the fittest survives, followed by the worst.

Adding insult to injury is when ‘educated’ ladies in the advertising sector objectify female models by making them don sexually arousing attire and for insisting on suggestive poses to sell wares and services of their clients. I guess the old saying ‘nothing sells like sex’ is true after all.

It is also unfortunate that fingers are automatically pointed at the armed forces every time a rape occurs in the Northern Province. Though it is true that there did exist a culture where rape was used as a weapon by the same forces especially during the war, it just might be a positive step in the direction of reconciliation for the armed forces to voluntarily set up a date base of DNA’s of all serving personnel. Let not actions of a few damage the reputation of a heroic lot.

Furthermore, seeing over-crowded court houses filled with lecherous men every time a woman walks in raises the pressing need to have separate courts to address rape case and marital disputes etc. This may also be an encouragement for the victims to come forward.

When gang rape occurs, it may be wise for authorities to offer a US-styled plea deal and/or monetary rewards for any information that could be of assistance in the prosecution of all suspects but the informant, even if that person would have been complicit in such a crime. The society would be better off at least when the rest of the perpetrators are incarcerated for the rest of their lives. In a nation of back-stabbers, this approach can be quiet effective even when other types of crimes are committed.

Nobody gets out of this world alive… and if few ‘rotten eggs’ are destroyed so the vast majority can live free of fear and intimidation, so be it. Capital punishments are more a deterrent than a punishment itself… at least in countries where Islamic laws are the source of legislation. Religious connotations or no, history has taught us that this ‘deterrent punishments’ indeed transforms societies into law-abiding ones. Criminals are not born… they are made. Let us not have anything to do with that process.

*The writer is an independent social/political activist and can be contacted at muhammedfazl@msn.com and through FB (Fazl Muhammed Nizar)

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    This comment was removed by a moderator because it didn’t abide by our Comment policy.For more detail see our Comment policy https://www.colombotelegraph.com/index.php/comments-policy-2/

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    As I feel, the writer is a traditional islamic tribesmen. This how they are seeing the world and womens. He should be deported to a Arabic country.

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    *The writer is an independent social/political activist and can be contacted at muhammedfazl@msn.com and through FB (Fazl Muhammed Nizar)

    HAHA. What a joke. a SOCIAL and POLITICAL ACTIVIST of what exactly? Does the colombo telepgraph not really have any decency, moral or ethical responsibility? Shouldn’t this website make sure the content being published does not perpetuate the same kind of ignorance and stupidity that leads to so much violence and injustice against women and children?

    This BS does not HELP.

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    So, was the school girl in a white school uniform really asking for it? deserving of her fate?

    Even a woman walking naked on the street – has EVERY RIGHT TO WALK FREELY UNHINDERED. No, even a naked woman on the street is not asking to be raped. NO ONE EVER IS.

    Be ashamed of this BS.

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    Colombo Telegraph should be ashamed of publishing this article. The writer represents narrow minded thinking and conventional Islamic view of women. If u study rape cases most victims did not wear anything provocative. Then in Arabic countries rape should be unheard of,but v all know it’s not the case.

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    This article is damaging. To women, men and society in general.

    The author is completely delusional if he honestly believes that rape has anything to do with what a woman is wearing. This goes beyond the point that a woman has every right to wear clothing she finds comfortable for herself. Despite what you think, Muhammed, we don’t start each day by picking out clothing soley to ‘net’ a mate. That’s such a ridiculous generalisation that I don’t have the time or comment space to help you understand it’s absurdity.

    It is also an insult to the mental capacity of any man, to think a glimpse of cleavage at the beach is all it takes to flick a rape switch that makes him sexually assault another human being.

    Honestly, on a side note, I’ve seen hundreds, if not thousands, of men wandering aimlessly wearing nothing but shorts or a hitched up sarong – and as painful as it was for my eyes it didn’t spur a spree of violence. Because normal human behaviour and decency isn’t dependant on the clothing or behaviour of others. We aren’t animals. We are evolved and civilised people that think and act independently.

    The only person to blame in an act of rape is the rapist. They are the only ones who have committed a crime and they are the only ones who deserve reprehension.

    Wake up. And stop spreading your drivel.

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    Let me get this right, this article was written in 2015? Are you serious! So according to this guy, women who get raped were asking for it and it is their fault? Where did you find this person from? From under a rock where he had been for thousand years?

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    There were many things that bothered me about this article. Mainly speaking, the ignorance and horror that this is being written by a legitimized political activist who has no objective truths and insight to justifying rape. A point that I have to make here being is that women mingling with men freely does not make a fertile ground for rape. Many men mingle with women, *freely for various reasons whether it be of a personal interest,sexual, friendship etc. The freedom to mingle with anyone, is just in both sexes. It is our right, and there should be no justification needed. Men do not have any more power in mingling with a women, the same applies to women. This article seems to imply that men mingling with women instigates a certain privilege. This logic is degrading, and I speak this for myself and the millions of women across the world. There is no fertile grounds for rape at all! Being intoxicated does not justify the act, neither does dressing immodestly. Change will come when men learn to respect women as women. No, women are not the weaker sex for maybe if it were so they’d be raping all the men out there whom they view as attractive. No human being has the right to degrade, misuse and abuse another individual, period. And hence I find no reason to justify the acts of a rapist. Maybe psychological ailments were present, but that is something a professional psychologist/psychiatrist has to look into. Poverty and lack of education are no grounds for raping! There is something called the consciousness and this is what every person has in order to reason a good act/thought from wrong. I am sure the perpetrator is clearly aware that they are hurting somebody when performing the act. Where is the sense in this? If someone has a psychological impairment such as a dysfunction in the brain disabling them to make correct decisions or a mental health issue this may be a contributing problem. The big newsflash is that I view a large scale problem on the whole, is mental health. There is not enough mental health awareness, campaigns educating our youth, middle aged and elderly of early mental health prevention. Such obsessional thinking as a result of watching too much pornography can be related to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in such that individuals become obsessed and fantasy on the subject alone. This psychological disorder can be paired with frustrations in life including sexual dysfunction etc. And as you’ve mentioned issues such as infidelity, the stigmatized view for men to be manly in displaying their machoness to women which is overly displayed in the media. Men need to respect women. If they can respect their mother’s, sister’s and daughters they should be able to show the same respect to a stranger whether known or unknown. The writer asking for women to take responsibility for rape is asking her to take responsibility for something she is unprepared or has knowledge of. Would you be able to take responsibility for your death that would occur in moments, hours? Does anyone know when they will die? No one. We live in an overly sexed culture that is ever fading of love. What seems to be the regular is the misuse of each other as individuals. Aswell, the suggestion to place separate courts to address rape issues will not solve the matter. Everyone has the right to be informed regarding important matters, and therefore citizens must be civil, act civil if they want a reformed law abiding society as this requires the obedience and cooperation of all as a whole.

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    This article is a shame for this whole plattform.

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    This articel so wrong in many levels. I can’t believe a public platform such as this this would actually spread such extreme religious views.

    This is clearly spreading islamic religious views on women and rape. Only thing the writer avoid saying is that women should be publicly whipped and and punished for getting raped.

    Shame on Colombo telegraph for publishing such degrading content.

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