9 August, 2020

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Nepotism: It’s All Relative

By Arjuna Seneviratne –

Arjuna Seneviratne

The last time I had to visit a police station to sort out a problem with my driving license, I called up my uncle, a retired ASP who called up the OIC who talked to the sergeant who frowned at the PC who got off his butt instantly and solved my problem without my having to even go to the cop shed. Recently, when a friend was in the GH-ICU,  my wife got her student’s mother who was a doctor at the place to give us hourly bulletins that were far better than any we would have received if we had sat down to high tea with the attending surgeon. Easy. Simple. And who needs to navigate that little known and less understood monster generally known as “staying in line”? Why, for crying out loud, engage in a fruitless and time consuming activity when we can just jump the queue and have done with it?

Regardless of the type of bureaucratic process involved, Sri Lankans, as a nation, bypass due process as a matter of course. In fact, due process is the last and least preferred modality of engagement when dealing with any kind of societal process that can be even slightly resistive.  Whether it is obtaining a bank loan, getting an approval for our plans for a house, getting out of paying a traffic fine, springing a buddy out of jail, seizing state land for development, getting a contract, choosing a person to manage some area of a business… all of us, without exception, have thought, said or done things similar to the following:

“Ikram is a high up in that place isn’t he?”

“Speak to uncle Para putha, he will get the paperwork sorted out at the ministry for us”

“Maybe their technical track record is better than ours but the chairman is married to Avanthi’s sister no? Avanthi men? Sene’s daughter? Remember? I helped her get a good college in America? Contract is ours. Not to worry…just one phone call”

“No no, not Senthil. Who is this fellow and whose is he? That’s what I want to know. I don’t trust him. Some bloody outsider. So he is qualified so what? He will sell us out mark my words. Better put our Pali’s brother in that position”

“Don’t try to bribe the bugger machan he will kick your proposal into the dustbin but send him four lorry loads of sand, he is building his house and he would like that. Trust me. Done deal.”

“Damn in! He got the inside track because his buddies were more powerful than our buddies”

Bypassing due-process to unfairly leverage position, networks and physical resources for personal gain is ingrained in the very core of our national psyche and, measured against this broadest possible definition of the word “corruption”, we are, as a collective, as a citizenry, corrupt. Not just one or two, most of us. Some do it out of choice, some do it because they see no other choice, some don’t think twice about it. Regardless of the reason why we do it, none, but none, actually see anything wrong with it. Regardless of the level of empowerment and regardless of our specific social stratums, this is what we do. This is the way we engage society. This is the norm.  This? Is Sri Lanka!

So, why are we, in the majority, prancing about like cats on hot coals, lambasting everything from the beautification of Colombo to the new highway to Kandy, pointing fingers at everyone from “the family” to the bureaucracy to the army to the clergy and shrieking “corruption..nn..nnn..nnnnnn….” in a cacophony of noise worse than an entire battalion of screwing felines?  Why do we rattle our teeth loose gnashing them together at the unfairness of it all? Why do we pour vitriol and scorn on every single man jack we perceive to be aligned with systemic corruption? Why do we air our hatred at such things as nepotism or internal circles of trust? Why, in a nutshell, are we pointing an accusing finger at any and all when three fingers are pointing back at us?

Two words. Alignment. Inequity. A lot of us are wrongly aligned and a lot of us are unfairly prevented from unfairly bypassing due process. Basically, we called the wrong people “friends” and we are reaping the non-benefits of that heinous crime. I am amused at the incongruity of it all. When we scream in anger, howl we don’t at corruption per se but yowl we do at the lack of opportunity for our own circles of trust to engage in the same thing. When we claw the walls in frustration, we don’t rake the infrastructure only because of  the thought that the friends and family of the rightly aligned are making a lot of hay, but rather, because we bake in our own misery at the thought that our friends and family are living fringe existences because of our bad choices in alignment.

People look silly when they do such things. Regardless of the millions of “righteous” excuses that people may give themselves and the world. “Righteousness” and “fairness” in our type of society are slogans only for those whose ability to be unrighteous and inequitable has been either curbed or cauterized. Transparency and accountability are useless lenses for us when they are subsumed and micronized by the lens of corruption. If nothing else, then the litany of thirty five years of reneged election promises of successive politicians of every size, shape, color and agenda, the murderous desire of small men to obtain power at all costs and the drooling madness of citizens killing each other over ideologies that trigger emotion over circumspection should prove this.

This is the age of street-smart political agendas where it is not the most law abiding driver but rather the largest bus that gets the right of way. This is the age of humungous busses mostly plying routes to either ethnicville or religiocity. This is the age where circles of trust are only as valid as their goodness-of-fit for a particular self serving purpose and the safest option is to use the most powerful vehicle that can serve that purpose. If one is fair or righteous or both, one doesn’t hop on any of those busses be they big or small, destructive or vulnerable for all of them are moving down the same iffy passage to doom.

Rather, one gets the heck off of the darned street.

That way, one is not responsible for the carnage created by a runaway juggernaut.  That way, one would see alignment and inequity against their proper framework of reference and perhaps, even continue to use them as one has always done without attempting to second guess the impact of others using the same process on a bigger stage for a larger audience. That way, one would have made a very right move, that way one would have made a very fair move, that way one would have made a very wise move. However, make no mistake, that way one would not have made a very smart move.

Me? I’ve never voted for anyone in my entire life so, for whatever time I have left on earth, I can duly lay myself down to a relatively calmer sleep, processing out the tiredness that I bring upon myself by pointing my own misbegotten index finger at anyone, at everyone, and cackling insanely at the insanity of the “average Sri Lankan citizen”.

*Other articles by the same author can be found at arjunareflections.blogspo.co.uk 

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    Absolutely true. We are all hypocrites (or as the Bible says) ‘whited sepulchres’!

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      Excuse me.
      don’t put us inside you “we” gang of corrupt hypocrites.

      We (and most of Sri Lankans) are law abiding citizens. and does not belong to gang hypocrites. -:)

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    Mr. Arjuna Seneviratne:

    You are trying to be a Journalist. But, you lose it.

    Think what you can do with your writingskills, if you think that you are a writer.

    Malinda Seneviratne, your brother, is not either an outstanding one.

    So, you have to look for your nitche ?

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      Jim, sorry friend. I am not trying to be anything at all. I say it as I see it. Most of my pieces are blog posts which I have found is a good medium to express without too much “academese” the outcome of both my experience of situations and my research. Take a look at yourself and see if what in expressed in this post is true or not. Don’t look at it in terms of the particular axes you have to grind. :)

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        Arjuna:

        I don’t know both of you personally.

        So, what is the Axe that I have to grind with you people ?

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          Jim… oh I don’t think I (we?) are your axes at all :)

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    Arjuna,

    Congratulations on a very insightful and thought provoking essay. Indeed, nothing moves nothing without the right connections. Its almost as basic as water and air!

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    /* I am amused at the incongruity of it all. When we scream in anger, howl we don’t at corruption per se but yowl we do at the lack of opportunity for our own circles of trust to engage in the same thing. */

    ERrrrr !

    You must be preaching Rajapaksism. -:)
    Why don’t you try to give a fair chance for the system to work ?

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      Here is a little research tidbit you might be interested in friend. Over the last 36 years, the total percentage of unfair acquisition (i.e. people unfairly raking off either fiscal or natural resources earmarked for the collective citizenry)has remained constant at approximately 27-29% of total availables. The national psyche that defaults to bypassing due process has been in place from 20 years before that.

      The post is not about a particular political regime. It is about a pervasive, systemic aberration to which, we all have, in greater or smaller degree, subscribed at least once in our lives :) I am not saying that this system doesn’t work. Rather, I am saying that I will not subscribe to it in any way :)

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        /* The last time I had to visit a police station to sort out a problem with my driving license, I called up my uncle, a retired ASP who called up the OIC who talked to the sergeant who frowned at the PC who got off his butt instantly and solved my problem without my having to even go to the cop shed. */

        Arjuna,

        you missed my point my freind… -:)

        imagine a poor village folk who don’t have any connection to politicians or police hierarchy faced with similar situation as you.

        what should he do to get his problem solved ?
        Should the system cover a process to so that he can follow it to get it resolved.

        Does he need to have a retired ASP relative or politician known to him?

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    Did not you see that, there???.

    Malinda S Is looking at you with raised eyes , with the Mahinda R clan.

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    ” mother who was a doctor at the place to give us hourly bulletins “

    Giving medical details to someone other than the next of kin ? Ethical ?

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    I agree. Sri Lankans are a strange kind. In a good way and an annoying way.you appreciate it more when u live out side the country-.

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    Garbage. Racism is bigger political business in SL than nepotism. That’s how TAMIL National Alliance won election.

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    An admirably written anecdotal analysis of the bitter reality of corruption and nepotism in Sri Lanka, Arjuna. Thanks to FB and MoM I read it, albeit several years after you wrote it. Best wishes, Lasantha

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